Obsession
1) obsessed with a chick you haven't banged, the dude creates fantasies of how she'll be the mother of his children and make the sun shine
That's lack of experience with women.
It's called the Halo Effect by psychologists, but this girl can do no wrong because of how you see her.
At the intermediate level, this moves a bit, in that girls that are SUPER ATTRACTIVE suddenly become "quality" girls that you need your "A" game for. Same Halo Effect, but less because of your experience.
Thing is that she did NOTHING. She was just going about her day, and the guy puts meaning on a chick where it shouldn't be
2) Obsessed with a girl that broke up with you
Again this chick could do no wrong, yet somehow you fucked it up. If only you could learn game, or had tighter game.
This is also a function of how your mind works, not how good her "game" is.
Dudes get into situations with chicks they find attractive and pleasing and ignore all the worse shit. After that first bang, and she starts showing her true self, some of the not so positive things come out - or in some cases she's not the person before the bang, not even a person you could fathom.
In any event you fall for a chick like this because
- she's cute
- you've banged, and the sex was adequate enough
- she's cool to be around
Her nature as a female has her asking you to do things, small things, and then large things.
This is her "game", but it's not some conscious plot.
Her game is not even like an intermediate/advanced player who has internalized the world view/mindset, behaviors and verbal skills.
It's more "how the world works" from her perspective, because from the second she got out the womb to right now, she asks for shit and she gets it. Especially from men.
Thing is when people get you to do things for them, you actually like them more. When people do things for you, you tend to like them less. Maybe not with women, but the "plucky" kid that's always hanging around your crew trying to help you with a heist is more annoying than endearing. Artist often, secretly, hate their fans. Business men have contempt for their customers. Politicians hate the voters. They never say this in public, but there's a predatory relationship disguised as a partnership, or "we're all in this together".
That's why getting compliance, getting a girl to do things, leadership, and finally power are so attractive to women. It's because power is attractive to ALL.
So in a typical relationship for a regular dude, or the 1st LTR with a hot chick for a player - you feel like that chick is the "one" - he's on the bad end of the power relationship. He's loving it, but unless he's got a similar hold over the chick, she's starting to find him predictable.
So when she leaves him, her natural behavior turned him into a slave, and he misses his collar and chains.
3) Player's obsession
This isn't the one that got away, but the chick at the club you're just dying to bang at all costs. And more often than not, she's not the finest chick you've ever seen, but she's the one that teased you the most, or played hard to get.
This one is about EGO. Fucking her will stroke the player's ego. Much more than an easier to get hottie, this tough nut is the sort of thing they make movies about.
Having finally banged some of my obsessions - believe me the anticipation and pursuit were better than the bang.
A chick gets a player on tilt like this consciously. It's just a game of keep away. So if a girl offers and retracts, the player must recognize what it is.
Overall
In all cases of Obsession, it's rarely about the Woman's game. Women have tons of game. Women are born and raised to be red pill. Let's not get it twisted. They have their own needs, wants, and desires.
Knowing her moves, mindset, psychology, and behavior and how to counter them - i.e. Game - is not really the root of obsession.
It's a player's own mentality that's the root.
With the typical beta, "she's the one" - the dude doesn't have his thirst in check.
With the "one that got away" - dude thinks the chick was different from all the rest, when really it was him acting differently with her than he has with others.
With the "one that won't shut the fuck up" - Dude can't control his ego.
I reminisce on all three.
1) I can see her now. I could possibly call her. There was a point at which....but now that I think about that chick - she's damaged as fuck.
2) Looking back on it, the things that I liked about her, I've found in other chicks. And her effect on me, to make me a stronger version of myself, is actually something I just didn't see in myself. This dime piece that everyone wants thinks i'm the shit. Only to lose my G, then lose her...and then find out I'm the Shit to a lot of bitches.
3) She's the one - super rich chick, never had a job, total bitch. I know I could get her, at some point....just how much game would I need for it? I know the caliber of dudes she bangs, and my only equalizer is my mouth piece. I know I can incite a little bit of larceny in her heart. Ego stroke to the max.
But I've banged the "hottest bitch" I've ever seen a half dozen times now. Banging her, breaking her, would really do nothing for me in the long term.
WIA
Quote: (03-27-2015 06:04 PM)younggamer1992 Wrote:
Either pregame or even after you discovered game, there's bound to be that one woman who made you fall when you weren't expecting it. Knowing what you know about game, in retrospect, how did she game you? Were there warning signs? Was it gradual or sudden? How will you avoid this in the future?
And don't say "ill avoid it by never getting in any sort of meaningful relationship with a woman" because a lot of us want a meaningful relationship, but we need to be aware of how women game us into the sad state of oneitus and then hang us out to dry.
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