Quote: (07-20-2014 11:01 PM)HawkWrites Wrote:
Quote: (07-20-2014 10:58 PM)weambulance Wrote:
^^
You seem to be suggesting that being all buddy buddy and talking to cops is a good thing, like that's going to help you. Sure, being polite will stop them curb stomping you even if they're arresting you for some heinous shit, but running your yap just gives them rope to hang you with. A cop is acting like your friend to make you comfortable so you'll talk. If a cop is talking to you, it's because he suspects you of something, and your best bet is to comply with his legal demands and STFU until your lawyer is present. You think they're going to let you go if you seem like a cool enough guy or something? Serial killers are often very charming.
People don't like cops because cops can ruin your life on a whim, abuse of power is usually swept under the rug, and they take a very "us vs them" attitude toward "civilians". That sort of combative/dehumanizing attitude is extremely dangerous. Us vs them, our tribe vs their tribe, is one of the things that makes it very easy for soldiers to kill in combat. First hand experience here. Personally, I'm not that comfortable with our peace officers holding the same mindset as soldiers embroiled in war.
So, of course I'm very uncomfortable being around someone who has the power to completely fuck up my world just because I didn't grovel enough for his taste and I don't have my own badge. Even if a particular cop doesn't engage in corruption or abuse of power himself, but he sees it around him and does nothing, he's giving his tacit approval of corruption and abuse. Hardly the mark of a good cop. The people best suited to hold power are those who do not seek it. It doesn't matter what sort of power it is, that is always true.
And yes, I've been arrested several times too. Once I was mistaken for an active shooter, when I was also carrying a gun. Good times.
If you have absolutely for which to be guilty, you have no reason not to be buddy-buddy. My accusation was active shooter as well and I kept things light. I didn't grovel or beg but rather kept my composure and explained my situation. I was still hooked up but once I got to the squad car outside I was treated with nothing but respect. It sounds to me like you just got a cop that was a dick; I'm not doubting that they exist. I'm just doubting that they're the majority.
It's not true at all. As long as you're not a dick and don't display any qualities of being such you should be fine.
Bolded is incorrect. If you want to be buddy-buddy about a traffic violation, that's your call. Once you get into misdemeanor land and above, STFU and ask for a lawyer.
For just one example of how talking could be bad:
Let's say that you are falsely accused of rape. You know it's bullshit, so you freely talk and are "buddy-buddy" with the arresting and interrogating officers. They show you a picture of a girl. She's a complete cracked out ugly whore. You've never seen this woman in your life. So you tell the police this.
The problem is, the picture is of a woman you actually had sex with a week before. The picture shows her without makeup on and after a long night of drug/alcohol abuse: not how you remember her at all. When the police officer goes on the stand, do you know what he tells the jury?
Exactly what you told him. Mr. So-and-so said that he never saw this woman and he signed a statement saying so before we took a DNA sample from the pepsi bottle he was drinking from (we him pepsi, because we're buddies and all) and let him go.
Whoops! Why did you lie about knowing her? The DNA matches, so you obviously did see her...
At that point, you almost have to take the stand. As far as the jury is concerned, you are now a liar. Go ahead, get up on the stand and melt in front of the Court and the Jury in your own defense explaining why you couldn't identify her in the pictures, and then go on to explain how you didn't rape her. Do you think you would make a good witness in your own defense? I don't. It's nothing personal, but 99.9% of people are bad witnesses and crumble under the pressure. Even with preparation it's bad.
Not something I'd like to risk. If you want to be buddy-buddy, be buddy-buddy when you are on the stand with no statements to be offered against you.