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02-04-2015, 11:25 AM
This is tangentially related to "game" but since it involves male-female interactions I thought I should ask it here.
Here's something I'm wondering... Even if there's no sexual angle, is being polite to girls just "wrong"? It seems like they have no respect for that.
Do you have to "always be gaming"?
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02-04-2015, 12:17 PM
Not sure If I follow.
Examples? Scenarios?
I no longer volunteer to help a woman blindly.
ex. I don't fix computers for my female co-workers.
Ex. I don't lift heavy things, or help lift heavy things.
But if a mother is inattentive, I haven't let her toddler walk into a busy parking lot.
Rewind to a decade ago, I used to jump into the middle of fights and domestic disputes. Lol at doing that now.
As for the always be "gaming" ugh...once you have game you don't really turn back. You're not always working an angle, but you definitely see them. When I don't act on my instincts, I usually feel bad about it.
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02-04-2015, 12:23 PM
Be "polite" purely to maintain a level of professionalism.
If your career does not require you to maintain any professionalism / reputation, then do whatever the fuck you want.
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02-04-2015, 12:33 PM
It's easy, don't treat any woman differently than you would a male friend unless you're banging her or interested in banging her. Even then, you shouldn't be bending over backwards doing her favors.
An example: A female friend that I have no interest in banging asked if she could crash at my place one night. I say sure, no problem, there's a couch for you to sleep on. Then she asked why can't we share a bed. Told her that I wouldn't be sharing a bed with a male friend if there was an empty couch in the living room, so that's her only option and it's no different for her. She gave me the whole "but I'm a girl" shtick but I didn't budge.
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02-04-2015, 01:07 PM
I believe in being polite to everyone, BUT I don't go out of my way for women. Her vagina isn't made of gold, so I don't treat her as though it is. I will hold the door for others, but that's just me being considerate and amiable. I don't think holding the door for a woman makes me chivalric or anything. Often times I'll hold the door, they'll go in and then they'll hold the secondary door for me. I just see it as a matter of manners and class.
This does remind me of something that happened once at the gym:
This little kid is holding the door for his mom and waited for me to come up and even held the door for me; I look down and give him a high five. He runs through the door after me and lets the door slam in this girl's face.
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02-04-2015, 01:07 PM
There is nothing wrong with being polite. It's the mark of civility and culture. I've been to plenty of parties full of women who are not my cup of tea either physically or by virtue of their personality. I was still polite and spoke to them normally.
The real separation is what you do with your time viz a vis women you don't find attractive. As others have said, as long as you treat them like men, it's all good.
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02-04-2015, 03:42 PM
Quote: (02-04-2015 01:07 PM)Menace Wrote:
There is nothing wrong with being polite. It's the mark of civility and culture. I've been to plenty of parties full of women who are not my cup of tea either physically or by virtue of their personality. I was still polite and spoke to them normally.
The real separation is what you do with your time viz a vis women you don't find attractive. As others have said, as long as you treat them like men, it's all good.
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02-05-2015, 01:18 PM
Politeness is really just social etiquette...it has nothing to do with gaming at all.
You don't have to act like some girls butler...or her puppy dog. However that doesn't
mean you can't do genuinely nice things (occasionally) for girls that you like...as long as it's on your terms.
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02-05-2015, 01:37 PM
Being polite is rarely a mistake.
Like Menace stated...
"Culture" depends on treating other people with class and "civility".
This is what separates us from animals, barbarians, savages, and the uncivilized.
I believe manners are very important.
The way we treat people is directly related to the advancement or destruction of our culture.
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02-05-2015, 01:54 PM
I think American girls see polite behavior as weak. So the answer is yes
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02-06-2015, 08:12 AM
Related to this post
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"However so-called good manners that most mothers raise their sons to adopt insofar as how to treat females have more to do with how a mother wants her son to treat HER, as she is the primary female in her boy's life.
She does not want her son to have a sexual relationship with her, but instead wants him to respect her above all else, to seek her approval, to be polite, to apologize, to explain his behavior, adapt to her commands, follow her lead, and do as he is told."
page 91 - of The Manual - What Women Want and How to Give It To Them - W. Anton
He goes on to say
"This submissive behavior a mother wants...is the opposite of sexually attractive...thus when boys grow up and apply these "good manners" with women they want to have sexual relationship with, those women are repulsed.
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02-06-2015, 10:04 AM
I think WIA is getting at something but I just can't put my finger on it exactly...somehow this applies to all M/F interactions.
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02-06-2015, 11:24 AM
In some countries I've visited in S. America, holding a door for women or letting women board public transpo. first is not just common courtesy, it's the masculine thing to do.
On the other hand, in these places there's a healthy masculine-feminine polarity. Women have long hair, wear dresses, etc.
When that is destabilized, you see glimpses of the consequences, with women fantasizing about "50 Shades of Gray" and guys being wracked with self-doubt about holding open a door.