[Screwston]

How do y'all approach a girl at the store, mall, etc? Do you try to be smooth or get straight to it "I'm ______. What's your name?" Do you use the same lines every time? I want to try some new things out

[theIVth]

If in the mall Ill just usually ask a girl something random but relevant at the same time and see how she responds. If she's looking all in my eyes and whatnot, Ill keep pushing to see how far I can go. Or sometimes I may just be direct and tell her in a tasteful way how fine I think she is and that I'd love to be able to get to know her. Just depends on the climate and what mood im in.

If Im at the club, Ill pretty much do the same but Ill escalate pretty quickly seeing as how most loud clubs that I go to dont really allow for too much small talk.

I think it depends on what type of clubs you go to too tho. At international clubs/majority white clubs, you will see a lot more kissing and whatnot than you will see at a urban/black club. From reading on here, it seems that white girls and the like are a little more open to instant public displays of affection right off the bat if their drunk enough and/or really feeling you. At urban clubs the culture is a little different. Im usually only approaching black girls since Im african american and the rules of engagement are different; you cant just be kissing all on a black girl like that right off the bat. I usually just get their number, mingle a little bit and then move on. If she was really interested she'll remember you when you call.

Whether direct or subtle, girls usually already know that your approaching them cause your interested and want their number. At the end of the day, all you can really do is shoot and see what you hit.

What part of Houston are you from? I was born and raised in Houston.

[FretDancer]

(02-21-2011 02:33 AM)houston Wrote:  

How do y'all approach a girl at the store, mall, etc? Do you try to be smooth or get straight to it "I'm ______. What's your name?" Do you use the same lines every time? I want to try some new things out

At a store its easy. If she works there, ask her to help you around with something, let her talk and start asking questions in a playful vibe, throw a few jokes here and there. After she's done helping you, begin asking casual personal questions and hit off from there.

If she doesn't work there, try making a comment about something she's looking at or plans on buying, don't start firing personal questions too soon though, create a fun vibe.

At mall halls, well, you can try some direct game although I doubt "I'm ______. What's your name?" will get you any results. Try commenting on something about her that caught your attention, refrain from commenting on her looks since its very cliche and its not counter intuitive.

[Screwston]

What's up ivth. I'm from south east, around Hobby and almeda mall. Do you still stay here?

[theIVth]

Nah I moved to the DC area for my job. But I was on the Southeast too....3rd ward tho.

[Giovonny]

(02-21-2011 02:33 AM)houston Wrote:  

How do y'all approach a girl at the store, mall, etc? Do you try to be smooth or get straight to it "I'm ______. What's your name?" Do you use the same lines every time? I want to try some new things out

Good advice from "TheIVth"

Honestly, for the last 2 years I have been doing basically the same thing. Striking up a casual conversation, being aloof and playful, and then basically reading her response from there. If she is giving me good eye contact and asking me ?'s, then I will push it harder and be a little more direct. If she is not feeling me, I will just move on.

This a decent stradegy and you will eventually vibe with a girl and get laid if you approach enough of them.

BUT, I wanna go a little bit deeper. I have realized something lately....

There is a deeper level of Game that you should be working on. All these little playful conversations will definatly help you get better. Looking sharp, speaking well, being funny, all that stuff helps. But, what i'm talking about is...MAKING A WOMAN FEEL YOUR PRESENCE!

This is just the vibe you give off, we all know they can sense it.

So how can you practice and improve making a woman feel you presence???

Use the ballsy pick up line that you mentioned in your post.

"I'm ___, whats your name?"

Except, I would say it like this... "My name is Giovonny, Whats your name?"

When you approach girls like this, you are working on something deeper and more powerful then when you approach the other way. Anyone can approach that way. But few guys have the courage and inner game to approach like this. When you do it like this you are risking everything, but you don't care, you can deal with whatever happens, thats how strong you are, you are a big boy, you don't really give a shit anyways. You saw a cute girl and you stepped to her. No big deal. Thats what we are supposed to do.

When you can pull this off with no fear or embarrasessment. Then you are really building your vibe, confidence and inner game. The other stuff is good too, but its just building conversational skills. This is building your entire masculine energy from the core.

This what I have been doing lately, building rapport and attraction without using alot of words. Just good eye contact game and "presence game"

Make her feel you. Its a vibe thing. Its powerful. Your "aura" can make her pussy wet.

[Screwston]

Good advice everyone. Keep them coming

Ivth - already. How does it compare up there to houston? I've heard nothing but bad things about DC

[thieflikeme]

question for the brothas around here...do you guys tailor your approach differently because you're black? I find that girls are a little intimidated if I'm a bit too direct, ESPECIALLY white/asian girls.

[Feo]

I hold my phone out and say "bitch..put your number in there" if that doesn't work you have weak game.

