[joker]

Hey guys so I went out with this girl id met at uni a few years back. I thought the date was going well and my intention was to get a makeout at the end of the night. At the end of the night I pulled in and she turned her head somewhat and said "Wow, I didn't know this was supposed to be a date". A fuck up on my part I guess. The following texts went like this:

her: hi. I just wanted to say that i had a good time the other night but i have realised that it doesn't feel right for me for this relationship to go any further than friends. You are a nice guy and I'm sure you will make someone very happy. I can understand if you don't want to talk to me again but I didn't want to lead you on. Sorry, hope you understand.

me: thats cool it was good catching up good luck with your career.

me: (a couple days later) Are you still up for bowling?

her: hi, I am really busy at the moment sorting stuff out before I go back to school so I can't really say yes at the moment. Sorry Ill let you know if things change.

Ok so on my part I really fucked up but this chick does seem LTR which is what I'm looking for so if you have any suggestions on a restart text and any tips on where I went wrong and how to improve itd be great. Thanks

[Swedreams]

She turned you down. #next

[seabridge]

Your frame was wrong from the beginning. Maybe you werent sexual enough, thats why she were surprised that it was a date.

I think you should forget about her and get other girls. There is a good chance that you can find other girls with LTR potentiel

[ryanf]

(11-29-2014 06:06 AM)joker Wrote:  

Hey guys so I went out with this girl id met at uni a few years back. I thought the date was going well and my intention was to get a makeout at the end of the night. At the end of the night I pulled in and she turned her head somewhat and said "Wow, I didn't know this was supposed to be a date". A fuck up on my part I guess. The following texts went like this:

her: hi. I just wanted to say that i had a good time the other night but i have realised that it doesn't feel right for me for this relationship to go any further than friends. You are a nice guy and I'm sure you will make someone very happy. I can understand if you don't want to talk to me again but I didn't want to lead you on. Sorry, hope you understand.

me: thats cool it was good catching up good luck with your career.

me: (a couple days later) Are you still up for bowling?

her: hi, I am really busy at the moment sorting stuff out before I go back to school so I can't really say yes at the moment. Sorry Ill let you know if things change.

Ok so on my part I really fucked up but this chick does seem LTR which is what I'm looking for so if you have any suggestions on a restart text and any tips on where I went wrong and how to improve itd be great. Thanks

Main point: this is going nowhere, let it go. I'd bet $1,000 you'll never have sex with this girl.

Side point: is anyone else impressed with how upfront and honest she was? She didn't even try the tired "let's-just-be-friends", she just straight up told him no and it's fine if he leaves for good. I'm stunned.

[coverdoc]

(11-29-2014 06:39 AM)Swedreams Wrote:  

She turned you down. #next

I'd have to agree. Maybe OP can send a restart text in a few months.

[Ensam]

Restart texts are for chicks who fell off, not for ones who out right rejected you.

Don't let a girl reject you twice, move forward. The only way you get this chick is if you happen to run into her in a year with a hotter girl on your arm, at which point - why bother?

[Rawmeo]

U have been shot down. Your options now:

1) NEXT
2) NEXT
-or-
3) NEXT

[Dantes]

Accept that she is not interested in and move onto other girls. I give her respect for being upfront and honest. Most girls will just ignore you or give you some lame excuse. She told you like it is, clearly. Forget about a strategy on how to get this girl. It is game over..Next

You won't even remember her name if you meet someone hotter than her.

[Kissinger2014]

She flat out rejected you once and politely rejected you a second time (when you asked to go bowling).

To echoing everyone else who has read or will read this thread: N..E..X..T...........

[joker]

The weird thing was a few years ago at uni we had set up a "date" for the movies but I dogged it because I didn't think anything of it I thought it was just to chill and she was really offended by that. I guess this is her way of getting back at me. So on a final note there really is no chance of a restart?

[HighSpeed_LowDrag]

(11-30-2014 04:09 AM)joker Wrote:  

The weird thing was a few years ago at uni we had set up a "date" for the movies but I dogged it because I didn't think anything of it I thought it was just to chill and she was really offended by that. I guess this is her way of getting back at me. So on a final note there really is no chance of a restart?

Pretty much. Move on.

HSLD

[Kissinger2014]

Look...If you want one more Hail Mary pass, text her to invite her out somewhere neutral (e.g. "Hey, going to XXXX house party. There'll be awesome margaritas and me. Drop by."). The point is to get her at the same place you are, and hopefully alone. You have a 1/17450 chance that it works.

Again, it will most likely NOT work.

If it doesn't (which it likely won't), move (the f!) on.

[Blunt]

(11-30-2014 04:09 AM)joker Wrote:  

So on a final note there really is no chance of a restart?

Like Ensam said restart text does not mean a blank slate for trying to fix a girls perception of you, it is for a girl where sexual attraction was already acknowledged by both but the timing just didn't work.

Unless you run into this girl by accident and she shows sexual interest in you, no text can save you.

