Quote: (02-21-2015 08:56 AM)vorenus Wrote:
Quote: (02-20-2015 10:08 PM)Switch Wrote:
Make friends
That's not easy at all at 35 years old...
Man, no offense but you're fucking killing me here with this nonsense.
Are you reading your own writing right now? Do you realize how ridiculous that sentence comes across?
That right there is a cold case example of a limiting belief. Or being caught up in the emotions of your present situation and projecting it as everyone's experience.
Either way, I assure you that I've met 60-year-olds who run circles around me in the friend-making department (I'll bet you have too).
Stop making excuses for your shortcomings and instead seek out ways to change them or compensate for them.
Posting here was a good start, so I don't mean to dissuade you, but c'mon, Man. 35 is most certainly not even close to old and even if it was, this friend thing is just out there.
I have been in your situation before; I'm just trying to offer some perspective because you're blowing it up into something it's not, as us humans tend to do sometimes.
Do you want to take advantage of your location independence to move to a more ideal location? That
may solve your problem. But you could just as easily decide to dig some roots in right where you're at and start building a social circle there.
Either way,
make a decision so you know how to proceed (it's not like you can't change it later on).
Personally, if I had a healthy location-independent income that could take me anywhere and no current social circle
tying me down to a particular spot, I would choose the place that attracted me most (probably with a beach!) and build my home base/social circle there.
You can do ANYTHING Man. Get excited about something. Go try something on for size and see what happens. Preferably with a social life already built into it and boom you killed two birds with one stone.
EDIT: I just caught on to this just being a hypothetical for you. My bad.
But my input still stands.
I've actually faced this situation before. It can get rocky but if a guy maintains perspective, there's always a way to start over somewhere new.
Beyond All Seas
"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling