[Il Bersagliere]

I am doing NoFap right now and it is incredibly difficult.

If you cannot help but fap, there are certain porn genres that will deter you from watching any porn altogether.

[Belgrano]

The most convenient solution is to live in a place without internet connection. If you have a public space with free wifi closeby, cancel the contract with your provider at home. You can do all your work and surfing there if necessary. Get a limited internet package for your phone instead of a flatrate, or an oldschool mobile.
Doing that will force you to go outside more, get a life and socialize. For entertainment at home you read books, study, listen to music or podcasts, do some sports or just take long walks.
It sounds like a drastic measure, but it will work.
If porn hasn´t completely lobotomized you, you will find that masturbating while staring at the empty wall of your room gets boring pretty fast.

And if you still end up jerking off at a public library computer or at Starbucks, well, there was no hope for you in the first place.

[Aquiles_Baesta_Parada]

(12-19-2014 02:10 AM)killongy Wrote:  

I am really beckoning to the manosphere on the issue....this is beyond embarrassing for me to admit but....

Constant and excessive fapping has fucked up the sensitivity towards my manhood and reality to the point where life doesn't matter (not suicidal), women can go fk off and the the idea of just existing is satisfying enough.

My position in life has regressed to the fate of a piece of wood that's just goes wherever the current goes.

I dont want to seek interaction/sex with women anymore , I don't have a high notch count (6) 4 were girls that fell for my crappy game ,another 2 were chubby white women that were staying at the resort I used to work at.

I just go through the motions at my job.

Since I have increased fapping up to 3-4 times in an evening I have just felt a part of me slowly lose its shine , women barely notice me anymore.

The depressing thing is the usual porn does nothing for me. I look at regular porn and have to summon a great amount of will to just get a semi hard on and I have found myself watching weirder and weirder shit until I reached a point where I lost my boner having come the realization of just how weird the shit is that I have been watching.

The road I have taken , using porn to satisfy my sexual needs partly due to heavy seasonal rains fucking up my logistics. I gained 30 lbs over the months , my abs are gone i'm flabby as fuck and lost the motivation to go abroad and make some money over in Alberta along with my plan of self improvement.

Not to sound like a bitch but I feel hollow man...

I have been working on copywriting to create a location independent lifestyle but even thats fucked.

What can I really do?

We're talking about a real addiction here...

I'm going to sound like an old person, but porn was such an innocent thing when I was growing up. It was a playboy magazine/lingerie catalog or even an old VHS cassette with barely and hardcore stuff. What we see today in sites like pornhub it's extremely dangerous to our brain and attention span. Porn is kinda like a drug, you watch it and you want more and more. And like you said: "usual porn does nothing for me."
I'm sorry to say it friend but your brain is fried right now and you are a porn junkie.

My advice to you OP:
-Go cold turkey for 10 straight days. No porn, no FAP, no social media (facebook, instagram girls/fitness models etc...) it's going to be a bitch, but this is where willpower and the need to change your lifestyle comes into play. How bad do you want to change your life around?
-After 10 days go ahead and FAP just once! Use your imagination, No porn!!!
I believe masturbation is great every now and then. This is just to empty your nuts and get your head straight.
-Start working out. You need to take care of yourself brother! And hitting the gym will not only have physical benefits but mental as well.
-Last but not least, start going out at least twice a week. Hit a bar, find a hobby, take a class. Start talking to people more and more. Go ahead and talk to girls, you don't have to hit on them all the time. This will help with the recovery process.

There's more great advice in the No fap, no porn thread.
You can do this man!

Best of luck



Edit:
Just saw the date from the original post. Any recent follow ups?

[booksarefun666]

(07-11-2015 11:18 AM)Aquiles_Baesta_Parada Wrote:  

Edit:
Just saw the date from the original post. Any recent follow ups?

I noticed I accidentally bumped it but hopefully the OP will write a follow up.

[Easy_C]

All else fails, call up your ISP and tell them you need to put a vacation hold on your internet for the next month. That will make it extremely difficult for you to do anything.

[FANATICAL]

OP you're just responding to incentives. There isn't much incentive to deal with women after a certain point if they are not delivering all the other things you would really like in a long term girl. I think you've reached that point where pssy isn't a thing for you anymore... Rejoice, you are free from the drive ... When you come across a girl who is really interesting it will come back faster than you can blink. Porn isn't turning off your senses, you just area not sensing anything worthwhile.

[killongy]

I was Lurking and found this bumped, so I guess an update is past overdue.


Now have a notch count of 48 vs the 6 I had when I made this thread.
Leveraging my job at the hotel to fuck tourists outside of work is going pretty smooth. my manager is probably on to me about what's going down but wont fire me that easily, because he gets his palms greased to let off some weed to guests, I guess you could say everybody has their mini hustle and taking on a new employee is too risky.

Business wise I have launched a consulting hustle as a means to generate capital, I make an avg of 5k a month with a goal of 25k this would be higher if I was on US soil. Eventually I will apply for a visa and explore the US a bit , I know I could clean up pretty easy with my hustle.


Speaking quite frankly, My experience with porn addiction wasn't an easily kicked habit, I suffered tremors and night sweats at the peak of my deprivation (6 1/2 weeks in) all I could think of was fucking and knew something had to give.

