Quote: (05-16-2019 07:52 PM)felix_vagabondo Wrote:
By this point the girl must be totally hooked on this guy. He's her fantasy meal-ticket out of this poverty-inundated hellhole, and she's been waiting all her life for him to come sweep her away. She's like a really good bull-rider at a rodeo, and you're all bucking to try to throw her off.
Seems like there has to be a way of keeping it from getting to this point, of keeping the girl from getting so emotionally invested next time around. Then you could enjoy yourself without the nagging apprehension of the shit inevitably hitting the fan when she realized that you just wanted a good time.
This situation is already fucked, though. Are you guys serious that sticking around risks her stalking you and confronting you in public?
I would definitely get the hell out of there or go underground and wait for things to cool down.
Go to a different city and change your phone number.
Next time you meet a girl, learn how to generate within her some realistic expectations concerning your intentions, so when you do end up pulling out, it's not a total shock to her system.
You are absolutely right in everything you say. However, I do not enjoy having sex with a condom. I can't feel anything. Therefore the kind of skunks and foreign-cock whores that 90% of the men in this thread sleep with (no offense intended) are out of the question. For me, it's pull out only with nice Southeast Asian girls during frequent 3-week vacations (I'm self employed) or put up with another long term relationship with some American controlling bitch. Fuck that.
I always make sure the girls are high-quality, either childless and "hard to get" or recent mothers (I accidentally found out those with a child under one year are DTF and super horny for some reason -- must be hormones). I try to make sure they have not had sex with anyone for at least six months, preferably two years. Those girls are just as you describe.
I finesse them into thinking everything is real, meaningful and sometimes I even convince myself. One time I was so crazy about a girl (she was a genuine 9.5, I kid you not, 20 years younger than myself, super nice girl with a car and a great job) I wanted to marry her. I gave up when she started acting too dominant for my taste.
To quote from Reekay Velez, why does everyone think a good relationship must end in marriage, or last forever? The girls themselves are used to watching Korean soap operas, where lovers are always breaking up. Relationships end, that's life. I never do virgins. If they fucked someone before who dumped them, what obligation do I have to be the white knight?
I believe that what bothers women is not that the encounter was brief. There are brief romantic encounters that leave women dreamy for the rest of their lives. What pisses the hell out of women is finding out they were used for sex, especially if they get the impression the man is laughing at them afterwards. Read through PinaLove profiles and maybe 10% of them say "I hate liars." These are women that were wooed under false pretenses and then pumped and dumped. Men who use them for cheap or free sex really upset them.
Never tell the truth to a woman afterwards... never ever ever. You ruin it for everyone else on this thread. If you feel the need to confess, go to a priest.
If you spend money on them, it helps a lot. They love gifts and moderately expensive dinners. It makes them feel special. Even if it's obvious you dumped them afterwards, they feel they got something out of it and often want back for more. Show them RESPECT. You don't have to let them walk all over you, just show them a little respect.
Oh, and I change my number all the time. At least once a week. I also move around a lot, Bangkok to HCMC, back to Bangkok, Taipei to Manila, Manila to Cebu, etc. Flights are cheap but flying all the time back and forth gets old.
I've done three years of this and I've learned a lot in the process, some of it counter intuitive, for example do not learn the local language! (Women get very suspicious when you speak their language.)
I always tell them they are my first Asian girlfriend. There was this Vietnamese girl that kept saying all the time during sex: "How do you like your first Asian pussy? Is it tight?" It drove her really horny for some reason. I did not have the heart to tell her she was #30 and honestly her pussy wasn't that tight.
I've had great experiences and also some awful ones. I'm always perfecting my game. I find that communicating with women over a fake FB account after the encounter gives me a very good idea of what I did right or wrong. If they still want to talk to me, I did something right. If they want to see me again, even after I distanced myself with some lame excuse, then I am gold.
This thread assumes game is the same for everyone. It is not! I'm in my mid-50's, game is a lot different now than it was in my mid-20's. If you are older and have money, play the part. Dress well, be super polite and throw some money around.
There are a type of women in their 20's who never knew their father, or father died awhile back or for some reason really like older men. Target those women. Do not target those with strong relationships with their fathers. I avoid those. All women are different.
You must always be ready to reinvent yourself as you age. Find that small niche of women who want you and then play the part. Romance is a fantasy.