[AneroidOcean]

(04-06-2014 08:14 AM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

Anal is a sign of dominance over her. A blowjob is her trying to have control over you. Usually you do all the work. You control whether or not she orgasms. The roles are reverse when she's sucking your cock.

While I agree that there are plenty of other more dominant acts, blowjobs are generally seen as a submissive act, and I think that's accurate. This is why women who have beta bitch boyfriends won't give them a blowjob, but they will lay there and let their boyfriends fuck them limp-fish style. Blowjobs when done right take a certain amount of submissiveness and it's a form of erotica (how they look at you, how they touch you, how they touch themselves for YOUR pleasure). It's MORE effort often than them laying there for their beta bitch boyfriend.

Also, I can't recall any blowjob where I wasn't in some way controlling the situation. Whether it be grabbing a FISTFUL of her hair, smacking her in the face with my dick, giving her instructions, tweaking her nipples, or fingering her or smacking her ass while she blows me. Preferably all of the above. She is controlling my stimulation, but isn't she doing the same thing while we're fucking (as far as her pussy contractions are concerned)? Also, she is accepting my dick.

A guy going down on a girl meanwhile IS pleasing the girl, but he's not sitting there touching himself and being super submissive to turn the girl on, he's just stimulating her physically and she's just laying there being submissive, generally.

Also, any time I go down on a girl, I'm reaching up to grab her tits, pull her hair, stick my fingers (with her pussy juices on them) in her mouth, or wrap my arm around her leg holding open her pussy, holding her down, pulling her towards me so she can't do anything but what I want. I usually will also finger her AS I'm going down on her, which with the proper stimulation of her G spot will give her in most cases earth shattering orgasms.

I don't have to be the dominating one every second, but that's generally how the dynamic works in my bedroom, so I'm curious why you think a girl giving you a blowjob is her dominating you instead of closer to neutral at least.

(04-07-2014 10:51 AM)anonymous123 Wrote:  

The comments in this thread reminds me of a joke I heard:

Q: Why do fat chicks give such great head?
A: Because they have to!

Answer #2: Because they're HUNGRY!

(04-08-2014 03:42 PM)Cr33pin Wrote:  

The older I am getting the less of a fuck I give when it comes to dealing with bullshit in the bedroom. Not sure if its a good or bad thing.

While I don't really care that much for the sloppy face-fucking blowjob, it definitely has it's appeal and can definitely be fun. The whole not dealing with bullshit in the bedroom just filters women and makes them want to work for you harder I've found.

(04-04-2014 11:08 PM)Windom Earle Wrote:  

The proper rhythm part is key in my opinion, combined with the ability to deep throat, at least a bit.

It wasn't you, but multiple people mentioned technique. It's REALLY important and can make it go from a NON starter to an "OMG holy shit I'm going to cum hard" experience. I don't think even deep throating is that important of an ability for a girl. Someone also mentioned liking hand jobs.

Look, as far as I'm concerned, her being able to use her hand(s) COMBINED with her mouth is the ULTIMATE skill. The idea with a blowjob is that it's submissive (hot), you get a great visual (I have mirrors in my bedroom for this purpose), and she can make the friction perfect (slobbery but not TOO slobbery), and she can stimulate EVERY part of your dick SIMULTANEOUSLY (which sex can't as when you stroke out, there is a portion of time when only the forward most part of your dick is stimulated).

When you find a girl that can stroke and follow it with her mouth like basically a super awesome vagina, tease you just perfectly, then build you up at the right pace, you will have found a winner.

(04-04-2014 08:03 PM)soup Wrote:  

Get on the bed on knees and all fours like a a dog. Ass in the air. She can go from there and use her arms to work the shaft as she blows.

This way you get the best view of the ass. It makes you want to go behind them and fuck them doggy.

McQueen killing it as usual. Soup, thank you, I will be trying this (not that I haven't before, but I haven't in a while).

BONUS: I always find it interesting that people are complaining about blowjobs and are not talking about some of the more fun/less common versions, such as deep throating, morning BJs (being woken up by a chick blowing you), and my personal favorite 69.

