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Not taking opportunities makes you bitter
06-06-2014, 01:10 AM
Think about it - Don't start a business and you hate business owners. Don't get a good phone and you hate all people with good phones. Don't learn golf and you hate all weekend golfers. Don't rush a fraternity and you hate everyone in Greek life.
The above examples are exaggerations but they reflect the truth.
If you want to be emotionally healthy - take opportunities and make the most of your time.
Am I right or wrong? Discuss.
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06-06-2014, 02:59 AM
Don't approach women or learn game, become a game denialist.
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06-06-2014, 03:15 AM
What if one is an existential nihilist & a misantrope? What then? What if it feels that the world be a better place if it burned around once or twice? But it feels not strongly enough to actually go out and find a red button to push. Because of that aforementioned nihilism? How does that happen? Not enough love & care? Did I say the L word?
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Not taking opportunities makes you bitter
06-06-2014, 09:41 AM
They may be true for you OP.
I tend to look on the brighter side of missed opportunities: i.e. i won't miss it next time.
Can't say I really hate anyone for the things they do or buy…
How old are you?
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06-06-2014, 10:30 AM
I am not sure in which book Nabokov wrote it (I think Pnin), but it stuck with me even if I can't quote verbatim:
There is no feeling in life more mundane than a missed opportunity.
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06-06-2014, 12:57 PM
There is no point in being bitter towards those that take chances that you could also take. I look at it this way, if someone has done something before me, there is even more incentive to pursue it because it is possible.
We collectively can agree that the only bad opportunity is an opportunity not taken, life is short, go out and make the most of it.
"Money over bitches, nigga stick to the script." - Jay-Z
They gonna love me for my ambition.
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06-06-2014, 03:23 PM
Yeah I think a lot of guys fall victim to this kind of thinking, including myself occasionally.
I think you're conclusion about taking up opportunities leading to less regret is definitely true.
Regret in itself is a strange concept since it focuses only on negative 'potential losses' from a decision instead of the realized benefits that'd wouldn't have occurred had you made the other choice.
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06-06-2014, 04:31 PM
I stopped being bitter towards other people. That is emotionally healthy.
Being bitter is about as beta as it gets. I've seen dudes who venomously hate on greeks and it's pathetic. I would have been swimming in a sea of sorority pussy if I would have rushed, but I probably would have missed out on banging out a third of the cheer team as well as every other opportunity that I have had because I'm not greek. Still, I look at greeks and say, "good for them." They have their world and I have mine.
You gotta realize that when you come to a fork in the road that there are opportunities no matter if you go left or right.
It's no big deal if you take a wrong turn every now and then, some opportunities aren't even right for you to take. Some people aren't cut out to own businesses. The good news is that there will always be another opportunity.
Learn from everyone, and understand that you are running your own race. Life is too short to be caught up in what everyone else is doing. Some things are better to want than to actually have.
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06-07-2014, 05:26 AM
There is obviously no research to support this but I am sure that seeing a beautiful women and not hitting on her lowers a man's testosterone and reduces his lifespan, makes him more likely to get depressed and tired. This makes betas tired, fat and aggressive white knights.
A natural man's response when interacting with a beautiful woman is to flirt and tease. Even if it doesn't lead to sex, it improves the mood and rises the energy of everybody involved. The sterile environments of western offices and public places is a nest of psychological diseases.
I would even say that the western obsession with hookup culture and one night stands is due to people being denied a sexual banter in everyday talk and dissolution of sexual roles. Which leaves sex the only place where these roles can be lived. Therefore west is so obsessed with sex without procreation. In any more traditional culture where a man is allowed to say sexist jokes aloud, the people's preference for relationships over hookups is higher.