[emh]

So I had a date last night with someone I met online. (this is in Colombia, btw). We spent 4 hours together and I really liked her personality but wasn't into her physically. So I could see us becoming good friends, but nothing more.

Here's the thing....she showed up with her sister. Her sister was there for the first 1 1/2 hour of the date. The sister was definitely more my type. Don't get me wrong....by Colombian standards she was nothing special...but there was something about her that I really liked. And I'm thinking of pursuing her.

So any thoughts on how I should play this? BTW, I should mention that they've very close - live together, work together, etc.

[Tyler for short]

That is a tough one. The switch might work with friends, but sisters would be even more difficult.

Do you think you could get away with it? Does she seem into you and is your connection with the first sister not that strong? If you were afraid of losing the girl you initially went out with, then maybe abort that idea....if you don't care about losing her then go for it.

If it were me...I would probably go for the prettier one. Hell...I'd probably try to get a threesome going. I feel like I can make anything work, and if it doesn't work out....I never lose sleep over it. But that's just how I work. No girl is worth feeling any sense of loss over, so I always go for the girl I want.

[emh]

Hey, thanks for the input! I agree with going for the one I'm interested in. But I could use some input on how to do that. Should I just tell the one I went out with "hey, I thought you were cool but your sister's the one I'm interested in"? Or continue hanging out with her and hope the sister keeps showing up so I can vibe on her? Or maybe something else?

[skulled]

(02-27-2011 07:56 PM)emh Wrote:  

"hey, I thought you were cool but your sister's the one I'm interested in"?

I don't think that is a very good idea! Especially given that they are sisters, it would be bad enough with pulling a line like that on two friends.

More often than not, that is just going to get you neither of them.

Your best bet is probably to analyze a few things:

- How is your rapport with first sister? If she isn't feeling it, then a slightly toned down version of the above might work ... but nothing this direct. Remember you need to stay on the good side of this sister to have a shot at the other one, given that they live, work together. You need make this sister your ally, not your enemy.

- Did you make a connection with the other sister? You definitely should feel this out before making a move, otherwise you are just going to shoot yourself in the foot and get neither of them. In the case, where you don't care if you get the first sister and only are targeting the second sister, then I guess go for it as Tyler said, you've got nothing to lose.

- Try and hang out with both as much as possible, and make an obvious connection with the second sister in front of the first sister. With friends, this probably would not work, but with sister's you might be able to get the first one to back down or even suggest you go for her sister if you play your cards right. Again this is only going to work if the first sister herself doesn't dig you, otherwise she might feel burnt and that is not going to be good.

- Hanging out with both of them together also might pave the way for a threesome if you get both of them excited enough and in any case probably gives you better insights in to the dynamic between the two.

- If you don't care about either of them that much, I say you are better off trying to pull a threesome, than just gunning for the second sister. You are going to be taking a risk in any case, so you might as well go for the greater reward. If you pull it off, awesome! If not, well don't lose sleep over it and just get on with it.

Just my two cents!

[theIVth]

Bro, you would have to be bold as hell to try to get at a chicks sister lol.

If it were me tho, I would just keep dating the first sister and try to see how the second sister responds to me. See if she gives you prolonged eye contact and things like that. If I felt the second sister was attracted to me then I would just try to get at her without ever mentioning anything to the first sister. Saying something to the first sister is only going to blow up in your face.

Basicly, in this case, you just have to be a dog and try to get with the second sister secretly.

[emh]

Thanks again for the replies. Not sure there's a good way to handle the situation. If I keep hanging out with the first sister, she might develop stronger feelings for me which would make "the switch" even harder. Anyway, I may just walk away from the situation. As I said, the sister I was interested in isn't anything special by Colombian standards.

[MiXX]

(02-28-2011 03:18 PM)emh Wrote:  

Anyway, I may just walk away from the situation.

This is what is important! If you are willing to walk away, then you may as well walk away knowing, than thinking "what if....?".

Go for the sister, call her (the one you DO want) aside, and tell her wassup - make sure you mention that by no means you feel she does this all the time, but it would be a disservice to not tell her, and you are confident she (the sister you want) is mature enough to handle the truth. =)

If you man up, you'd be surprised how many women sleep with their sisters, best friends, cousins and even mothers boyfriends or potential lovers. This is COLOMBIA!!

Mixx

[Ajiaco]

Mixx writes: If you man up, you'd be surprised how many women sleep with their sisters, best friends, cousins and even mothers boyfriends or potential lovers. This is COLOMBIA!!

Truer words never spoken!

[emh]

(03-01-2011 01:25 PM)MiXX Wrote:  

(02-28-2011 03:18 PM)emh Wrote:  

Anyway, I may just walk away from the situation.

This is what is important! If you are willing to walk away, then you may as well walk away knowing, than thinking "what if....?".

Go for the sister, call her (the one you DO want) aside, and tell her wassup - make sure you mention that by no means you feel she does this all the time, but it would be a disservice to not tell her, and you are confident she (the sister you want) is mature enough to handle the truth. =)

If you man up, you'd be surprised how many women sleep with their sisters, best friends, cousins and even mothers boyfriends or potential lovers. This is COLOMBIA!!

Mixx

Great advice as always Mixx! Of course, I don't have direct access to the sister I'm interested in....would have to get together with the one I'm not interested in and suggest she invite her sister along.

[rivelino]

i love the title of the thread.

[emh]

(03-02-2011 03:21 AM)rivelino Wrote:  

i love the title of the thread.

I always aim to amuse!

[rivelino]

you should always be "gaming" everyone you meet. again, i learned this from yohami. young, old, pretty, not pretty, every girl has feminine energy, and every girl you meet is someone to have fun with and to enjoy. you are just a fun, outgoing man, full of life and full of energy.

if you had 1.5 hours with both of them, that was your chance to play them off each other and be the center of attention. you are the center of love and joy. all the girls are around you, feeling the glow of your masculine power.

now, you should go out again, the three of you, or bring a wingman, the four of you.

lovedrop's cd series also says something interesting -- also repeated above -- which is that you are not tied to any outcome. indifference. you just want to have a good time. so you should go out with both sisters again, bring a friend, all of you go out for drinks, for laughs, who knows, maybe your girl's sister invites a girl that you like even *more* than the two sisters, life is one big beautiful adventure, and you are not stiff or brittle or anxious or needy.

life is beautiful.

so that is my advice. go out again, the three of you, FOR FUN. be playful and charismatic with both girls. you can't help, you are a real man who radiates joy and masculinity.

whichever girl is drawn to your masculine gravitational pull, cool. if both are, even better. if neither, that is cool too, you are having a great time, enjoying life.

another piece of great advice, by doug1, was "you want her but don't need her."

you want both girls, but don't need either.