[Hazaer]

Hey guys, there was this girl who I met about a year and a half ago. She was interested but I kind of hesitated and didnt go for the kill when the time was right but we kind of still hung out. Then she moved on to another city. So, if you happened to be in her city for a weekend,

1. When would you send the re-start text? When you are in the city, say friday afternoon for a weekend meet or friday night itself or earlier in the week?

2. What can the restart text contain to stimulate maximum interest to meet?

Will be great to hear your opinions and experiences.

Cheers

[RatInTheWoods]

Have some pride, she rejected you.

Go find another (of the billions) woman who doesn't reject you.

Have some pride. Do not hang out, do not become orbiter.

She should be dead to you now.

[Rawmeo]

^ This.

When you're not sure what a girl means, put things the other way and put yourself in her shoes: Would you tell one of your plates that gives you awesone BJs that "you'll let her know what things change because you're busy"? I think not, but if you're genuinely busy, you might do something like "This week is hard for me - how about we try next week?" or something to let her know that you're interested. What she did was a weak response that means that she's not interested.

You have 3 choices at this point:
1) Next
2) Next
3) Next

If you really want to see her, there MIGHT be a 4th option, if your game was weak the first time - that 4th option is: Next.

[Hazaer]

(06-19-2017 06:58 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

Hey guys, there was this girl who I met about a year and a half ago. She was interested but I kind of hesitated and didnt go for the kill when the time was right but we kind of still hung out. Then she moved on to another city. So, if you happened to be in her city for a weekend,

1. When would you send the re-start text? When you are in the city, say friday afternoon for a weekend meet or friday night itself or earlier in the week?

2. What can the restart text contain to stimulate maximum interest to meet?

Will be great to hear your opinions and experiences.

Cheers

Hey guys this is a separate girl from the one the OP mentioned. Will be good to hear your ideas on this.

[PapayaTapper]

(06-22-2017 07:44 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(06-19-2017 06:58 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

Hey guys, there was this girl who I met about a year and a half ago. She was interested but I kind of hesitated and didnt go for the kill when the time was right but we kind of still hung out. Then she moved on to another city. So, if you happened to be in her city for a weekend,

1. When would you send the re-start text? When you are in the city, say friday afternoon for a weekend meet or friday night itself or earlier in the week?

2. What can the restart text contain to stimulate maximum interest to meet?

Will be great to hear your opinions and experiences.

Cheers

Hey guys this is a separate girl from the one the OP mentioned. Will be good to hear your ideas on this.

No need to over think it. Nothing lost if you take a shot and it doesn't work. The good thing is text is pretty minimal effort

This is a semi cold restart Ive used in the past

"Hey how you doin doll face? I'm going to be in (city) on Friday and through Sunday. Let's catch up"

That's it

Her response will likely depend on her current branch (aka BF) situation, If she's locked in then there's nothing you can do. If there's a crack there then she'll respond.

If she responds unfavorably and you fell like you need or want to save face and spin the hamster a bit just respond "oops ,meant for someone else"

[Hazaer]

(06-22-2017 08:53 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

(06-22-2017 07:44 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(06-19-2017 06:58 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

Hey guys, there was this girl who I met about a year and a half ago. She was interested but I kind of hesitated and didnt go for the kill when the time was right but we kind of still hung out. Then she moved on to another city. So, if you happened to be in her city for a weekend,

1. When would you send the re-start text? When you are in the city, say friday afternoon for a weekend meet or friday night itself or earlier in the week?

2. What can the restart text contain to stimulate maximum interest to meet?

Will be great to hear your opinions and experiences.

Cheers

Hey guys this is a separate girl from the one the OP mentioned. Will be good to hear your ideas on this.

No need to over think it. Nothing lost if you take a shot and it doesn't work. The good thing is text is pretty minimal effort

This is a semi cold restart Ive used in the past

"Hey how you doin doll face? I'm going to be in (city) on Friday and through Sunday. Let's catch up"

That's it

Her response will likely depend on her current branch (aka BF) situation, If she's locked in then there's nothing you can do. If there's a crack there then she'll respond.

If she responds unfavorably and you fell like you need or want to save face and spin the hamster a bit just respond "oops ,meant for someone else"

Saw this late. I sent the 'howya doin' text. Got back 'I am doing good how are you'. Then dropped the 'am in your town wanna catch up?' line but no reply after that. I am not sure if my hesitation in going for the kill in the past affected her view of me but that was more than a year ago.

[PapayaTapper]

(06-29-2017 08:20 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(06-22-2017 08:53 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

(06-22-2017 07:44 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(06-19-2017 06:58 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

Hey guys, there was this girl who I met about a year and a half ago. She was interested but I kind of hesitated and didnt go for the kill when the time was right but we kind of still hung out. Then she moved on to another city. So, if you happened to be in her city for a weekend,

1. When would you send the re-start text? When you are in the city, say friday afternoon for a weekend meet or friday night itself or earlier in the week?

2. What can the restart text contain to stimulate maximum interest to meet?

Will be great to hear your opinions and experiences.

