I had a solid run of first date lays earlier this year. While the short-term confidence boost was nice, I actually think it was detrimental to my game overall. That is, in recent months I’ve found myself feeling entitled to a first date bang, especially with the plain jane 6s. But moving too fast and weaseling a girl back to my place who clearly needs more comfort has cost me some bangs. Balance is everything.
So lately I’ve been trying to recalibrate my expectations and assertiveness. Tonight I had a second date with a typical cutie, やさしい J-girl. The first date ended with some heavy petting, and tonight I got to do everything but put it in. Pretty sure that’s lined up for next time. And it got me thinking how 3 really is the magic number with girls.
Several of these concepts are common knowledge to game newbies and vets alike, but overall I think the guideline serves a purpose of finding the proper level of assertiveness in progressing from meet to bang.
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Rule of 3s
When you catch a girl looking at you 3 times, she’s clearly interested and wants you to talk to her.
When a girl gives you three 3 IOIs (asks a personal question, plays with her hair, tilts her chin) while you are gaming her, she is clearly attracted and ready for you to escalate the interaction.
When contacting a girl you don’t know well (met online or from day game) it’s probably best to propose a date on the 3rd text/email.
Conversely, when you get 3 consecutive non-replies from texts/emails, it’s time to move on to another prospect.
3 dates is a good standard for getting a bang. Set up logistics to have her be at your place, or vice versa, on the third date.
3 venue changes is the exception to the 3 date rule. Meeting at a gastropub, bouncing to a lounge, and then going back to your place might be enough to get a bang on the first or second date.
When escalating from kissing towards sex, always implement the “2 steps forward, 1 step back” approach. Timed right, it should erase any LMR.
However, when escalating, a girl giving 3 firm "No"s to removing/exploring under her shirt/pants/panties means that you’ve gone as far as you can that night. Especially when the attempts are spaced apart 5-15 minutes, it’s a clear signal to re-establish comfort and look towards the next date.
You need to bang a girl on 3 separate occasions before you can confidently place her into the fuckbuddy/harem/girlfriend category.
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Prudes and sloots, of course, will skew on both sides of the Rule of 3s. But in general, I think it can be applied to girls across the globe.
So in conclusion...
Don't be a pussy and lose a girl's respect and attraction by not making a move soon enough.
But also don't scare off a nice girl by escalating too quickly. Enjoy the mating dance and soon enough you'll be in her pants.
So lately I’ve been trying to recalibrate my expectations and assertiveness. Tonight I had a second date with a typical cutie, やさしい J-girl. The first date ended with some heavy petting, and tonight I got to do everything but put it in. Pretty sure that’s lined up for next time. And it got me thinking how 3 really is the magic number with girls.
Several of these concepts are common knowledge to game newbies and vets alike, but overall I think the guideline serves a purpose of finding the proper level of assertiveness in progressing from meet to bang.
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Rule of 3s
When you catch a girl looking at you 3 times, she’s clearly interested and wants you to talk to her.
When a girl gives you three 3 IOIs (asks a personal question, plays with her hair, tilts her chin) while you are gaming her, she is clearly attracted and ready for you to escalate the interaction.
When contacting a girl you don’t know well (met online or from day game) it’s probably best to propose a date on the 3rd text/email.
Conversely, when you get 3 consecutive non-replies from texts/emails, it’s time to move on to another prospect.
3 dates is a good standard for getting a bang. Set up logistics to have her be at your place, or vice versa, on the third date.
3 venue changes is the exception to the 3 date rule. Meeting at a gastropub, bouncing to a lounge, and then going back to your place might be enough to get a bang on the first or second date.
When escalating from kissing towards sex, always implement the “2 steps forward, 1 step back” approach. Timed right, it should erase any LMR.
However, when escalating, a girl giving 3 firm "No"s to removing/exploring under her shirt/pants/panties means that you’ve gone as far as you can that night. Especially when the attempts are spaced apart 5-15 minutes, it’s a clear signal to re-establish comfort and look towards the next date.
You need to bang a girl on 3 separate occasions before you can confidently place her into the fuckbuddy/harem/girlfriend category.
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Prudes and sloots, of course, will skew on both sides of the Rule of 3s. But in general, I think it can be applied to girls across the globe.
So in conclusion...
Don't be a pussy and lose a girl's respect and attraction by not making a move soon enough.
But also don't scare off a nice girl by escalating too quickly. Enjoy the mating dance and soon enough you'll be in her pants.