I think 4 days in "attempting" day game, I saw a chick (7th notch) in the supermarket undecided on what brand toilet paper to buy, I made up some bs about bacteria with one brand vs the other then got the number , met later that night at a popular bar, had some decent conversation and thats when it started coming back to me where I actually felt some happiness and but I knew I couldn't get lost in this.

Signaled the bartender to make her drinks stronger than mine to speed the night up because I wanted to fuck asap.
Got her back to my place and she knew what was up and told me she doesn't fuck on first date but I was gonna fuck one way or the other.


At that moment internally I felt I had to fuck or something was gonna snap.
She resisted my initial attempts towards the bedroom but my lurking paid off I threw on the news(hid the remote), got her to play some pool with shots.

Later on made out for a bit , felt the pussy...wet as fuck got the bang.

After that experience, either lots of stuff got rebalanced internally or I got my mojo back, I am not sure what it is but it felt great. I think this Bruce lee quote sums it up.

“If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.” – Bruce Lee

I had allowed a seed of negativity to grow and spread from my insecurities with women to everything else in my life.

Still lots more areas to improve on but these last 2 months have been fantastic

[polar]

My sincere congratulations on kicking the habit.

But...42 notches in eight months or less? I'd like details on your system.

[Off The Reservation]

(07-20-2015 05:57 PM)killongy Wrote:  

I was Lurking and found this bumped, so I guess an update is past overdue.


Now have a notch count of 48 vs the 6 I had when I made this thread.
Leveraging my job at the hotel to fuck tourists outside of work is going pretty smooth. my manager is probably on to me about what's going down but wont fire me that easily, because he gets his palms greased to let off some weed to guests, I guess you could say everybody has their mini hustle and taking on a new employee is too risky.

Business wise I have launched a consulting hustle as a means to generate capital, I make an avg of 5k a month with a goal of 25k this would be higher if I was on US soil. Eventually I will apply for a visa and explore the US a bit , I know I could clean up pretty easy with my hustle.


Speaking quite frankly, My experience with porn addiction wasn't an easily kicked habit, I suffered tremors and night sweats at the peak of my deprivation (6 1/2 weeks in) all I could think of was fucking and knew something had to give.

I think 4 days in "attempting" day game, I saw a chick (7th notch) in the supermarket undecided on what brand toilet paper to buy, I made up some bs about bacteria with one brand vs the other then got the number , met later that night at a popular bar, had some decent conversation and thats when it started coming back to me where I actually felt some happiness and but I knew I couldn't get lost in this.

Signaled the bartender to make her drinks stronger than mine to speed the night up because I wanted to fuck asap.
Got her back to my place and she knew what was up and told me she doesn't fuck on first date but I was gonna fuck one way or the other.


At that moment internally I felt I had to fuck or something was gonna snap.
She resisted my initial attempts towards the bedroom but my lurking paid off I threw on the news(hid the remote), got her to play some pool with shots.

Later on made out for a bit , felt the pussy...wet as fuck got the bang.

After that experience, either lots of stuff got rebalanced internally or I got my mojo back, I am not sure what it is but it felt great. I think this Bruce lee quote sums it up.

“If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.” – Bruce Lee

I had allowed a seed of negativity to grow and spread from my insecurities with women to everything else in my life.

Still lots more areas to improve on but these last 2 months have been fantastic

Congrats man

[killongy]

(07-20-2015 09:55 PM)polar Wrote:  

My sincere congratulations on kicking the habit.

But...42 notches in eight months or less? I'd like details on your system.

For most of it I dont think its really a system but just me putting myself between the supply and demand.

A good chunk are tourists and cuckolds from my workplace I don't think it would be smart to post the name of the hotel in Jamaica but it's notorious for that type of thing.
I work here and was aware of the rumors but have come to learn that the circle of this sort of culture is pretty big and consists mostly of cliques/clubs .
These past months have been bartending, my side hustle and fucking until my dick drop off btw aloe vera lotion (picked up from a post here) and an ice wrap shortly before sleeping does wonders for tenderness/recovery.

Most of the women that pass through this place are in their 30s, a few late twenties, some attractive but majority of the times nothing to spectacular to be honest. For now as its all about fucking.

The rest of the girls I sleep with are locals I meet during odd times when I do have free time, most aren't super pretty but feminine, pussy is clean and generally cook well so I don't have to buy food.

I am want to ease back on this sort of thing in the coming months and focus on traveling the caribbean or apply for a US visa but hey its pretty fun for now.

Looking back on it man kicking porn and applying so many of the principles I have picked up here gave me the confidence to go from 0-100 in a lot of areas of my life because I saw so many were doing it here on the forum in one form or another.

[RedParadigm]

One point I would like to make is that sometimes we use porn to handle stress. I know I use to do this. So if you are using porn as stress relief then as long as you have whatever is stressing you on going on in your life it will be difficult to quit. It wasn't that I didn't want to have sex with women. I preferred having sex with women. It just that jacking off was more easy than calling a girl to come over just to have sex.

[Suits]

This thread is just more evidence that the RVF (and game) saves lives.