Hey everyone,
This is my first post on these forums, although I've been a fan of Roosh's website and books for about a year. I discovered the site and picked up a copy of Bang while I was studying abroad last Spring in Florianópolis, SC, Brazil. I enjoy Roosh's work because I find it to be refreshingly clear and straightforward, and much easier to learn and apply than the highly overrated and overpriced work of others in the game community, such as that of Love Systems and Stylelife.
Just to give you a bit of background on myself, I'm a 23 year old college student, attending college in the southern California area, where I study art, film, and animation.
I lead an active social life with plenty of friends, but I've always considered my skills with women to be lacking. I'm certainly much better off than I used to be - when I was in high school I had almost no skills with women, and I only had one serious relationship during all my high school years. It wasn't until college that I started to figure things out. By moving out to the west coast, meeting a new group of like-minded friends, and discovering the concept of game (a friend lent me a copy of Neil Strauss's book), I began to discover what I had been doing wrong, and over the next few months my results improved drastically.
After about a year, I met a particular girl who I truly valued, and I decided to start dating her exclusively. We were together for about a year before things went sour - she started to act overly needy and was demanding too much of my time, and I was extremely busy with school and my own projects, so I had to break it off.
After the relationship was over I had a really difficult time readjusting to single life. I felt as though my newfound game skills had all but disappeared, and I suddenly felt no better off than my high school days. I'm not sure what sent me into such a bad rut... perhaps I was jaded by the rough breakup, perhaps I hadn't internalized my new skill set and had simply lost it due to lack of practice. I suspect that both factors were to blame.
I tried to reeducate myself and review the techniques I'd learned the first time around, but I found the whole pick-up 'community' to be very different from what I remembered - the old information seemed to be outdated, and the new stuff was only available for a price. And the more I searched for help, the more I found the community to be oversaturated with hundreds of self-proclaimed 'pick-up artists' who all claim they are the best. In desperation, I even signed up for a 1-month membership to the "Stylelife Academy" which turned out to be a total waste of money.
I went to Brazil in the Spring of 2010 for a semester abroad, and decided to try my luck with the brasileiras. I was hoping to have an easier time than back home due to my foreign status, but in reality I found it to be much more difficult because of the language barrier and different social traditions (particularly in the south of Brazil, where the girls are more European-looking and are more accustomed to gringos). It was during this time that I came across your website and found it to be full of new, useful advice. I was also impressed by the fact that it didn't have the seedy corporate feel of the more well-known game websites. Thanks to a combination of Roosh's book, an intensive language learning process, and a lot of trial-and-error, I managed to start figuring things out, and by the end of my five months in Brazil I had become rather good at getting numbers and makeouts. However, I only got one lay during my time down there. I was proud of the one I got (she was very pretty, and spoke four languages fluently but not a word of English), but I definitely could have done much better if I'd had a few more months to hone my skills. I fully intend to return to Brazil for a longer stay once I have the money to do so.
Unfortunately my skills did not translate back to life in the States, and when I returned home I faced another discouraging dry spell, which has continued to this day. My confidence has been knocked down very low, and these days, while I have occasional moments of decent game, my skills are very inconsistent and are never at my desired level. Whenever I have success lately, it generally seems to be luck-related. I'm very shy when it comes to approaching, and I have a hard time talking to girls outside of a bar/club environment. Also, I definitely rely on alcohol more than I should to give me the courage to approach and act confident.
Lately I've resorted to hooking up with my ex, which I know is a bad idea. Now it's a new year and I've decided I need to do something really proactive about getting my game on track before I get too comfortable in my current situation. I thought I'd start by posting this message.
I look forward to any advice or feedback that anyone is willing to give. Thank you!
-Stien
This is my first post on these forums, although I've been a fan of Roosh's website and books for about a year. I discovered the site and picked up a copy of Bang while I was studying abroad last Spring in Florianópolis, SC, Brazil. I enjoy Roosh's work because I find it to be refreshingly clear and straightforward, and much easier to learn and apply than the highly overrated and overpriced work of others in the game community, such as that of Love Systems and Stylelife.
Just to give you a bit of background on myself, I'm a 23 year old college student, attending college in the southern California area, where I study art, film, and animation.
I lead an active social life with plenty of friends, but I've always considered my skills with women to be lacking. I'm certainly much better off than I used to be - when I was in high school I had almost no skills with women, and I only had one serious relationship during all my high school years. It wasn't until college that I started to figure things out. By moving out to the west coast, meeting a new group of like-minded friends, and discovering the concept of game (a friend lent me a copy of Neil Strauss's book), I began to discover what I had been doing wrong, and over the next few months my results improved drastically.
After about a year, I met a particular girl who I truly valued, and I decided to start dating her exclusively. We were together for about a year before things went sour - she started to act overly needy and was demanding too much of my time, and I was extremely busy with school and my own projects, so I had to break it off.
After the relationship was over I had a really difficult time readjusting to single life. I felt as though my newfound game skills had all but disappeared, and I suddenly felt no better off than my high school days. I'm not sure what sent me into such a bad rut... perhaps I was jaded by the rough breakup, perhaps I hadn't internalized my new skill set and had simply lost it due to lack of practice. I suspect that both factors were to blame.
I tried to reeducate myself and review the techniques I'd learned the first time around, but I found the whole pick-up 'community' to be very different from what I remembered - the old information seemed to be outdated, and the new stuff was only available for a price. And the more I searched for help, the more I found the community to be oversaturated with hundreds of self-proclaimed 'pick-up artists' who all claim they are the best. In desperation, I even signed up for a 1-month membership to the "Stylelife Academy" which turned out to be a total waste of money.
I went to Brazil in the Spring of 2010 for a semester abroad, and decided to try my luck with the brasileiras. I was hoping to have an easier time than back home due to my foreign status, but in reality I found it to be much more difficult because of the language barrier and different social traditions (particularly in the south of Brazil, where the girls are more European-looking and are more accustomed to gringos). It was during this time that I came across your website and found it to be full of new, useful advice. I was also impressed by the fact that it didn't have the seedy corporate feel of the more well-known game websites. Thanks to a combination of Roosh's book, an intensive language learning process, and a lot of trial-and-error, I managed to start figuring things out, and by the end of my five months in Brazil I had become rather good at getting numbers and makeouts. However, I only got one lay during my time down there. I was proud of the one I got (she was very pretty, and spoke four languages fluently but not a word of English), but I definitely could have done much better if I'd had a few more months to hone my skills. I fully intend to return to Brazil for a longer stay once I have the money to do so.
Unfortunately my skills did not translate back to life in the States, and when I returned home I faced another discouraging dry spell, which has continued to this day. My confidence has been knocked down very low, and these days, while I have occasional moments of decent game, my skills are very inconsistent and are never at my desired level. Whenever I have success lately, it generally seems to be luck-related. I'm very shy when it comes to approaching, and I have a hard time talking to girls outside of a bar/club environment. Also, I definitely rely on alcohol more than I should to give me the courage to approach and act confident.
Lately I've resorted to hooking up with my ex, which I know is a bad idea. Now it's a new year and I've decided I need to do something really proactive about getting my game on track before I get too comfortable in my current situation. I thought I'd start by posting this message.
I look forward to any advice or feedback that anyone is willing to give. Thank you!
-Stien