Cheers

Hey guys this is a separate girl from the one the OP mentioned. Will be good to hear your ideas on this.

No need to over think it. Nothing lost if you take a shot and it doesn't work. The good thing is text is pretty minimal effort

This is a semi cold restart Ive used in the past

"Hey how you doin doll face? I'm going to be in (city) on Friday and through Sunday. Let's catch up"

That's it

Her response will likely depend on her current branch (aka BF) situation, If she's locked in then there's nothing you can do. If there's a crack there then she'll respond.

If she responds unfavorably and you fell like you need or want to save face and spin the hamster a bit just respond "oops ,meant for someone else"

Saw this late. I sent the 'howya doin' text. Got back 'I am doing good how are you'. Then dropped the 'am in your town wanna catch up?' line but no reply after that. I am not sure if my hesitation in going for the kill in the past affected her view of me but that was more than a year ago.

Did you use the 'doll face'? I like using something like this because
a You aren't using her name which leaves the door open for lost of maneuvering
b It's very low form of 'innuendo'. You are setting the ground work for 'sexualizing' the convo (which is what you need to do to stay out of the FZ...again)
c It's different than anything most other guys will send so will pique her curiosity (I've used stupid shit that almost always get a response. Example "Sup lil poodle?").

Additionally

Might be splitting hairs but "am in your town wanna catch up?" is weaker than "let's catch up". One is passive the other is affirmative. Chix respond more to strength

Go job though. You got a response. Let's see what happens

[Hazaer]

(06-29-2017 09:14 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

(06-29-2017 08:20 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(06-22-2017 08:53 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

(06-22-2017 07:44 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(06-19-2017 06:58 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

Hey guys, there was this girl who I met about a year and a half ago. She was interested but I kind of hesitated and didnt go for the kill when the time was right but we kind of still hung out. Then she moved on to another city. So, if you happened to be in her city for a weekend,

1. When would you send the re-start text? When you are in the city, say friday afternoon for a weekend meet or friday night itself or earlier in the week?

2. What can the restart text contain to stimulate maximum interest to meet?

Will be great to hear your opinions and experiences.

Cheers

Hey guys this is a separate girl from the one the OP mentioned. Will be good to hear your ideas on this.

No need to over think it. Nothing lost if you take a shot and it doesn't work. The good thing is text is pretty minimal effort

This is a semi cold restart Ive used in the past

"Hey how you doin doll face? I'm going to be in (city) on Friday and through Sunday. Let's catch up"

That's it

Her response will likely depend on her current branch (aka BF) situation, If she's locked in then there's nothing you can do. If there's a crack there then she'll respond.

If she responds unfavorably and you fell like you need or want to save face and spin the hamster a bit just respond "oops ,meant for someone else"

Saw this late. I sent the 'howya doin' text. Got back 'I am doing good how are you'. Then dropped the 'am in your town wanna catch up?' line but no reply after that. I am not sure if my hesitation in going for the kill in the past affected her view of me but that was more than a year ago.

Did you use the 'doll face'? I like using something like this because
a You aren't using her name which leaves the door open for lost of maneuvering
b It's very low form of 'innuendo'. You are setting the ground work for 'sexualizing' the convo (which is what you need to do to stay out of the FZ...again)
c It's different than anything most other guys will send so will pique her curiosity (I've used stupid shit that almost always get a response. Example "Sup lil poodle?").

Additionally

Might be splitting hairs but "am in your town wanna catch up?" is weaker than "let's catch up". One is passive the other is affirmative. Chix respond more to strength

Go job though. You got a response. Let's see what happens

(04-09-2012 05:34 PM)Gmac Wrote:  

I can't take full credit. It's actually an adaptation of one of Roissy's old posts.

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2010/07/3...itur-game/

Quote:

A similar version of non sequitur game is reverse eavesdropping game (REG). This is where you send a text to a girl that has nothing to do with her and is clearly not meant for her, thus inducing her to “eavesdrop” on your putatively private conversation. The REG text should be constructed such that it hints at your high value and/or social proof. Something like “bring the chips and i’ll get the booze. it’s gonna be crazy.” Or “hey troublemaker, how are those red heels holding up?”, which is quite devious since you have any number of plausible excuses to explain the text to her — “I meant to text my friend. She stole a pair of shoes yesterday” — but not before she has stewed in her jealousy for a while. The beauty of the REG DHV (aaaand two consecutive acronyms! high five me!) is how effortlessly it slips under your target’s poseur identification alert system. It’s almost as if a third party is communicating your high value to her. Naturally, she will be inclined to text back immediately, and this will mindfuck her into thinking you are a higher value guy than she originally thought.

Works like a charm.

Good points Papaya, like I said before, she didnt reply after that. I have quoted a couple more re-start texts by gmac from another thread which can be pretty good for the viewers. Like you said, it has got to be fun to be different from all the other guys looking for a weekend lay in addition to convincing her to spend a prime time weekend night with you.