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07-18-2014, 03:51 PM
I don't know if this is pouty or a well-thought out punishment. I'd love to see how it turns out.
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07-18-2014, 04:02 PM
He's absolutely right to raise this as an issue, but letting her twist in the wind is immature. It's pouty in my opinion. At least she's willing to talk about this with him. How many American women would do even that? Most of the time it's be grateful for whatever breadcrumbs you get.
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07-18-2014, 04:07 PM
His tone actually sounds red pill. He sure as heck got the hamster spinning.
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07-18-2014, 04:13 PM
This lady has gotten a little too comfortable, sounds like she's rationalizing her actions too
Basically they are still newlyweds, so he has a gang of sexless nights to look forward to...geesh
>She has put on weight
>Has built-in BS excuses
>"Rationing out the sex"
If he was smart, he would have an escape plan ready
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07-18-2014, 04:13 PM
I'm glad he held radio silence after sending her the spreadsheet. Got her thinking about it enough to have to post it on reddit. On the other hand, he's just two years into the marriage and is getting laid 3 out of 27 times in a month.
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07-18-2014, 04:16 PM
Comes off a bit passive aggressive at first
However, given he didn't tragically die, the dread game he's stringing along with it is pretty money. If anything, she's gonna return home from the trip and immediately suck every last drop of patriarch juice out of his privelige stick.
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07-18-2014, 04:17 PM
Oof. Glad they don't have kids. Clearly heading for divorce, as they seem to be mismatched sexually and have poor communication. Best to cut your losses now and move on. Three times in ~50 days is not "we're busy adults" it's "red alert, major malfunction, ship is sinking"
I agree with Cobra, not sure this is beta. We don't know if he's tried normal/mature communication and problem resolution strategy unsuccessfully and had to escalate to spinning up the hamster wheel. My guess is he did what he needed to do to finally get her attention and take him seriously.
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07-18-2014, 04:18 PM
Lame. It's the modern day equivalent of handing a girl a note.
Communication isn't so much what you say, but how you say it. Speaking from the chest, your voice booming, watching a woman melt in your presence. That's communicating.
You don't achieve any of that with this spreadshit B.S. It's good that he spoke up, which is more than some guys would do, but he missed out on the opportunity of saying this shit to her face. Saying inflammatory shit to a woman's face is one of life's greatest pleasures, and by not doing so he's buying into the fear that if he says anything then she'll walk out on him. It's always better to speak your mind to a woman, no matter how offensive. That's what gives them tingles. The only, and I mean ONLY valid point of common rhetoric of what women say they want, is honesty. Chances are, he stopped giving her tingles a long time ago, so he has just as much part in this, if not more, than she does.
This is pretty passive aggressive.
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07-18-2014, 04:27 PM
I don't know if his spread sheet is pathetic or an ironic way of communicating with his cubicle jockey wife.
Looks like she puts out about twice a month. I'll bet if he stopped trying there would be no sex at all.
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07-18-2014, 04:58 PM
My first thought upon reading the headline was "He sent his fucking wife a spreadsheet to complain? No wonder she won't fuck him."
Although I do think his lack of communication after the email is the right move, I doubt he understands why it is the right move. If he could get her hamster spinning that easily, he should never have let the relationship deteriorate to the level it is at. He should have her daydreaming at work about blowing him when she gets home.
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07-18-2014, 06:39 PM
I hope that guy is plowing other women for days while she is out of town.
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07-18-2014, 07:41 PM
My guess is the spreadsheet is a way to force her to face up to the lie that she'd be willing to have sex with him "if only" <insert-BS-excuse>. Putting it down on paper (or a spreadsheet in this case) forces her to acknowledge that she's doing nothing but moving the goal posts each time he initiates and she turns him down.
Someone should send this list to the next idiot writer who tells husbands that their wives would be having more sex with them "if only" they would do the dishes more often.
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07-18-2014, 07:51 PM
If he confronted her face to face she would have been defensive and would try to turn it around on him. This allows him to lay out the facts and by ignoring her it gives her time to stew.
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07-18-2014, 07:53 PM
He's going 2+ weeks without sex on average.
Going 2+ days without sex is completely unacceptable, guy is beta for waiting this out
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