[theIVth]

(02-22-2011 03:49 PM)houston Wrote:  

Good advice everyone. Keep them coming

Ivth - already. How does it compare up there to houston? I've heard nothing but bad things about DC

DC is alright. Its not "the shit", but its cool. Cant say that Ive seen a whole bunch of really BAD females....its about average in that regard.

[Giovonny]

(02-23-2011 04:02 AM)Feo Wrote:  

I hold my phone out and say "bitch..put your number in there" if that doesn't work you have weak game.

Your not gonna believe this but I HAVE been experimenting with calling girls "Bitches". Don't call me a misogynist or whatever. Im just doing Anthropology research. I have done it with 2 girls.

It started during sex, I would call her a bitch and tell her to talk dirty and call herself a "bitch" and stuff like that. The first girl did it but the next day she told me she didn't like it. But, it was no big deal. The 2nd girl was a little shy at first but she got in to it and started calling herself daddys little bitch and all that. After that I started saying it kind of jokingly to her when we were together. Nothing too crazy. She trusted me as her man and if I wanted to call her a bitch once in a while she was basically cool with it.

That girl was down and loyal as fuck.

The first girl was cool but I don't think she could ever love a man as hard as the 2nd girl.

The first girl was happy with 49% of the power.

The second girl wanted at least 51%.

I know that might sound a little crazy but I'm just reporting whats going on out here on the front lines of the modern Game movement.

[Feo]

Makes total sense bro. Keep doing what your doing.

[Giovonny]

Update to my previous post:

I wanted to share something else about eye-contact. When a girl looks you in the eye she is basically testing you. Are you man enough to look her back in the eye and just hold that eye contact in a comfortable non-creepy way . Sometimes eye-contact can seem uncomfortable or weird. This is usually an inner game problem with you or the girl. Try to get comfortable with looking a girl in the eye. I usually have a little smile or smirk on my face. Don't ever look down or appear to be intimidated by her eyes. This is beyond "body language", this is "eye language". Learn to relax your face and not hold any tension or uneasiness in your face and body.

I have noticed that when a girl starts to like me, she starts to look at me a little differently. She is looking deeper into my soul to see if she can find any "chinks in the armor". Don't let your eyes give you away. Don't look away like the little high school girl who just made eye contact with popular guy in school. Keep your eyes strong and don't move your eye balls all over the place like a nervous animal. The better you get at "eye-language" the stronger your inner game will be.

"The eyes are windows to the soul"

[theIVth]

(02-22-2011 04:29 PM)thieflikeme Wrote:  

question for the brothas around here...do you guys tailor your approach differently because you're black? I find that girls are a little intimidated if I'm a bit too direct, ESPECIALLY white/asian girls.

The majority of the white girls that Ive dealt with were not from me just cold approaching them like I would a black girl. I either met them back when I was in school, thru a friend, the internet, or at work.

The few that I did meet from cold approaching were white girls that I felt comfortable approaching cause they were the only white girl at a black club or something like that; basicly I knew they liked black guys.

The one asian girl that Ive been with in my life, I met her while riding the shuttle bus back in college. We just ended up talkin somehow cause we were sitting on the same seat. She came back to my dorm later that day and ended up giving me some head. Ended up fucking like 2 days later.

I wouldnt think you would need to change your approach if you were to cold approach a white girl or asian girl tho. If their giving you prolonged eye contact, it should just be business as usual just like with any black girl you would approach.

If they thought you were intimidating you would probably never know cause they more than likely wouldnt be looking your way due to them being scared of you.

[FretDancer]

(02-24-2011 07:27 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Update to my previous post:

I wanted to share something else about eye-contact. When a girl looks you in the eye she is basically testing you. Are you man enough to look her back in the eye and just hold that eye contact in a comfortable non-creepy way . Sometimes eye-contact can seem uncomfortable or weird. This is usually an inner game problem with you or the girl. Try to get comfortable with looking a girl in the eye. I usually have a little smile or smirk on my face. Don't ever look down or appear to be intimidated by her eyes. This is beyond "body language", this is "eye language". Learn to relax your face and not hold any tension or uneasiness in your face and body.

I have noticed that when a girl starts to like me, she starts to look at me a little differently. She is looking deeper into my soul to see if she can find any "chinks in the armor". Don't let your eyes give you away. Don't look away like the little high school girl who just made eye contact with popular guy in school. Keep your eyes strong and don't move your eye balls all over the place like a nervous animal. The better you get at "eye-language" the stronger your inner game will be.

"The eyes are windows to the soul"

Great post Giovanny, it does indeed feel weird but once you get the hang of it you feel like you've gained alot of new 'power', it boosts your confidence and your inner game itself.

When you engage in an eye contact 'battle', try your best not to break the contact, do it with a smile and its gonna be a deadly blow, all that would be left is for you to approach and feel her nervousness and amazement when she sees you're walking towards her, still with that smirk on your face.