Hi guys,
I'm new to game and have been reading this forum over the past two weeks before deciding to register and get involved in the conversation.
First of all, last year I was chatting up this shop girl for months on end. I really liked her although she was married with kids. One night she shows up at my front door, apparently to make sure things were still okay between us (we'd had an awkward exchange earlier in the day). I thought to myself that there's no way she'd show up at my front door for the first time ever just to make sure we were okay when she already has me on Facebook. So obviously I made a move, but partway through she stops me and says "he's a nice guy" (referring to her husband) and I took that as a sign for me to stop. She left and nothing happened. Now she's gone from my life. It really got to me because I wanted her badly. I vowed never to let someone slip through my fingers like that again and that vow finally led me to this forum. I kind of cringe at the obvious mistakes I made that night based on what I've read here. Mainly not continuing on regardless of her comment.
But the past is past, right? Got to move on and learn from my mistakes, and now I find myself interested in another shop girl (just by coincidence), but I'm not sure how to proceed at all. I think I made a fatal mistake early on by asking her out for a drink before she could possibly have been very comfortable around me. I thought the direct approach would be appreciated. She said, "maybe at the end of the month, I'll let you know". I took that as a "no" at the time and sure enough, she never did let me know (I see her every few days). I also made what I now know to be a screw up from reading this forum by saying to her "oh I thought you'd be married" (she's an older woman). Turns out she isn't married. She said, "well I am in a relationship, but I can be your friend". I didn't want her to see me as a friend so I just let it drop.
Nonetheless, I've continued to chat to her and she's very responsive, although as noted on this forum: those in customer service have to be. So it's kind of hard to tell whether she genuinely likes me as a person, or whether she's just being polite.
I've read a few threads on this forum about retail game, but I wanted to ask about my situation specifically. Have I screwed this up beyond repair, and if not how do I get her interest back?
I hope I've given enough information here. I'm six foot, one inch tall and have no problem approaching women whatsoever. I do wonder whether I might have intimidated her by being so forthcoming.
I'm new to game and have been reading this forum over the past two weeks before deciding to register and get involved in the conversation.
First of all, last year I was chatting up this shop girl for months on end. I really liked her although she was married with kids. One night she shows up at my front door, apparently to make sure things were still okay between us (we'd had an awkward exchange earlier in the day). I thought to myself that there's no way she'd show up at my front door for the first time ever just to make sure we were okay when she already has me on Facebook. So obviously I made a move, but partway through she stops me and says "he's a nice guy" (referring to her husband) and I took that as a sign for me to stop. She left and nothing happened. Now she's gone from my life. It really got to me because I wanted her badly. I vowed never to let someone slip through my fingers like that again and that vow finally led me to this forum. I kind of cringe at the obvious mistakes I made that night based on what I've read here. Mainly not continuing on regardless of her comment.
But the past is past, right? Got to move on and learn from my mistakes, and now I find myself interested in another shop girl (just by coincidence), but I'm not sure how to proceed at all. I think I made a fatal mistake early on by asking her out for a drink before she could possibly have been very comfortable around me. I thought the direct approach would be appreciated. She said, "maybe at the end of the month, I'll let you know". I took that as a "no" at the time and sure enough, she never did let me know (I see her every few days). I also made what I now know to be a screw up from reading this forum by saying to her "oh I thought you'd be married" (she's an older woman). Turns out she isn't married. She said, "well I am in a relationship, but I can be your friend". I didn't want her to see me as a friend so I just let it drop.
Nonetheless, I've continued to chat to her and she's very responsive, although as noted on this forum: those in customer service have to be. So it's kind of hard to tell whether she genuinely likes me as a person, or whether she's just being polite.
I've read a few threads on this forum about retail game, but I wanted to ask about my situation specifically. Have I screwed this up beyond repair, and if not how do I get her interest back?
I hope I've given enough information here. I'm six foot, one inch tall and have no problem approaching women whatsoever. I do wonder whether I might have intimidated her by being so forthcoming.