One of my biggest weakness in game is building comfort before getting the close. I've received feedback from women after an LMR that they like me but they won't sleep with me yet because they're not as comfortable. It was so bad I was hearing this even from girls half-naked in my bed.
I've been trying hard to fix the problem, so last night when I was out on a second date with this 28 year old blonde girl from AZ I began trying a different approach.
I bring her to a food truck two blocks outside of my apartment, and since it was really cold I asked her to come over to my place instead to eat. She doesn't hesitate. Logistics planning is great.
Soon after we finish eating, I turn off the TV and I sit on the carpet floor between my couch and my TV. She sits next to me. We start talking and while I'm really good at flirting, witty conversations and making people laugh, this time I decided to focus less on that and build more comfort, a much more serious interpersonal connection.
I came up with a line that was a hit, I asked "on a scale from 1-10, how happy are you with your life right now?" She starts talking and doesn't stop. She's telling me her life story, secrets, dreams and everything else in between. Needless to say, an hour and a half later she is in my bed naked and gave no LMR resistance whatsoever
My question is, how do you guys here build comfort? Do you think it is necessary to have this kind of emotional heart to heart conversations with a woman before the bang, or do you know of any of comfort builders I could use?
How long does your comfort building typically last? There are parts where she talks about her stupid job and her silly problems and that's just shit I don't want to hear.
I'm not as good as this yet as I want to, so I may have to need some canned openers to warm a hamster up.
I've been trying hard to fix the problem, so last night when I was out on a second date with this 28 year old blonde girl from AZ I began trying a different approach.
I bring her to a food truck two blocks outside of my apartment, and since it was really cold I asked her to come over to my place instead to eat. She doesn't hesitate. Logistics planning is great.
Soon after we finish eating, I turn off the TV and I sit on the carpet floor between my couch and my TV. She sits next to me. We start talking and while I'm really good at flirting, witty conversations and making people laugh, this time I decided to focus less on that and build more comfort, a much more serious interpersonal connection.
I came up with a line that was a hit, I asked "on a scale from 1-10, how happy are you with your life right now?" She starts talking and doesn't stop. She's telling me her life story, secrets, dreams and everything else in between. Needless to say, an hour and a half later she is in my bed naked and gave no LMR resistance whatsoever
My question is, how do you guys here build comfort? Do you think it is necessary to have this kind of emotional heart to heart conversations with a woman before the bang, or do you know of any of comfort builders I could use?
How long does your comfort building typically last? There are parts where she talks about her stupid job and her silly problems and that's just shit I don't want to hear.
I'm not as good as this yet as I want to, so I may have to need some canned openers to warm a hamster up.