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Ok,I see your point and agree about not asking questions,but when it comes to invite to a first date,How would you do it?
I thought that "How r you doing,do you want to go out later in the week" was ok.
I feel that my logic ESPECIALLY applies to text game. First, I am NOT a fan of kicking game via texting. Other guys might be, and they might be more authoritative on this subject. The only success that I have ever had, cold gaming from text alone, is when I was very direct.
All of the body language, tone of voice, visual attraction, and in-person humor to relax her is 100% MISSING from text game. The only thing you have to emotionally convince her (remember, women have very little emotional memory - you generally have to renew the charm each time) is cold hard text on a cold hard screen. Its very, very easy for her to reject that or no longer feel the emotional connection that you before shared, especially if you hadn't locked it down as well as you thought you had the first time. So, trying to lock down a date via text is very risky, imo. No matter how you approach it.
So, lets agree that texting is not ideal. And you got rejected with your technique. Hell, you didn't even get a response. Im not saying that my technique will get her to show up, but I think that if she before wanted a date then she'll show, and if she was luke warm about you before then it might intrigue her.
I would've said something like:
"Meet me for drinks at XYZ on saturday".
or
"I'm going to be having drinks at xyz on Saturday, and I want you to meet me."
Then, if she says ok, you can firm up her resolution to do so by saying something like "Promise?" for a sales technique type of close. But you got the agreement through a command first.
She can still reject you, but its psychologically harder for a female to do that because its a command and the phrasing is a little more attractive. You just want to give her that sleight tingle in her vagina. Thats what its all about. That vagina tingle. Questions will never give women that tingle. She will reject you if she wants, but at least you are being a leader and she won't reject you solely because the phrasing is weak (if she is somewhat unclear about your masculinity / attractiveness at this point).
Also, guys have to use the search function more. This has all been written about before in great detail.