I read through a lot of threads, posts, just trying to get an understanding of how guys think about the game, what their ultimate goals in it are, etc.
I've noticed in a lot of people's personal stories that they have really cared about some of the people that they've dealt with.
I understand. I've had people in my life who I can say I've genuinely cared for, but the common theme I've noticed in others' stories, is simply that they've cared too damn much.
They've cared so much that it's hindered their ability to not only move forward in their personal development as a man, but it's affected their ability to go out and have relationships with others.
My personal philosophy is rather simple:
If I've haven't married a woman and/or she hasn't given birth to my child, I can't give that much of a damn, because at the end of the day, what has she really done for me?
Think of all the people who have cared for you in your life. Think about the sacrifices they've made, the real love they've shown, all the things that have proven to you that they really give a fuck about you.
Now compare that to that girl that you can't get over.
There's no comparison.
I understand we have feelings, memories, sexual experiences, a variety of things that we have shared, but you know what?
Who the fuck cares.
There are plenty of women who have had feelings for me and vice versa; I have memories with all of them. I've had different types of sex and have been attracted to all of them in a variety of ways.
There is no "one".
Get over caring so damn much about your ex, the ex before the ex, or the present girl who you know it's over with, but you're still hanging around with her and hurting because your relationship with her is not fulfilling, all because you're too afraid to go back out into the world and find another woman who will accept you.
When things aren't right, change is good.
When things aren't right, change is necessary.
Don't care so much about a woman who probably not only hasn't cared as much about you, but she's actively working to kill your spirit which ultimately damages your self-esteem. That's why you can't move on. You're not holding to her because of love; you're holding on to one certain failure because it's more comforting than moving on to the unknown, the uncertain.
If you're going to care too damn much about anything, care about embracing the challenge of moving forward in life and improving yourself in the process. These women you care too damn much for are holding you back. If you can let them go, and move forward, then you will find a number of things in your life that are truly worth caring for, including a higher-quality woman who will also truly care for you.
I've noticed in a lot of people's personal stories that they have really cared about some of the people that they've dealt with.
I understand. I've had people in my life who I can say I've genuinely cared for, but the common theme I've noticed in others' stories, is simply that they've cared too damn much.
They've cared so much that it's hindered their ability to not only move forward in their personal development as a man, but it's affected their ability to go out and have relationships with others.
My personal philosophy is rather simple:
If I've haven't married a woman and/or she hasn't given birth to my child, I can't give that much of a damn, because at the end of the day, what has she really done for me?
Think of all the people who have cared for you in your life. Think about the sacrifices they've made, the real love they've shown, all the things that have proven to you that they really give a fuck about you.
Now compare that to that girl that you can't get over.
There's no comparison.
I understand we have feelings, memories, sexual experiences, a variety of things that we have shared, but you know what?
Who the fuck cares.
There are plenty of women who have had feelings for me and vice versa; I have memories with all of them. I've had different types of sex and have been attracted to all of them in a variety of ways.
There is no "one".
Get over caring so damn much about your ex, the ex before the ex, or the present girl who you know it's over with, but you're still hanging around with her and hurting because your relationship with her is not fulfilling, all because you're too afraid to go back out into the world and find another woman who will accept you.
When things aren't right, change is good.
When things aren't right, change is necessary.
Don't care so much about a woman who probably not only hasn't cared as much about you, but she's actively working to kill your spirit which ultimately damages your self-esteem. That's why you can't move on. You're not holding to her because of love; you're holding on to one certain failure because it's more comforting than moving on to the unknown, the uncertain.
If you're going to care too damn much about anything, care about embracing the challenge of moving forward in life and improving yourself in the process. These women you care too damn much for are holding you back. If you can let them go, and move forward, then you will find a number of things in your life that are truly worth caring for, including a higher-quality woman who will also truly care for you.
