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Stop being a player and be the Coach instead
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Stop being a player and be the Coach instead

As the years go by, notch counts increase to the uncountable, and the number of women who are wiling to be my part time lover reaches unsustainable highs - my game has taken new twists and turns. Currently, I'm experiencing a style that feels more like being a Coach than a Player.

By Coach I mean, I am the expert on the subject matter at hand and my job is to take raw talent an coach 'em up. And the raw talent is females.

Virtually every female is hung up about something. Whether its just getting out of relationship and feeling burned, being closed off emotionally, being unable to connect with her own body, afraid of being hurt, afraid of being stalked, afraid of being pumped and dumped - whatever it is - they are worried.

Once my value is established, which is very quickly due to my enormous efforts in lifestyle game (great body, fashion sense, great career, financially secure, ideal logistics, cool life, interesting hobbies and accomplishments outside of work, leadership qualities, etc - all of which were cultivated by the way, none of which was handed to me), and attraction is established - the game is about coaxing these women out of their fears and into a comfort zone.

And I should point out that my "game" has an end game. The end game is to create a relationship with a woman that involves deeply intimate sexual experiences, boyfriend/girlfriend type affection when together, and her accepting that she is just one of many woman I do this with. I have multiple girlfriends, women who love me and I in my own way love as well. Women I would pick up from the airport if they asked or take to the doctor if sick. And when we're together they feel like the only woman in the entire world....but they only get me once every 7-10 days unless you're the number 1 girl and she gets me 1-2 times per week, max.

So if you're a beginner, or not interested in deeper connections with women - then this post is not for you.

I'm copying/pasting a post I made from another thread below. It is the beginning of my thoughts on this side of game that I am trying to develop now. I'm going to keep working on it and see if I can't develop it into something more coherent but for now I throw it out for discussion:

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"soup: you've touched on something really important. my game these days is sort of like therapist with these women. unfazed by their shit tests, their emotional ups and downs, the manifestations of their own insecurities - my role is to let all that shit come out and then defuse it all. sometimes by ignoring, sometimes by being direct, other times confrontational, other times by offering them an alternative.

i tend to call it out lightly and say, hey you dont need to do that you know.

women are aware of their crazy and many do want to push through it.

just be a rock, an oak tree, immovable, unfazed, demonstrate mastery of them and the female gender.

most women want to be uninhibited, open, trusting, fearless...and its from their inability to be those things that shit tests/acting out/acting weird come from. 99% of the time them acting weird is them being unable to process their own feelings without it being overridden by some protective mechanism inside.

one night i was making out with a girl on the street alone and when things were getting really good and sexy she just turned around and started walking away - right into oncoming traffic!

she didn't WANT to do that.

she just got scared of what it meant - hot kisses meant sex - sex might mean attachment - if its her getting attached it means she can get hurt - if its me getting attached it means yet another dude trying to wife her (she was really hot) -

as a man, being able to understand the real genesis of those seemingly insane behaviors does many things. 1) it makes you much more calm in the face of crazy. 2) it makes the women think you're some kind of savant. 3) it brings the women closer to a stable point where she can relax and let herself get intimate and open.

I just saw the movie Edge of Tomorrow (spoiler Wink ) - and in the movie the character repeats the same day over and over and over again like 1000's of times it seems. and each day, he learns another small but invaluable piece of information that allows him to make further progress to his goal. so when people around him see him with total calm and mastery over what seems to be an insane situation - they think he is some kind of miracle man. but in reality he had just played this particular game 10,000 times when to them it looks like the first time.

this is the point you want to get to with women. go down the road enough times so that you've seen all the possible outcomes, combinations, permutations...so much so that you can predict woman's behavior easily as well as really cut right down to the source of all their behavior. they will look at you like some kind of god. or at the very least consistently exclaim "you are not like any man i've ever met before!" or "why are you still single?!" or "I (the woman) better not fuck this up"

women want men who are able to master them, coach them, guide them to a higher level of being. do that while creating a safe space for her to explore her sexuality and you'll have a dedicated lover for as long as you would like."
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Stop being a player and be the Coach instead

I really like this for a couple reasons.

1. I really enjoy high intimacy/affection arrangements. Notches don't motivate me.

2. These situations often bring out the crazy in spades. My problem in the past is that I took their crazy personally and created problems in the relationships by getting mad at the symptoms instead of dealing with the underlying causes.

3. I'm a teacher by trade so this is in my wheel house.

4. You may just mine out some decent women who you may have otherwise discarded. I have enough pessimism with women that this is a good antidote to keep me positive. Lizards need guidance. It's fact.

Great post.
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Stop being a player and be the Coach instead

Quote: (07-17-2014 10:29 PM)SheriffBart Wrote:  

I really like this for a couple reasons.

1. I really enjoy high intimacy/affection arrangements. Notches don't motivate me.

2. These situations often bring out the crazy in spades. My problem in the past is that I took their crazy personally and created problems in the relationships by getting mad at the symptoms instead of dealing with the underlying causes.

3. I'm a teacher by trade so this is in my wheel house.

4. You may just mine out some decent women who you may have otherwise discarded. I have enough pessimism with women that this is a good antidote to keep me positive. Lizards need guidance. It's fact.

Great post.

can you tell us a little of what you did/how you solved this.

valhalla
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Stop being a player and be the Coach instead

As if being a player wasn't enough work already [Image: smile.gif]
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