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02-25-2014, 08:38 PM
I hated him because he did not bother to teach me right from wrong and I had to learn the hard way about it by experiencing every wrong turn and breakdown possible. I learned all I know from personal experience and trials; things my own father could have taught me. I didn't hate him for putting food on the table because that is why I loved him dearly when I was suffering. What bothered me was that he didn't bother to get to know me period. He suddenly popped into my life from nowhere expecting to make a difference, but he could not even identify anything about me. He couldn't even remember my birthday or even what grade I was in at the time. The fact that a son grows up with a father ignorant of him is beyond pathetic and in no way justifiable.
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02-25-2014, 08:51 PM
I'm sorry to hear that. I agree that having a good Father in a child's life is very important and children do benefit greatly from it. No question about it.
You mentioned that as a child you would have a fantasy about your Father being all these great things. I want you to know that every child does that, even when their Father is around. Children look at Mothers and Fathers as Demi-Gods and expect them to be as such. It's what Jung described as the Mother/Father Archtype.
Only later in life as we get old, do we have the opportunity to see that our parents feet really are made of clay. Just as the neighbors, or the store clerk, or that friend of yours that sometimes makes bad decisions. We see them as ordinary people. When this happens it can be very unsettling, but it can also be a relief because it helps us let go of all the anger we carried with us so long for them not living up to the expectations that only Gods could fulfill.
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02-26-2014, 12:34 PM
You're in a tough spot bud but so is she. It sounds like until recently they have moved around with you but things outside of your control are keeping them from moving to you? If so then there's not much you can do on that front. Sure you could take a job back in the U.S. but she married you knowing you worked abroad right?
My opinion is she's screwing around. Women are sexual creatures. If you she's not having sex with you she is with someone else. I have seen many Filipinas cheat here in the states and I would say the rate they do is greater than American women.
I have a young child also and I won't work out of town for that reason. It has been awesome to see her grow on a day to day basis. With that being said if you choose to divorce her and working abroad the judge may screw you more than usual. Before you tell her anything contact a lawyer to see about your options and if a judge could let her take the kid back to PI if you divorce her.
In the end only you can decide when you know it's over and there is no coming back. I can tell you excatly when I knew my first marriage was over.
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02-26-2014, 01:33 PM
You're in a tough spot bud but so is she. It sounds like until recently they have moved around with you but things outside of your control are keeping them from moving to you? If so then there's not much you can do on that front. Sure you could take a job back in the U.S. but she married you knowing you worked abroad right?
My opinion is she's screwing around. Women are sexual creatures. If you she's not having sex with you she is with someone else. I have seen many Filipinas cheat here in the states and I would say the rate they do is greater than American women.
I have a young child also and I won't work out of town for that reason. It has been awesome to see her grow on a day to day basis. With that being said if you choose to divorce her and working abroad the judge may screw you more than usual. Before you tell her anything contact a lawyer to see about your options and if a judge could let her take the kid back to PI if you divorce her.
In the end only you can decide when you know it's over and there is no coming back. I can tell you excatly when I knew my first marriage was over.