Fairly often, you meet a girl with a slutty past. Maybe you coaxed it out of her, maybe there are strong tells, or someone spilled the beans on her. That part is not in doubt.
But with a lot of these girls nowadays, their initial sexual contact with strangers is ALWAYS done while drunk or on drugs. These girls have NEVER had a first kiss let alone a fuck with a stranger while sober. At most, they've had a first kiss sober with a guy they sort of knew or had seen several times. They may even wince a little at your touch, and feel uncomfortable. Northern European - British and Scandinavian chicks are especially susceptible to this - cultures where people binge drink to socialize. If you're trying to swoop in as a stranger, and she's sober, she may not give you enough time i.e. meetups to let you bang.
On dates with these chicks, I get stuck in this rut. I don't usually get them drunk enough to have them overcome their own neuroses about physical intimacy. And then because they have trouble building a connection quickly when sober, she'll be flaky about meeting up again. She'll feel indifferent to you. Trying to coax any romantic connection from a girl like this is like trying to get water out of a rock.
If you do get her drunk and bang, she may also feel guilt or regret over it and not talk to you again. She may not. I have had both happen. It can be hard to predict her reaction - if you do want to avoid that, having her sleep over or just spend more time together post-bang seems like a good idea.
The difference between this kind of girl and a genuinely prude or inexperienced girl is that a prude is usually willing to continue seeing you in the absence of sexual intimacy. (I don't mean to derogate girls who are 'prudes,' just using it as shorthand.) The frigid slut on the other hand wants the dick and has had the dick before, but 'feels weird' about you but lacks the patience of the prude to become comfortable with letting you bang. The frigid slut has very little dick attention span, while the prude, hopefully, has the opposite. It's not that the frigid slut is always getting dick - just that she is easily put off by a little physical discomfort, because she always has the avenue of eventually banging an orbiter or a guy while hammered. The prude has declared that off limits, so if she wants sex, she will try and get some commitment and investment before that happens, even if it requires some awkwardness - she has no choice, absent spinsterdom. A prude will not balk at say, holding hands or having your arm around her, while a frigid slut may.
Also, some girls are not frigid sluts per se, but will act like one if they've been freshly fucked and so will be indifferent to you - if a girl is very blase towards you on a date for no good reason, and she's otherwise on a par with the girls you otherwise bang, there's a good chance she just got banged within the last week or two so she has no hunger for men. Even my fellow female office workers shower me with more attention when they haven't been getting banged, even if they would never bang me.
How do you deal with this?
One solution, credit to DVY: sushi dinner date. She'll come on an empty stomach, and a couple sakes will get her going. I have this bar I go to that serves sake, and I frequently order it for myself, but I notice a lot of girls don't like sake, so you, may want to ask her beforehand if she likes it.
I'm kicking myself over a date with a chick like this last night. Still might have a chance with her, but I doubt it. Total sex freak but oddly distant and frigid while sober, and we didn't drink enough to make a difference. She even told me she gets frisky when drunk, lol. This girl was not British, but both me and a wing of mine experienced this with British girls very recently too - and my girl was frigid despite hooking up with me previously! That was too weird for me and I lost interest.
But with a lot of these girls nowadays, their initial sexual contact with strangers is ALWAYS done while drunk or on drugs. These girls have NEVER had a first kiss let alone a fuck with a stranger while sober. At most, they've had a first kiss sober with a guy they sort of knew or had seen several times. They may even wince a little at your touch, and feel uncomfortable. Northern European - British and Scandinavian chicks are especially susceptible to this - cultures where people binge drink to socialize. If you're trying to swoop in as a stranger, and she's sober, she may not give you enough time i.e. meetups to let you bang.
On dates with these chicks, I get stuck in this rut. I don't usually get them drunk enough to have them overcome their own neuroses about physical intimacy. And then because they have trouble building a connection quickly when sober, she'll be flaky about meeting up again. She'll feel indifferent to you. Trying to coax any romantic connection from a girl like this is like trying to get water out of a rock.
If you do get her drunk and bang, she may also feel guilt or regret over it and not talk to you again. She may not. I have had both happen. It can be hard to predict her reaction - if you do want to avoid that, having her sleep over or just spend more time together post-bang seems like a good idea.
The difference between this kind of girl and a genuinely prude or inexperienced girl is that a prude is usually willing to continue seeing you in the absence of sexual intimacy. (I don't mean to derogate girls who are 'prudes,' just using it as shorthand.) The frigid slut on the other hand wants the dick and has had the dick before, but 'feels weird' about you but lacks the patience of the prude to become comfortable with letting you bang. The frigid slut has very little dick attention span, while the prude, hopefully, has the opposite. It's not that the frigid slut is always getting dick - just that she is easily put off by a little physical discomfort, because she always has the avenue of eventually banging an orbiter or a guy while hammered. The prude has declared that off limits, so if she wants sex, she will try and get some commitment and investment before that happens, even if it requires some awkwardness - she has no choice, absent spinsterdom. A prude will not balk at say, holding hands or having your arm around her, while a frigid slut may.
Also, some girls are not frigid sluts per se, but will act like one if they've been freshly fucked and so will be indifferent to you - if a girl is very blase towards you on a date for no good reason, and she's otherwise on a par with the girls you otherwise bang, there's a good chance she just got banged within the last week or two so she has no hunger for men. Even my fellow female office workers shower me with more attention when they haven't been getting banged, even if they would never bang me.
How do you deal with this?
One solution, credit to DVY: sushi dinner date. She'll come on an empty stomach, and a couple sakes will get her going. I have this bar I go to that serves sake, and I frequently order it for myself, but I notice a lot of girls don't like sake, so you, may want to ask her beforehand if she likes it.
I'm kicking myself over a date with a chick like this last night. Still might have a chance with her, but I doubt it. Total sex freak but oddly distant and frigid while sober, and we didn't drink enough to make a difference. She even told me she gets frisky when drunk, lol. This girl was not British, but both me and a wing of mine experienced this with British girls very recently too - and my girl was frigid despite hooking up with me previously! That was too weird for me and I lost interest.
