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12-28-2010, 08:31 PM
In some instances, a girl will cross the line with you.
Most of those times, you will be grown up enough to say "fuck that", quickly followed by "NEXT!". Live and let live.
For me, this wasn't one of the times. This girl let me down and then made it out to be me who fucked up, so I told her (in response to her asking if we should hang out again - she turned me down last time to have dinner with Jack, her "friend"):
"Fuck it, Katie. I don't see any reason to listen to more lies or one-sided criticism. And I'm not really interested in girls who have had a hoard of partners. Contact me again when you've grown up and can stand by who you are".
In general, I don't recommend bridge-burning, but in this case, my damaged ego needed to inflict some retribution. Not very honorable, but human.
Go ahead and share yours.
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12-28-2010, 09:25 PM
I burned a bridge w/ a girl that turned my life upside down years ago. Recently she found me on facebook and profusely apologized for the way she had acted, and wanted to meet for dinner. She said eventually she felt guilt for her actions and it turned her life around. I expressed my genuine appreciation for the apology but let her I didn't wish to relive the past. She is now a dentist w/ a budding practice. It took a lot for me to do even that, because she didn't deserve it. But I grown up and really don't give a fuck about the small shit anyway.
When a chick fucks me over the details of her existence become completely inconsequential. First time shame on her, second time shame on me.
On a side note, I break contact w/ all former girlfriends, even if the breakup was amicable. It's bad mojo to have ex's hovering around when trying to establish another relationship, IMHO.
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12-30-2010, 12:32 AM
Did the girl text you back or ever bang you again, Invictus?
Myself, I don't see the point. I bang the girl for awhile, things don't work out, time to either try to work a new girl into the rotation, or start from scratch again. It happens, I don't take it personally anymore.
The only time I've burned bridges is with girls I dated long-term. Oh that and with girls I've never banged, nor have any intention of banging, but that's just because some women need to be put in their place.
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12-30-2010, 12:40 AM
I don't know if this constitutes as "burning bridges", but I told my ex never to talk to me. She tried many times to talk to me while I was gaming other women, and each time I didn't reciprocate. If you don't want to talk to somebody, and also have absolutely nothing to gain from them (assuming that friendship and trust are out of the equation), then no need to have them in your life.
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12-30-2010, 12:45 AM
I burn bridges...sure why not. I mean I feel like a beta pussy if I let a bitch lie and flake on my and I'm still answering her calls and volunteering to come over. This to me, means I'm sucking hind tit so to speak and that is not a good feeling.
Plus it sets the pace for flaky bitches. It let's them know its not acceptable to be a lying flaky person in the grown up world. If enough guys are sitting around and biting their tongues just get a quick peice of left over pussy then she will continue to play that game.
I know I'm stubborn at times, but I just cannot let chicks get away with bieng flakes.
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12-30-2010, 05:55 AM
Getting mad is counter-productive.
At the same time, it's important to A) have a boundaries so she knows she's crossed a line, and B) to be so confident in the message you send she is compelled to identify herself with what you are saying.
The pecking order is so: A girl desperately in love with you, a girl who hates you for the way you treat her, the girl is totally indifferent. If you inspire indifference, you are a beta whimp and nothing you say will command her interest. If you inspire hatred, you've inspired a negative emotion, but any emotion is better than none. Your game sucks, but at least you have boundaries. Of course, if she's falling for you, that's the best.
I didn't hear back from her. I was in a serious relationship with this girl a about a year and it got quite serious. I oscillated between being super alpha and super beta, but that was before I got into game. Anyways, like all girls, they strive for validation from you, and I fell into the trap. Really, by lashing out, I am just projecting my disappointment over my own failings on her.
Still, it's important to say "NO" and to hit her ego hard. She might not ever back to you, but you've etched a scar into her that she'll never forget,
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12-30-2010, 06:01 AM
Sometimes you say more by saying nothing at all.
I wasn't there so I don't know if that was the situation for it but, the times I've just not responded during those types of situations seem to hold more power for myself.
Kind of reminds me of a Calvin and Hobbes comic where Calvin says "Nothing helps a bad mood like spreading it around".
Oh well.
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12-30-2010, 06:27 PM
Totally feel that.
It's like a switch that goes on and off.
If the girl does something that just isn't cool the switch goes "OFF".
If she is genuine, cool and non-manipulative, "ON".
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12-31-2010, 03:23 AM
Well there was no violent bridge burning, but I had to cut one of my girls tonight. A tragedy IMO, but it was bound to happen sooner or later. She only re-entered a week or so ago (if you recall my random text thread) and I figured it wasn't long-term. Got a house party tomorrow night, hoping that yields something, but I'm not counting on it. I'm may sadly be facing a rough couple weeks until I pack up and ship out of Michigan for good in January.
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01-04-2011, 02:28 PM
I personally feel that if you are confident, genuine, and sincere you can tell a chick whatever you want and she will have to feel you.
Ive cursed girls out, damn near kicked them out of my house and all types of potential bridge burning things and still ended up fucking or getting head from some of them.
Biting your tongue in hopes that some chick will stop flaking on you and all of a sudden make you a priority is not the way to go. You are indirectly putting the pussy on a pedastal when you do that by letting her know that whatever she does to you is cool as long as she lets you fuck. Bad sign to send.
If a chick pisses you off, tell her. If she doesnt want to talk to you anymore, so the fuck what. Sometimes I regret things Ive done to girls but the worst thing is to let a chick get over on you and then she STILL not give you any pussy when you wanted to tell her what was on your mind the whole time.
If you are really the furthest thing from a chicks mind, you acting like shes the furthest thing from yours is not gone make her think about you. Telling her whats on your mind will tho.
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01-04-2011, 05:10 PM
My thought has always been that actions speak louder than words. If she flakes on you/ acts rude flirt with other girls in front of her to make sure she knows her place. If you do decide to call her out after she really has crossed the line and jealousy/ coldness won't do the trick, don't pull any punches, think of a parent scolding their insolent child and then cutting off all contact from them.