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Won't have sex without a commitment
01-14-2015, 06:18 PM
Bilbo and WIA hit both parts.
The fastest way is to drink shots and say sure let's give this LTR a try!
Anything else is adding more work. And if you are trying to bang a chick while she is demanding commitment first why take the hard way?
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Won't have sex without a commitment
12-04-2018, 12:35 PM
I'm running into this now with a girl I just took on a third date. It feels like we're at an impasse: she wants the relationship before sex, but I want the sex before a (possible) relationship. I've always been able to seal the deal prior to the third date, so I'd like some advice.
Date 1: Time-constrained meet at a park (i.e., we both had plans afterwards). I got the kiss and hand-holding, but after the kiss, she starting asking me questions like "Are we dating?" and "I want to make sure you're not a playboy" and in general thought we're moving too fast. I was surprised but maintained my composure. We kissed more later, some initiated by her, and we parted on good terms.
Date 2: Met for drinks. I pushed for her to come to my place for a drink, but she again said it's too fast. We did some more kissing on this date, and I felt her up a bit both upstairs and downstairs without any resistance.
Date 3: Met for drinks near my place. I again asked her to come to my place with the usual bait that's worked for me in the past, and again she started up some stuff about this moving too fast and how she's worried I'm going to use her and never contact her again. I pried a bit and gleaned that this has happened to her in the past.
She then brought up how she would only go home with someone who's her boyfriend, and also said she considers a boyfriend someone she does things like kissing with (!), so I guess she already considers me her boyfriend? I told her I can't move into a relationship situation that fast without knowing someone for a longer period of time and that for me, moving up the sexual activity ladder doesn't imply two people are in a relationship, but I failed to mention that I require intimacy before getting into a relationship, as many of the posters in this thread suggested. Had I said that, I could've made it clear what I want and that she's free to walk if she doesn't agree.
I wasn't sure what else to do at this point, so I took her to a mostly-secluded part of a park and fingered her, felt her boobs, and put her hand on my boner, then whipped it out, but I only got a little bit of handjob action. I know she enjoyed herself because she gave me no resistance as I did these things and let it go on for a while before we called it a night.
It's late for me and I want to go to bed to see how I feel in the morning, but my current thinking is to either forget about her because I lost the battle or give her a final chance with a date direct to my apartment. She's 25, Japanese (explains some of the cultural differences), fun to be around, and possibly mini-relationship material (though I can't be faithful), but I don't want to reward her bad behavior. I currently have two other girls on the side I fuck occasionally, but I prefer the company of this girl — for now, though my patience is thinning.
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Won't have sex without a commitment
12-05-2018, 06:47 PM
I had this happen to me in my 20's, and foolishly took the bait and "committed". The bang wasn't worth the hassle, and later decomitted like a high school four star recruit from a college lol.
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Won't have sex without a commitment
12-05-2018, 08:53 PM
Yes, all depends of what is he projecting.