Hey guys,
A bit of a newb to all this red pill stuff, but in the limited time that I have been applying it - holy crap - it has really been life changing and for that I thank you all...
However, I have a situation upcoming and was looking for some advice...
Anyway, here is the situation. I have a date on Saturday....
Me: 39, 6'4" 230 athletic physique , professional male, not married, no kids.
Her: 37, divorced 2.5 years, w/ a 5 y.o. kid. ( I know the strictures on ROK about divorced moms, but a) she is not the only girl I am talking to and b) she is outside of the mom angle, a really cool girl and I enjoy talking and spending time with her...probably the most of all the 3 girls I am currently talking to right now)
The one wrinkle: she shares custody so I only get to see her every other weekend, because we have not progressed to the point where she would want to introduce me to her kid...
Anyway, we have been talking/hanging out since end of October, we have been out 5 times
I basically read "Bang" and used Roosh style tactics, to game her into bed by the end of the fourth date (which happened to be Christmas day)
Two days before Xmas she bought us tickets to go to a play which is happening tomorrow the 24th (super future projection - so I figured she really liked me)
The problem: I went soft about five minutes into banging her! I tried a total of 3 times that night.. all three times same result - I'd go like five minutes or so, then went soft... I kind of freaked out and apologized - but I was really fucking embarrased.
Anyway, we met for lunch a few days later and she told me it was cool and that there was no problem; but have not gone out since - she is a nurse and worked NYE so I couldn't see her then and the next weekend that she didn't have with her kid I couldn't hang out with her as I had a friend in town and had already made plans.
Anyway, the texting was cool back and forth (I initiate and she initiates pretty equally) except that I have noticed that it's kind been kind of fizzling out over the last two weeks; I got busy at work and didn't text her for a week - but then again she didn't initiate either.
Last week, I gave her a call (about 9:45) and she texted me back the next morning saying she was at work, but she got my call and apologized for not calling back but said she was lying with her daughter in bed trying to get her to sleep and dozed off...no call back...no further contact from my end, either....I called her again this Tuesday (6 days after first call), and again I got the VM and the text back within 10 mins saying she was at work...again no call back.
I texted her on Wednesday to say I was going to pick her up this Sat at 6 to go to the show. She texted right back saying Yes, that sounds good and that she had printed the tickets at work that day (she bought them)
So...basically...I have no idea wtf is going on? Either:
1. She's going to dump me...and if so, why not just tell me and save the awkwardness?
2. I'm still in the game and it was just a hiccup and this is a chance to reconnect and game as usual... but if she's pissed at me for some reason and going to be all distant/surly - why would I want to deal with that shit? - has all this been a massive shit test?
So...do I play it cool and see what happens and not give a fuck or if she acts all distant do I just call her on her b.s.?
Let me know if you need any other information and I really appreciate any advice...just a newb looking to learn/ refine his game...and I really want a chance to redeem myself in bed with this girl....
THANK YOU!
A bit of a newb to all this red pill stuff, but in the limited time that I have been applying it - holy crap - it has really been life changing and for that I thank you all...
However, I have a situation upcoming and was looking for some advice...
Anyway, here is the situation. I have a date on Saturday....
Me: 39, 6'4" 230 athletic physique , professional male, not married, no kids.
Her: 37, divorced 2.5 years, w/ a 5 y.o. kid. ( I know the strictures on ROK about divorced moms, but a) she is not the only girl I am talking to and b) she is outside of the mom angle, a really cool girl and I enjoy talking and spending time with her...probably the most of all the 3 girls I am currently talking to right now)
The one wrinkle: she shares custody so I only get to see her every other weekend, because we have not progressed to the point where she would want to introduce me to her kid...
Anyway, we have been talking/hanging out since end of October, we have been out 5 times
I basically read "Bang" and used Roosh style tactics, to game her into bed by the end of the fourth date (which happened to be Christmas day)
Two days before Xmas she bought us tickets to go to a play which is happening tomorrow the 24th (super future projection - so I figured she really liked me)
The problem: I went soft about five minutes into banging her! I tried a total of 3 times that night.. all three times same result - I'd go like five minutes or so, then went soft... I kind of freaked out and apologized - but I was really fucking embarrased.
Anyway, we met for lunch a few days later and she told me it was cool and that there was no problem; but have not gone out since - she is a nurse and worked NYE so I couldn't see her then and the next weekend that she didn't have with her kid I couldn't hang out with her as I had a friend in town and had already made plans.
Anyway, the texting was cool back and forth (I initiate and she initiates pretty equally) except that I have noticed that it's kind been kind of fizzling out over the last two weeks; I got busy at work and didn't text her for a week - but then again she didn't initiate either.
Last week, I gave her a call (about 9:45) and she texted me back the next morning saying she was at work, but she got my call and apologized for not calling back but said she was lying with her daughter in bed trying to get her to sleep and dozed off...no call back...no further contact from my end, either....I called her again this Tuesday (6 days after first call), and again I got the VM and the text back within 10 mins saying she was at work...again no call back.
I texted her on Wednesday to say I was going to pick her up this Sat at 6 to go to the show. She texted right back saying Yes, that sounds good and that she had printed the tickets at work that day (she bought them)
So...basically...I have no idea wtf is going on? Either:
1. She's going to dump me...and if so, why not just tell me and save the awkwardness?
2. I'm still in the game and it was just a hiccup and this is a chance to reconnect and game as usual... but if she's pissed at me for some reason and going to be all distant/surly - why would I want to deal with that shit? - has all this been a massive shit test?
So...do I play it cool and see what happens and not give a fuck or if she acts all distant do I just call her on her b.s.?
Let me know if you need any other information and I really appreciate any advice...just a newb looking to learn/ refine his game...and I really want a chance to redeem myself in bed with this girl....
THANK YOU!