I came across an article about a research study headlined "The More Confident You Are, The More Likely You’ll Be Successful" and subtitled on the Web as "Confidence Drives Mobility, Not Merit." (LINK)
This was really an eye-opener for me. To sum it up, the researchers said that over-confident people become successful because they're more likely to stick with things when the going gets rough, whereas the rest of us see that initial failure as confirmation that we're really the losers we think we are. (OK that last part was mine, but you get the idea.)
I thought this would make for good reading because it confirms some of the principles of game -- like being Alpha and "fake-it-till-you-make-it." And it does so in study form. It also influences the way people view us, which I'm sure we all know on one level, but it's nice to see it confirmed outside these parts:
"Overconfidence is perceived as actual ability, these people send out more “competence cues”; they talk louder, have more confidence in their opinions and use more emphatic gestures, all of which is wrongly interpreted as signs of actual ability."
Why was I looking such a study? Because this year I thought I'd try my hand at getting deeper into the stock market. I did research, listened to advice from people on here (all of which was 100 percent right) and made lots of money...
...on paper. Sad to say, I didn't actually buy any of the stocks except one. Had I bought even half, I'd be sitting pretty. Lesson learned: our achievements, like investing, are only one part intellect and another part having the confidence to act on what we know.
I've noticed with my nephews that some kids just seem to come into the world full of confidence. Some don't. I was one that didn't. I assume others of you are the same, and that's why you sought out the game/manosphere community.
This has been a consistent problem with me, so much so that it was pointed out when I once participated in a "group psychology" session at work. Maybe you all can apply the fix to your life better than I did. Becoming aware of it is a start.
This was really an eye-opener for me. To sum it up, the researchers said that over-confident people become successful because they're more likely to stick with things when the going gets rough, whereas the rest of us see that initial failure as confirmation that we're really the losers we think we are. (OK that last part was mine, but you get the idea.)
I thought this would make for good reading because it confirms some of the principles of game -- like being Alpha and "fake-it-till-you-make-it." And it does so in study form. It also influences the way people view us, which I'm sure we all know on one level, but it's nice to see it confirmed outside these parts:
"Overconfidence is perceived as actual ability, these people send out more “competence cues”; they talk louder, have more confidence in their opinions and use more emphatic gestures, all of which is wrongly interpreted as signs of actual ability."
Why was I looking such a study? Because this year I thought I'd try my hand at getting deeper into the stock market. I did research, listened to advice from people on here (all of which was 100 percent right) and made lots of money...
...on paper. Sad to say, I didn't actually buy any of the stocks except one. Had I bought even half, I'd be sitting pretty. Lesson learned: our achievements, like investing, are only one part intellect and another part having the confidence to act on what we know.
I've noticed with my nephews that some kids just seem to come into the world full of confidence. Some don't. I was one that didn't. I assume others of you are the same, and that's why you sought out the game/manosphere community.
This has been a consistent problem with me, so much so that it was pointed out when I once participated in a "group psychology" session at work. Maybe you all can apply the fix to your life better than I did. Becoming aware of it is a start.