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05-23-2014, 10:56 PM
I have recently been on a string of dates with girls of various ages. Afterwards they basically fall off the planet and I dont hear from them again. This is even though I have kiss closed all of them. This has never happened to me before, the majority of the time if I get a kiss it leads to sex at some stage in the near future. This is becoming a worrying trend!
I have tried being the first to contact after the dates, I have tried no contact after the dates. It makes no difference. Im doing something wrong and I am not sure what it is.
Anyone else experience anything like this? And what did you do to resolve it? Looking for suggestions.
I took a very tidy 19yr old out last night and don't want to fuck up yet another opportunity.
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05-24-2014, 02:22 AM
Read Bang and Day Bang, but for now I would just concentrate on the later chapters of Bang.
Really, we would need more information to figure out what is up with your problem.
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05-24-2014, 06:10 AM
Eradicator's right; it could be one of a million things you are doing wrong very badly. It could be lots of things you are doing a bit badly.
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05-25-2014, 08:36 PM
Reading Bang and Day Bang (and not just casually flipping through them, reading it all, taking notes, reflecting on myself in between chapters, etc) really helped my game. It made me realize not only what I was doing wrong, but what I had done right sometimes and what I needed to do right all the time. Especially for newbies, some stuff you say will inevitably feel scripted, while other stuff will feel natural, and that could throw her off. Identify what you've done wrong through reading books, but also reflect on your own approaches. You can think you know everything in your head but until you truly internalize it you'll never be able to apply it in real time. Reflecting on your approaches and your interactions can help you apply your learning in real time.
Also, who cares about this 19 year old. You might do good, or you might blow it. Try to build attraction, but also build an emotional connection. Girls have no problem throwing out guys who they don't feel anything about, even if they once kissed them or had sex with them. If you've built an emotional connection, you're miles ahead of the 12 other guys who hit on her that day. Even if you do blow it, remember, even if she's one in a million, there are 6,000 girls out there who are exactly like her, who you haven't blown it with. Abundance mentality.
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05-26-2014, 05:54 PM
what you are doing is not a small thing, but it's simple... you are not creating enough attraction nor connection during your dates with these girls. Honestly those little when to text tricks will only help you if she is on the fence about you. If you did your job correctly she should be ecstatic to see you again. It's a very big subject.
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05-26-2014, 07:09 PM
Stop going for the kiss, go for sex instead.