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Useful metaphor for oneitis
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Useful metaphor for oneitis

The real cause of oneitis at its root is not a lack of abundance. Abundance just ensures that attachment is never solidified with any one girl, because of constant plate spinning or whatever you like to call it.

Oneitis is an emotional response to bonding with a girl. It is not a logical response, as I for one have never asked or sought feelings for a girl, but of course they can and do surface after extensive time spent together.

We've all heard the metaphor for following your heart vs your brain (making decisions on emotion vs logic). But of course no proper decision can ever be made on emotion, as emotion is fleeting, elusive, and liquid. A man in control does not let emotions influence him.

However, sometimes this can be easier said than done, and requires real discipline, especially when caught up with a girl.

So think of you and your intuition as friends, and your heart as a tag along younger brother. You don't like your heart but can't get rid of him, as he's family.

Everytime your heart plays up, and throws a tantrum, instead of getting distracted, you just ignore him, and follow your intuition. Your heart will eventually feel, silly and alienated and frantically run to catch up with you both.

This really puts in to frame that listening to and following emotion is like listening to a child.

Keep this in mind, and you will never make decisions based on emotion, even though they do try their hardest to influence you at times.

Carpe noctem et sic itur ad astra
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Useful metaphor for oneitis

Guys project qualities onto a chick which are not there.

Their emotion overrides their logic (as you correctly point out above).

The curious thing about this - is that guys will develop the deepest oneitis for chicks who - on the surface - are nothing special.

And this is because the irrational part of the guy's brain is sure he has spotted hidden qualities that others have overlooked.

Qualities that even the chick didn't realise were there. It is like an art critic declaring that a forgotten painting is actually a masterpiece.

It is a fool's errand trying to reason a guy out of his oneitis.

Only experience can teach that lesson.
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