[L M McCoy]

I've been trying to bang this girl for a week. She is in a three year long relationship (yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm a jerk) and I was thinking about approaching it in a way by stating how bored she must be ETC ETC.

Thoughts?

She doesn't like me because of her friend, long story. So I have to take it into consideration that she thinks I'm a massive prick.

Is this how you guys would approach the situation?

EDIT: The title should be "what angle should I use." Don't know how "how" got up there.

[BDawg]

Since you have been disqualified by the friend, you should throw a backhanded compliment her way.

How does she react around you?

[L M McCoy]

(04-07-2014 04:54 PM)BDawg Wrote:  

Since you have been disqualified by the friend, you should throw a backhanded compliment her way.

How does she react around you?

IDK, somewhat rude but she always smiles when I say "hi."

only really started talking to her since last week

[BDawg]

(04-07-2014 06:35 PM)L M McCoy Wrote:  

IDK, somewhat rude but she always smiles when I say "hi."

only really started talking to her since last week

So long as her interaction with you is not at her work, you should ask the quarry to join you doing some arbitrary thing together

Look for crinkles in the eyes to spot an authentic smile.

If she smiles with teeth only, you are probably not a go with her.

Next time you see her, do rapport and see how close you can get to her before she leans away.



The closer you can comfortably get, the easier it will be to make a move.

As far as her being rude, rather, interpret what she says according to what you know of her.

[tawillionaire]

If she hates you and thinks you're a massive prick that's a good thing. Forget who said it, but emotion is emotion -- you can turn love into hate and vice versa much more easily than you can turn someone who doesn't care about you into someone who does.

I wouldn't mention to her anything about the relationship or how "bored" she must be. Just sell yourself and be a more interesting guy than her boyfriend. Aside from that I would follow BDawg's advice and get her to do any activity with you then proceed from there.

[L M McCoy]

(04-07-2014 07:02 PM)BDawg Wrote:  

(04-07-2014 06:35 PM)L M McCoy Wrote:  

IDK, somewhat rude but she always smiles when I say "hi."

only really started talking to her since last week

So long as her interaction with you is not at her work, you should ask the quarry to join you doing some arbitrary thing together

Look for crinkles in the eyes to spot an authentic smile.

If she smiles with teeth only, you are probably not a go with her.

Next time you see her, do rapport and see how close you can get to her before she leans away.



The closer you can comfortably get, the easier it will be to make a move.

As far as her being rude, rather, interpret what she says according to what you know of her.

Thanks for the advice! I'm going to sit next to her next class and see how it goes. Do I mind if I hit you up with some things that I notice?

[BDawg]

(04-07-2014 07:43 PM)L M McCoy Wrote:  

Thanks for the advice! I'm going to sit next to her next class and see how it goes. Do I mind if I hit you up with some things that I notice?

Should be interesting.

Keep in mind that verbal game is primary and body language should be reflected only upon afterward.

Nonverbals are nice, but losing a moment when you should make a move is bad news.