I think people have very limited experiences. Take for example from what I consider my somewhat limited experience:

When I came for the first time SIMULTANEOUSLY with the girl during 69 I was amazed at how incredible it felt as the girl's entire body shuddered and she moaned so fucking hard on my dick that I instantly came, it was just incredible.

When I did my first STAND UP 69, both I and the girl were BLOWN away.

When I had such an intense session and on top of that my female roommate came home so we tried to be quiet and I ended up on the edge of cumming for what felt like forever so that when I finally came it was super hard and I kept gripping her hair and she kept blowing me as I moved my hips a little as I didn't want her to ever be off my dick...and to my complete surprise I came hard again....so I kept her at it and amazingly I came a third time. I almost fell over and couldn't help but let out a deep moan.

[JosephdeMaistre]

I actually haven't tried standing up - it's always been lying down, so McQueen's advice is well taken. Thanks for the suggestions everyone.

[WalterBlack]

In my experience the best head comes from older divorced women. I guess their ex has “calibrated” them in such a way that they know how give good head. Of course, these women actually have to like giving head in the first place. If the woman say she’ll give a BJ but she doesn’t enjoy giving them, I next her.

In know that a lot of guys here like 18-24 years old, but for the best head I’d go for women who are 30+…I’m kind of ashamed to admit this but one of the most amazing blowjobs I ever had was from a fat white divorcee in her 40s – she made me shoot my load 4 times in about 30 mins and I thought my head was gonna explode. She was non stop..after I came she swallowed my load, kept my dick in her mouth and carried on going until i got hard again. She wanted me to fuck her but I found her so gross that I said that I had a headache and walked out of her house.

One of the most irritating things is women who say they're good at head and then when they actually do it they turn out to be crap.

What do you guys think about mouth size? I once got a great BJ from a Vietnamese divorcee - she was only 5ft tall so her mouth was pretty small and it felt fantastic.

[The Beast1]

Sigh, I feel for the OP. I'm not a big fan of blow jobs. They "feel" good per se, but I get more thrill out of actually banging the chick.

I use BJs as foreplay. Other than that, it takes me a awful long time to get off on just a BJ alone. Like 30-45 minutes.

[Cr33pin]

(04-08-2014 11:08 PM)WalterBlack Wrote:  

What do you guys think about mouth size? I once got a great BJ from a Vietnamese divorcee - she was only 5ft tall so her mouth was pretty small and it felt fantastic.

Mouth size can make a difference. When I was in the Phils the girl I was kind of in a LTR was small like that. I still taught her to deepthroat.. which even impressed me considering how small her mouth was... maybe this is to much info but since she was so small and she had such a small mouth you could really see her neck bulge out when my cock was in her throat haha. I told her I taught her a skill and she should be proud of it!
She always said she wanted to marry a white man with a big penis.. even tho every time we had sex it hurt her cause I was a white guy with a big penis... it never changed her tune, she still would say thats what she wanted. She is dating some good looking young guy in from America in the AirForce now. That guy should thank me after she gives him head.

[Veloce]

Just to echo what many others are saying...

The guy isn't trolling. My first gf couldn't suck dick to save her life. I tried coaching her many times to tell her what I liked, but no dice.

The problem is many girls get hung up on the idea of: "Am I doing it RIGHT". Then they get insecure and flustered. The right mindset is that girls need to be making love to a dick with their mouth. They need to enjoy having a dick in their mouth. If they see it as a favor or a special event, forget it. They need to want to suck dick at least once a week. These girls exist, and I recommend the OP finds one.

It's hard for me to cum from blowjobs with most girls, and I will state for the record that most girls that have given me head haven't been very good at it. But a select few have made me cum in less than 5 minutes. It's like they formed some sort of spiritual connection between their mouth and my cock and summoned a giant mouthful of cum from the depths of my balls. They instinctively knew what would feel good for me and only cared about maximizing that pleasure. Whether they had to suck 100 dicks to get to that level, or they just had some innate cocksucking ability, I'm not sure, but it is pretty goddamn glorious to experience. I also feel the same way about handjobs.