While cleaning out a desk/dresser of mine I found an old cell phone (BlackBerry Bold). I charged it up and started to explore and came across what I would call a 'cheat sheet' I made in a notepad-app about three years ago.
I rearranged the rough content to have some-what of a flow to it. Hope you enjoy...
-statements make educated guesses and are far more engaging
-effective language = speaking with fewest words possible while still maintaining your meaning and intent
-women do not see features they see how you present yourself
-women do not hear words they hear your intentions
-talk louder, then louder than that
-always make people break eye contact with you before you break it with them
-when engaging in conversation, suppress the urge until its your turn (one-up-ing)
-lean back
-do not lean forward
-watch others
-do not put head down
-pause, relax and slow down
-do not laugh at things you do not find funny
-take up more space
-stop approval seeking
-my boundary/frame is established, eg. “I value honesty, curiosity, education, intelligence and authenticity, etc.”
-keep your approval, keep your power
-project self-image and beliefs
-honest signals to practice
-do not stare, moral looking time
-dominant and confident posture and walk
-slower than usual movements and gestures
-be conscious of your body language until it becomes unconscious
-allow her to orient her body to you
-tone of voice, “hey what up”
-rub a girls back while hugging, do not pat
-physical escalation
-eye contact
-verbal contact
-hand to arm
-hand to shoulder
-shoulder to hip
-hip to leg
-face to face
-mouth to mouth
-things to talk about
-F.O.R.D (good things to talk about)
-Family, Occupation, Recreation and Dreams
-R.A.P.E (would not recommend using these as talking points)
-Religion, Abortion, Politics and Economics
-the inflection of your voice, do your statements sound like questions?
-be aware of the strength you finish your sentences with, some people trail off when they do not think others are listening
-ignore her beauty
-keep your eyes at normal resting size, if not a little bit tighter than usual
-while making eye contact do not over focus on one eye, move back and forth, find your rhythm
-soften your gaze to the point you can comfortably see both eyes with out focusing on either one
-smile big with your whole face, like you just saw your best friend for the first time in a year
-breath from your belly
-before an act or action we need oxygen as fuel
-draw air into the bottom portion of your lungs before the chest muscles expand and draw further air into the upper portion
-funny shit-test responses to “do you play video games?”
-“no I use mature media modules”
-“no I dabble in adult entertainment simulations”
-quotes
-“No persons time, attention or companionship is more valuable than your own.”
-“You cannot allow your ego to become attracted to receiving specific reactions and responses from people.”
-“What you make yourself to be is a choice. What happens to you as a result of what you are, is not.”
-“Whatever it is you are feeling is a perfect reflection of what is in the process of becoming.”
-“Confidence is the reward for being Courageous.”
-“Men have approach anxiety and women have last-minute-resistance anxiety.”
-have preferences to create your identity
-if a guy is looking your girl up-and-down
-“Chief, eyes on your own paper.”
-keep moving on, but preserve what works
Cheers.
I rearranged the rough content to have some-what of a flow to it. Hope you enjoy...
-statements make educated guesses and are far more engaging
-effective language = speaking with fewest words possible while still maintaining your meaning and intent
-women do not see features they see how you present yourself
-women do not hear words they hear your intentions
-talk louder, then louder than that
-always make people break eye contact with you before you break it with them
-when engaging in conversation, suppress the urge until its your turn (one-up-ing)
-lean back
-do not lean forward
-watch others
-do not put head down
-pause, relax and slow down
-do not laugh at things you do not find funny
-take up more space
-stop approval seeking
-my boundary/frame is established, eg. “I value honesty, curiosity, education, intelligence and authenticity, etc.”
-keep your approval, keep your power
-project self-image and beliefs
-honest signals to practice
-do not stare, moral looking time
-dominant and confident posture and walk
-slower than usual movements and gestures
-be conscious of your body language until it becomes unconscious
-allow her to orient her body to you
-tone of voice, “hey what up”
-rub a girls back while hugging, do not pat
-physical escalation
-eye contact
-verbal contact
-hand to arm
-hand to shoulder
-shoulder to hip
-hip to leg
-face to face
-mouth to mouth
-things to talk about
-F.O.R.D (good things to talk about)
-Family, Occupation, Recreation and Dreams
-R.A.P.E (would not recommend using these as talking points)
-Religion, Abortion, Politics and Economics
-the inflection of your voice, do your statements sound like questions?
-be aware of the strength you finish your sentences with, some people trail off when they do not think others are listening
-ignore her beauty
-keep your eyes at normal resting size, if not a little bit tighter than usual
-while making eye contact do not over focus on one eye, move back and forth, find your rhythm
-soften your gaze to the point you can comfortably see both eyes with out focusing on either one
-smile big with your whole face, like you just saw your best friend for the first time in a year
-breath from your belly
-before an act or action we need oxygen as fuel
-draw air into the bottom portion of your lungs before the chest muscles expand and draw further air into the upper portion
-funny shit-test responses to “do you play video games?”
-“no I use mature media modules”
-“no I dabble in adult entertainment simulations”
-quotes
-“No persons time, attention or companionship is more valuable than your own.”
-“You cannot allow your ego to become attracted to receiving specific reactions and responses from people.”
-“What you make yourself to be is a choice. What happens to you as a result of what you are, is not.”
-“Whatever it is you are feeling is a perfect reflection of what is in the process of becoming.”
-“Confidence is the reward for being Courageous.”
-“Men have approach anxiety and women have last-minute-resistance anxiety.”
-have preferences to create your identity
-if a guy is looking your girl up-and-down
-“Chief, eyes on your own paper.”
-keep moving on, but preserve what works
Cheers.
