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12-18-2010, 02:20 PM
On marriage. Seriously, I'm hearing so many stories about guys getting lawyered after divorces, losing half their money and the kids, paying their ex-wives to fuck someone else. That's some stank ass shit right there.
But the thing is, i DO want to get married, not divorce, and not have her cheat on me. That's the plan. But if that plan falls through... there has to be some legal precaution you can take (aside from the obvious prenup) to ensure that she gets NOTHING (or at least, much less than half). There's gotta be a way. There's gotta be some nice legal voodoo you can use. Seriously, I will get the finest lawyers on this.
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12-18-2010, 03:15 PM
have you tried a google search
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12-20-2010, 09:02 AM
Live in a state that is a non-community property state, as far as marriage law goes. Consult a lawyer on this, but Ive heard that means that anything that was your before the marriage remains yours. Marriage is a state institution, only regulated through the laws of your state of domicile. The state statutes will be stronger than any prenup, theoretically. You have to live there though, as I believe the law apples where you live, not where you marry (if in a different state).
In the eyes of the law, a marriage is like a business partnership as far as assets go. Anything that was worked on or acquired during the marriage is, by definition of the partnership, property of the partnership. Even with a prenup, I don't believe that there is a way around this other than illegally hiding assets that are acquired during the marriage. Watch out for those forensic accountants, though.
Also, watch out for building income streams while married, even if you had started the business before marriage, because the judge might rule that any business growth after the marriage is half hers. You might either owe her half of the after-marriage-income-growth for of the life of the business, or have to sell the business to pay off her half. Like I said before though, consult a professional. This isn't advice.
If your looking to skirt all financial risk in marriage, its not going to happen. Its a huge risk, no matter what. Unless you plan on never making any more money than you started with before the marriage, and you plan on not having kids (which you will pay for, married or not. Some other guy might just to get to enjoy your kids and your former wife on your dime, should you get divorced). The only real hedge against risk is choosing your wife well.
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12-20-2010, 11:41 AM
Quote: (12-20-2010 09:02 AM)hydrogonian Wrote:
Live in a state that is a non-community property state, as far as marriage law goes. Consult a lawyer on this, but Ive heard that means that anything that was your before the marriage remains yours. Marriage is a state institution, only regulated through the laws of your state of domicile. The state statutes will be stronger than any prenup, theoretically. You have to live there though, as I believe the law apples where you live, not where you marry (if in a different state).
Your correct about the law Hydro, but it's rarely the case. I've seen a lot of marriages go bad and can't recall one case where post nuptial earnings were the only thing divided. It ends up being 50/50, or worse. A friend recently was forced to pay almost $6K in alimony on top of losing half. Depends on the state as you said, and how much bullshit the judge wants to hear. This is one of the many reasons I have no desire to get married.
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12-20-2010, 02:27 PM
Want to know something funny? I took Family Law with a feminist female professor. Guess how much time we spent on prenups? About 30 minutes out of the entire year.
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12-22-2010, 05:00 AM
Quote: (12-18-2010 02:20 PM)SHANbangs Wrote:
On marriage. Seriously, I'm hearing so many stories about guys getting lawyered after divorces, losing half their money and the kids, paying their ex-wives to fuck someone else. That's some stank ass shit right there.
But the thing is, i DO want to get married, not divorce, and not have her cheat on me. That's the plan. But if that plan falls through... there has to be some legal precaution you can take (aside from the obvious prenup) to ensure that she gets NOTHING (or at least, much less than half). There's gotta be a way. There's gotta be some nice legal voodoo you can use. Seriously, I will get the finest lawyers on this.
Don't be a fool young blood. Marriage is for CHUMPS. don't DO IT. It is an unfair one sided business contract designed by the church and feminists. The truth is American men are valued around the world and women are LUCKY TO HAVE US. Do not get married to a disgusting Ameri-pig. it is a trap!
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12-23-2010, 04:25 AM
Quick notes -
Pre-numps can be voided by a Judge and although I've only handled a few divorces - this is happening more and more - the one thing to remember above all else is what came from Shakespeare -
"Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"
Your obedient and demure housewife will serve a subpoena on a condom manufacturer to find out when the condoms she found in your bag were manufactured - she will hack your cell phone - she will hack your e-mail - she will take every wooden beam off of every joist in the house to see if you are hiding documents - she will have you tailed to see where you go - she will put a GPS in your car etc. etc. etc. etc. etc. etc.
A United States State Court has jurisdiction over your body - what I am going to tell you has happened and I've seen it happen - Wife thinks husband has Swiss bank account - husband has been going to Switerzerland a lot over the past 2 years without a concrete business reason. Husband files for divorce and gives his financial disclosure - its unusually small. Wife goes into attic and starts pulling up floor boards and behold - finds his Swiss account paperwork. Brings it to Court and shows Judge - here's what happened:
Judge: Mr. Doe - I see here you have a Swiss account that you didn't inform the Court of?
John Doe: Uh, yeah well that's a business account.
Judge: Mr. Doe - I order all the money in that account to be transferred to your US account to be subject to equitable dissoloution - Mr. Court officer will be accompanying you to your house this afternoon where he will seize your passport.
John Doe: What - that account is not subject to your order -
Judge - that's true - but you are not getting on a flight to Zurich this afternoon and if you dont transfer the money back here where it is subject to my jurisdiction you will do 6 months in jail for contempt of court.
The point is that you can have offshore accounts and whatnot - but you better now plan on staying here! In a lot of divorces that are going toxic - the first thing an attorney does is ask for surrender of a passport - you are not necessarily getting out of here throught he usual channels if you go through a divroce.
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12-25-2010, 09:07 AM
Who the fuck is thinking about the children?
In some distant future when I realize my time on this Earth is limited to a few score years, and my potency is quickly ebbing, I will probably discover a intellectual as well as animal urge to reproduce, and in that instance, if you want to be someone worthy of respect, stop fucking thinking about yourself.
I assume if you want marriage, it's because you want to raise children with one particular person (forget women, girl or fuckwhat). Don't do it unless the other person agrees with you 100% on what that means. Once babies enter the scene, it is no longer about you and what you want or her. They are not their for your convenience, or your ego. The worst, most stressful experiences for children come when their parents can't work it out, because they automatically assume it's their fault. "I didn't help around the house enough, so now Mommy and Daddy hate each other". This is not fucking conjecture, this happens ALL the fucking time, and it is something that will screw with them for most of their adult lives. So please, don't fuck it up because you lack the maturity to select the right partner. Forget fucking legal agreements. That shit should not even be on your radar screen. If you want the best fucking odds, grow the fuck up.
Find a person worth your while with a serious attitude. The real problem with marriage is not legal protection. It's a lack of serious attitudes on both parts. Stupid beta men thinking with their dicks, who watch their wives turn into bossy fat bitches, while he shirks his obligations and doesn't give her the attention, validation and affection she needs to blossom. This is the long-term result. In the short term, being self-centered, selfish and aggressive can get good results, I confess.
If it's too much effort, don't sweat it. A lot of guys here have realized it's not worth the effort, or that they aren't yet prepared to put in the effort, which is the most honest and best thing to do. So we will continue to live like teenagers well into our thirties. That is our prerogative.