Hi guys,
So I'm a beginner and wanted to record here my progress daily/weekly/monthly, especially for my own personal reference (too much info out on the web, and it's easy to lose perspective on my own journey), but also if others have specific advice/comments/criticisms for me, I'd be happy to hear them.
@mods - i hope such threads are ok? if it's inappropriate let me know and maybe I can move it elsewhere.
Background -
I'm 25y old, live in Paris, have a good job, travel frequently, been with 2-3 women in the past, and have a few very good friends. Nothing really to complain about. But nothing extraordinary either.
5y ago, I was extremely introverted, and made a conscious effort to become more social. This was before I knew anything about women and gaming.
Today I'm an average social guy, but still by no means extroverted. I've realised I'm still very shy among women, especially women in groups (of men or even other women). This has affected me in 3 ways - I don't get the woman I want, limits my professional ambitions, and leaves me with a general feeling of unhappiness 20-25% of my day everyday.
long-term goals (6 months) -
1/ be happy 100% of the time, embrace who I am
2/ get to a basic level of extrovertedness where I enjoy talking to anyone (guys or girls) anytime, anywhere voluntarily, and not with an agenda in mind
3/ achieve a change in mindset from thinking of conversations/socialising in a logical way to a more emotional way
4/ build a wider repertoire of friends in paris (preferably more women than men)
5/ appreciate all the cool/creative/interesting things I do in life and nurture them to genuinely be a high-value individual
6/ reduce my need for alone time
7/ finally, get laid lots!
My journey -
Day 1 -
Goals for the day : no real goals, 1st day, just go out and have fun.
Let's call today day 1. It's friday night. I just met up another friend from the community and we hit some bars near Republique/Bastille. I wasn't really feeling great not having slept last night and only had a 3h nap this evening. Ended up drinking alcohol to get me in the mood (I usually try not to drink and don't smoke).
I made 5 approaches overall. All were disastrous, getting blown out in the first 10 sec, except one. The highlight was the one approach I made to a group of 5 women (work colleagues as I learnt). They were responsive for a while and then they all left the club (not because of me, I swear!) My buddy approached much more than me. All good practice, though it was a tough night overall.
So I'm a beginner and wanted to record here my progress daily/weekly/monthly, especially for my own personal reference (too much info out on the web, and it's easy to lose perspective on my own journey), but also if others have specific advice/comments/criticisms for me, I'd be happy to hear them.
@mods - i hope such threads are ok? if it's inappropriate let me know and maybe I can move it elsewhere.
Background -
I'm 25y old, live in Paris, have a good job, travel frequently, been with 2-3 women in the past, and have a few very good friends. Nothing really to complain about. But nothing extraordinary either.
5y ago, I was extremely introverted, and made a conscious effort to become more social. This was before I knew anything about women and gaming.
Today I'm an average social guy, but still by no means extroverted. I've realised I'm still very shy among women, especially women in groups (of men or even other women). This has affected me in 3 ways - I don't get the woman I want, limits my professional ambitions, and leaves me with a general feeling of unhappiness 20-25% of my day everyday.
long-term goals (6 months) -
1/ be happy 100% of the time, embrace who I am
2/ get to a basic level of extrovertedness where I enjoy talking to anyone (guys or girls) anytime, anywhere voluntarily, and not with an agenda in mind
3/ achieve a change in mindset from thinking of conversations/socialising in a logical way to a more emotional way
4/ build a wider repertoire of friends in paris (preferably more women than men)
5/ appreciate all the cool/creative/interesting things I do in life and nurture them to genuinely be a high-value individual
6/ reduce my need for alone time
7/ finally, get laid lots!
My journey -
Day 1 -
Goals for the day : no real goals, 1st day, just go out and have fun.
Let's call today day 1. It's friday night. I just met up another friend from the community and we hit some bars near Republique/Bastille. I wasn't really feeling great not having slept last night and only had a 3h nap this evening. Ended up drinking alcohol to get me in the mood (I usually try not to drink and don't smoke).
I made 5 approaches overall. All were disastrous, getting blown out in the first 10 sec, except one. The highlight was the one approach I made to a group of 5 women (work colleagues as I learnt). They were responsive for a while and then they all left the club (not because of me, I swear!) My buddy approached much more than me. All good practice, though it was a tough night overall.