[robreke]

Been seeing her a lot at my normal hangout spots like every few days. First time I approached her over a month ago....she was friendly and conversant....gave me the boyfriend routine when I number closed.

I saw her like two days in a row last week....she was eating lunch alone...I walked up and said "are you Katie.....yes. "remember me"...she says yes. "okay...well, just wanted to say hey, I keep seeing you everywhere." she's like...yeah...we do go to the same spots a lot. She looked a little apprehensive.

I guess it's like they say...when they don't find you attractive you're "creepy"

Then...today she was at my favorite coffeeshop...where I have gotten a lot of numbers lately. we were on our laptops across the room. I basically ignored her....was just comfortable getting my work done. when I glanced at her...she seemed a bit uncomfortable...kind of itching herself....definitely not looking at me. I ignored her and left.

I went to whole foods for lunch....as I was getting my food...her and her friend were standing right in front of me. I ignored her. Her and the friend walked off. Just weird. I guess the best way to act is like I don't notice her. I want to be able to talk to girls in the coffeeshop still....but she hangs out there a lot.

btw....she doesn't have a boyfriend....she always is by herself eating....or at the coffeeshop. That was BS. she's hot though....a solid 8. I wish she'd either bang me...or disappear.

[Ensam]

The only way you'll ever get her is to successfully hit on other girls in front of her. The only way you're going to successfully hit on other girls in front of her is if you stop giving a crap about her at all. Chicks who blow you out will suddenly find you much more attractive when they see you get some traction with other women. This doesn't mean ignore her, treat her like you would a dude you kept on running into. A, "hey what's up" and maybe a 'nice to see you' but nothing more than that.

[simondice]

^^^ 100% true. Hit it off with other girls and watch how "all of the sudden" she wants to be friendly with you. I had that happen at my college, and some of the hot girls that frequent the same pool parties saw me hit it off with some other girls, some that " had boyfriends" all of the sudden "remember me from somewhere" and they give out phones numbers now. Women...

[Jeans]

going up to her and asking her if she "remembered you" was a bad move. it actually does sound a little creepy.

a better line would've been ... "hey...youre that girl right? well this is weird...are you stalking me?"

[vinman]

Ensam is on the money. Also, take a girl or two that are comparable to the spots where you usually see her. Let her see you in the presence of other women. Not to rub her nose in it, but to show her that you can get better bitches.

[From Vegas to Tokyo]

Ensam is right on the money, as others have said. I'd ignore her, and hit on other girls. If she sees what she likes and wants a piece she'll come up and approach you. I wouldn't put much stock into what she thinks or says. Sounds like right now she's not into you. That's fine, there are 3 billion other chicks in the world, don't get hung up on one. She might never come around, but she will never come around if you keep going up to her and asking her if she remembers you.

[CJ]

I'm confused here, are you trying to get with this girl still? Not trying to be a dick, but she's clearly not into you. You either gave off the wrong vibe, said the wrong thing, didn't have the look she wanted, or whatever.

Just keep going on about your business and pretend she's not even there. If she gets curious about the other girls you're chatting it up with, and re-initiates with you, great! Take it from there, but don't expect much.

Also, as a side note, don't try to "rub it in her face" that you're with other girls, do that shit for you and your dick, not for some girl that at this point should be meaningless to you.

[robreke]

(06-25-2014 10:35 PM)CJ Wrote:  

I'm confused here, are you trying to get with this girl still? Not trying to be a dick, but she's clearly not into you. You either gave off the wrong vibe, said the wrong thing, didn't have the look she wanted, or whatever.

Just keep going on about your business and pretend she's not even there. If she gets curious about the other girls you're chatting it up with, and re-initiates with you, great! Take it from there, but don't expect much.

Also, as a side note, don't try to "rub it in her face" that you're with other girls, do that shit for you and your dick, not for some girl that at this point should be meaningless to you.

I'm not trying to get with her. That second time I approached her...maybe I did it out of some deep and incorrect hope that she would be friendly and had "regretted" rejecting me the first time. I shoulda just said what's up and kept walking.

I guess I'm not to the point where I take rejection as no big deal yet...but I think I'm getting better at it.