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04-03-2015, 01:36 PM
I'm currently in an LTR with a girl whom I see myself having a future with. However, as of October, it'll change to an LDR until the end of next May, with the exception of seeing each other Friday-Sunday and with two months off where we'll spend most of the time together.
She's beginning a (from what I gather) pretty intense teacher training course at a university that she'll have to spend a couple of hours each day commuting too from her parents' house (who are strictly religious). She also seems to have pretty good morals with regards to promiscuity.
Will this work or am I deluding myself?
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04-03-2015, 01:46 PM
No one knows because we don't know you at all, who you are, your age or experience, your expectations for a relationship.
How often do you see her now? I'd say seeing your girl 3 days a week is a full-fledged, real girlfriend. I wouldn't go more than that if she lived in the same town as me.
For instance, for me, I'd totally keep her around to fuck weekend or two then keep playing on the side. I actually have a buddy who did this sorta when his gf was in college and he ended up marrying her (like 6 yrs later).
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04-03-2015, 02:15 PM
It can work, but its going to be hard. Is it worth it and is it the kind of relationship you want?
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04-03-2015, 02:28 PM
You must really like this one. You are still young so don't take her too serious, shit changes trust me. What does she want?
Regardless of what you do, continue to maintain your game at the highest level possible incase shit back fires or she starts changing in you. Remember: you control the situation
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04-03-2015, 02:37 PM
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04-03-2015, 02:46 PM
I see no problem if you still plow forward on the weekdays, and she is an emergency lifeline lay. A plus if she sends nudes spontaneously on the weekdays. Just keep her as a contingency plan and always assume she is getting side dick.
It would help to know what type of teacher she wants to be. I'm talking to a Persian girl right now who teaches second grade, sweeter than sweet potatoes with brown sugar and butter. If university, be cautious.
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04-03-2015, 05:24 PM
First of all you are 20. Go read Rational Male 1 and 2. Then some Heartiste.
Then yes - a LDR as you described works perfectly well. You run Game from Monday to Thursday fucking other girls and then her on weekends. She has to remain monogamous while you get the highly coveted experience that girls prefer in men.
But you are still young - you don't have to rush things. Such a LDR with you banging other chicks while she is away actually works pretty well and most men could live for decades together with a woman like that. So I would say - go for it!
As a matter of fact tell her to keep it that way for the next decades.
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04-03-2015, 09:57 PM
95% of dieters fail. She's going to be exposed to a lot of men with lots of time to talk to them and get interested.
You're saying "you're going traveling together in May of next year.." that's 13 months, you sound like you accept it's reality. You both will have changed a LOT at your ages, I wouldn't think of it as something that will definitely happen.
Bad outcome scenaro-- You should be ready for her to flake at any week, you'll believe her excuses at first, when she's sure of the next branch she'll explain "she met someone" but won't tell you it was four months before.
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04-03-2015, 10:15 PM
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04-03-2015, 10:28 PM
Is this really the RVF?
Can it work? yes
Should you bother? No.
It's not like you're a 30 year old man who has a ton of life experience and knows that this girl is worth sticking with. You can do better than a 7+ who is ten pounds overweight.
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04-04-2015, 12:42 AM
"Amor de lejos, Amor de pendejos" -Sonsowey
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Amor de lejos, felices los cuatro.
Also I dunno why you say you can't use condoms. I know they hinder the experience, but they are neccesary for your own peace of mind. Reduced sensitivity? Stop masturbating. Allergic to latex? Get some Lifestyles Skyn (polyisoprene condoms) or Trojan Supra boxes. Can't get it up? Well, kegels or quit porn.
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04-04-2015, 03:39 PM
The question I'm asking is, if you see her 3 days out of the week, is it *really* a long distance relationship?
I'm not sure that i'd want to spend more time around my gf than that.
When I think of a LDR, I think for instance she studies in france while you stay in the states and you remain (foolishly) comitted to each other. OP's situation doesn't really strike me as a typical LDR.
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04-04-2015, 10:04 PM
This could be a good experience. See her, bang chicks on the side. Above all, keep your options open, and don't have High expectations. Women are capricious by nature.
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04-05-2015, 01:07 PM
Seems like a perfect set up to me, especially if you want to see other girls.