I ran into an ex at the weekend and my focus has been lacking since. Emotional equilibrium upset and all that.
To elaborate, she was my first girlfriend. We dated for just over a year and I ended the relationship because I wasn't satisfied. Specifically she was unwilling to commit, citing her mother as an interference or using her as a way to avoid commitment and keep her options open.
Also there was a lack of intimacy that I couldn't break through.
There were a few personality quirks too.
This all happened before I discovered the manosphere and the Red Pill.
To cut a long story short, I ran into her at a convention over the weekend at which she expressed a desire for reconciliation.
Fortunately I was able to maintain frame the most part during the interaction - playful and humorous with a few backhanded insults and non-interest.
She claimed to have not been too successful since my departure but I know this to not be true as she has an abundance of male attention and has since been dating.
I say this not as a boast but to illustrate: I'm very good at reading people and could tell that she was being sincere when she said that she'd missed me.
Obviously she didn't say why. Possibly because the cock carousel's been slowing down or because there's something about me she wants to exploit - at the time I was unconditional in my support and very naive in my beliefs. She may want me to supplement her wavering confidence or just lavish with attention.
On the other hand, it's possible that she was wholly genuine and couldn't be with me in the way I wanted at the time because of circumstances beyond her control.
Even as I type the words I realize how ridiculous it sounds but I'd be remiss if I didn't acknowledge the possibility, no matter how remote.
On my front, my game hasn't yielded much success lately. So from an abundance perspective it certainly wouldn't hurt to have the option available.
I'm thinking it would be prudent to arrange a meeting, lay down the law and give her a time limit to comply. Otherwise next and move on. It was bad enough last time around and I've no intention of getting emotionally attached again.
I'm just not sure what the logical course of action is.
To elaborate, she was my first girlfriend. We dated for just over a year and I ended the relationship because I wasn't satisfied. Specifically she was unwilling to commit, citing her mother as an interference or using her as a way to avoid commitment and keep her options open.
Also there was a lack of intimacy that I couldn't break through.
There were a few personality quirks too.
This all happened before I discovered the manosphere and the Red Pill.
To cut a long story short, I ran into her at a convention over the weekend at which she expressed a desire for reconciliation.
Fortunately I was able to maintain frame the most part during the interaction - playful and humorous with a few backhanded insults and non-interest.
She claimed to have not been too successful since my departure but I know this to not be true as she has an abundance of male attention and has since been dating.
I say this not as a boast but to illustrate: I'm very good at reading people and could tell that she was being sincere when she said that she'd missed me.
Obviously she didn't say why. Possibly because the cock carousel's been slowing down or because there's something about me she wants to exploit - at the time I was unconditional in my support and very naive in my beliefs. She may want me to supplement her wavering confidence or just lavish with attention.
On the other hand, it's possible that she was wholly genuine and couldn't be with me in the way I wanted at the time because of circumstances beyond her control.
Even as I type the words I realize how ridiculous it sounds but I'd be remiss if I didn't acknowledge the possibility, no matter how remote.
On my front, my game hasn't yielded much success lately. So from an abundance perspective it certainly wouldn't hurt to have the option available.
I'm thinking it would be prudent to arrange a meeting, lay down the law and give her a time limit to comply. Otherwise next and move on. It was bad enough last time around and I've no intention of getting emotionally attached again.
I'm just not sure what the logical course of action is.