I have run into a lot of problems with texting here in the Phils. This post is rather specific to countries where English is not the native language, and therefore texts are very prone to misunderstading, doomed to misunderstanding, actually.
There have been at least three or four girls where I was regularly fucking them and they start doing "shit tests", or displaying insecurity via text.
What's partly my fault is I let it get to me and just tell them to leave me alone. But what's not my fault is noticing the messages and it eats my time, time that would be better spent cold opening.
I know an easy answer is not to answer their texts at all but that seems to cause other shitstorms with them, they have a presumption texts will be answered and escalate when I don't answer.
I even tried with my last one telling her "no texting when we're not together. I am only into real life meetings."
Sure enough ( Filipinos do not remember longer than one or two days what they say) she started texting me about finding out my real name , trying to get me come meet her family, all stuff I have no interest in until and unless she's proven non-flaky for three months or more. Interestingly "flake" and "flaky" are adjectives that are not known to most Filipinos. It's because almost all of them are.
You can see the results below, she stuck to it for a couple days then started shit testing. The rest of the unpleasant conversation is not pictured, but she simply started being accusatory because I wouldn't respond, and I finished it off by telling her to look for someone else and blocked her.
We really got on well in person which is the disappointing part. I think she had a suspicious sister (who depended on my girl for free child care) who got her started "You don't even know his NAME?!" Surprise, surprise. I have met a couple unmarried girls who are basically house servants for a dominant sister which is a whole other story.
Testing just tends to turn negative because people, especially non-native English speakers tend to misinterpret things negatively, and clarifying doesn't work because they misinterpret that too, and it you end up wasting hours alienating someone you got along with fine in person!
I'm going to try right from arranging the first meeting saying "I have texting disabled on my phone because I am only interested in real life meetings. If you want to talk, call and hang up and I'll call you back or we can have scheduled calls. They are so unbelievably flaky I'm going to make them sign a contract and keep it so there's no later discussion.
I know it's extreme, but it is fucking poison with these insecure girls who read everything wrong and just whine and whine and whine no matter what I say.
The only alternative I can think of is saying idiotic soothing things like "Everything will be fine."
"Don't worry it will work out when I see you."
"I see what you're saying."
"Maybe you're right"
And just have enough of a library of non-statements (called "fogging") to continue indefinitely saying nothing.
But it wastes SO MUCH FUCKING TIME... I've wasted hours with chicks texting and it turned out they flake and it is SO pointless.
Maybe it would be better to lie and say there's something wrong with my text program. I could even send them a few gibberish texts of non-ascii characters and then when I talk to them say "Oh I wish I could fix that I don't like texting much anyway."
That would avoid the philosophical discussion which = more wasted time.
There have been at least three or four girls where I was regularly fucking them and they start doing "shit tests", or displaying insecurity via text.
What's partly my fault is I let it get to me and just tell them to leave me alone. But what's not my fault is noticing the messages and it eats my time, time that would be better spent cold opening.
I know an easy answer is not to answer their texts at all but that seems to cause other shitstorms with them, they have a presumption texts will be answered and escalate when I don't answer.
I even tried with my last one telling her "no texting when we're not together. I am only into real life meetings."
Sure enough ( Filipinos do not remember longer than one or two days what they say) she started texting me about finding out my real name , trying to get me come meet her family, all stuff I have no interest in until and unless she's proven non-flaky for three months or more. Interestingly "flake" and "flaky" are adjectives that are not known to most Filipinos. It's because almost all of them are.
You can see the results below, she stuck to it for a couple days then started shit testing. The rest of the unpleasant conversation is not pictured, but she simply started being accusatory because I wouldn't respond, and I finished it off by telling her to look for someone else and blocked her.
We really got on well in person which is the disappointing part. I think she had a suspicious sister (who depended on my girl for free child care) who got her started "You don't even know his NAME?!" Surprise, surprise. I have met a couple unmarried girls who are basically house servants for a dominant sister which is a whole other story.
Testing just tends to turn negative because people, especially non-native English speakers tend to misinterpret things negatively, and clarifying doesn't work because they misinterpret that too, and it you end up wasting hours alienating someone you got along with fine in person!
I'm going to try right from arranging the first meeting saying "I have texting disabled on my phone because I am only interested in real life meetings. If you want to talk, call and hang up and I'll call you back or we can have scheduled calls. They are so unbelievably flaky I'm going to make them sign a contract and keep it so there's no later discussion.
I know it's extreme, but it is fucking poison with these insecure girls who read everything wrong and just whine and whine and whine no matter what I say.
The only alternative I can think of is saying idiotic soothing things like "Everything will be fine."
"Don't worry it will work out when I see you."
"I see what you're saying."
"Maybe you're right"
And just have enough of a library of non-statements (called "fogging") to continue indefinitely saying nothing.
But it wastes SO MUCH FUCKING TIME... I've wasted hours with chicks texting and it turned out they flake and it is SO pointless.
Maybe it would be better to lie and say there's something wrong with my text program. I could even send them a few gibberish texts of non-ascii characters and then when I talk to them say "Oh I wish I could fix that I don't like texting much anyway."
That would avoid the philosophical discussion which = more wasted time.
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