[CJ]

There was a girl I was banging regularly through September and October, and saw her a little in November. About 2 weeks ago she just didn't respond to a text I sent, so I waited a couple days and sent her another one before the following weekend, again no response, so I wrote her off because I've learned it's pointless wasting time in this situation.

I was at a bar last Thursday, she happened to be there as well, but I really had nothing to say to her and was more focused on drinking and hitting on other girls. It's not a huge bar, so she had to see me at some point, hell another girl, I had talked to there before, recognized me and ran across the bar to talk to me.

Anyhow, last night she sends me a random "Hope you're well" text. I have yet to respond... I might as well work her back in, because she wasn't a bad lay, my rotation is down to 1 right now and this girl lives close, which is convenient with all this snow. I figure I needn't play games these games with her, and I can take my frustrations with her out on her in bed.

Thoughts/advice? Hoping Kona, Mixx, G, Gio, Speakeasy & Kerouac still use this board lol.

[wolf]

(12-13-2010 03:15 PM)CJ Wrote:  

There was a girl I was banging regularly through September and October, and saw her a little in November. About 2 weeks ago she just didn't respond to a text I sent, so I waited a couple days and sent her another one before the following weekend, again no response, so I wrote her off because I've learned it's pointless wasting time in this situation.

I was at a bar last Thursday, she happened to be there as well, but I really had nothing to say to her and was more focused on drinking and hitting on other girls. It's not a huge bar, so she had to see me at some point, hell another girl, I had talked to there before, recognized me and ran across the bar to talk to me.

Anyhow, last night she sends me a random "Hope you're well" text. I have yet to respond... I might as well work her back in, because she wasn't a bad lay, my rotation is down to 1 right now and this girl lives close, which is convenient with all this snow. I figure I needn't play games these games with her, and I can take my frustrations with her out on her in bed.

Thoughts/advice? Hoping Kona, Mixx, G, Gio, Speakeasy & Kerouac still use this board lol.

This should be good. A girl that stopped seeing me bullshits me with "hope you're well" message too.

[speakeasy]

I wouldn't worry much about the outcome of any one given situation. Girls can be so fickle-minded and controlled by emotional whim you just have to strike when the iron is hot. If she texts you out of nowhere, it means you're on her mind for at least that moment, so strike. But don't worry too much about it either. I was recently dealing with one like that. She'll sometimes not respond to a text for days, then next thing I know she calls out of the blue and wants to meet up, then another day she'll flake for some bullshit reason. Don't get caught up in thinking too much about girls like that. Back in my extreme AFC days, I had a oneitis that did this to me all the time and it almost drove me to insanity. The problem wasn't her, the problem was me giving a fuck.

If she sends a "hope you're well" text and you absolutely want to fuck her, then text back saying you're very well and a lot has been going on. If she's curious and asks what been going on, you can ask her to meet up and talk about it then play it from there. That's about all I can think of. I'm sure though that most the guys in the forum will tell you to delete her number and go find some new quim.

[Duke Castile]

i'd text back: "Always" and let her stew on that for a while.

[CJ]

Thanks Speakeasy, I'm not sure I explained the situation well enough now. Obviously I care enough to post, but it's more along the lines of... damn I want breakfast, but they don't serve it here all day, oh well not a huge deal, I'll have a burger.

The "strike while the iron is hot" is immediately what came to my mind, which is why I said I'm not going to bother playing games here.

That being said, there was a point in time when this would've really irked me, fortunately those days are gone. The only reason I care enough to ask the forum is the convenience factor here. I have another girl I'm banging, but I like to keep more than one now that I know I can; a back-up plan is nice. I'm certainly not one to refuse to text back knowing easy sex is a possibility. If she disappears again, so what, I've already got what I wanted.

[Kona]

(12-13-2010 03:15 PM)CJ Wrote:  

last night she sends me a random "Hope you're well" text.

I like to go with my gut in those situations.

The response that immediately came to mind when I read that was "hope you're shaved, come over."

If that works, then good. If not, oh well.

Maybe just send a "I am, you?" after around 9:30, before she completely cools. Just doing nothing could lead her to believe you changed your number or are completely uninterested. Also, next time she wants to get swooped your name will be higher in her inbox.

Aloha!

[CJ]

I just replied I was good and she instantly responded and continued to text me like the last 2 weeks didn't even happen. Makes sense.

[Invictus]

CJ, she might've been busy, or, more likely, she's probably banging someone else who she thought more interesting for a while, and now she's going to see if she can keep you in reserve.

Kona's response was great, but I think you need to get REALLY clear on what you want from this girl. If you are cool with this situation, go for it.

I sense a tingling of romantic interest here, not least sparked by her absence and ignoring you. If you were banging regularly for two months, that's long enough for those first feelings to emerge. Her ignoring you is, in my opinion, a blunt statement. Personally, after banging a girl for two months, I am pretty clear on whether I think she has potential or not, and if she doesn't, I forget her quickly. If she does, I'd be disappointed at my obvious poor judgment.

Understand that if you go for this, she is lower than dog shit, so you should have NO compunctions banging another girl, then without even washing your dick, doing her. She has already let you know she's not loyal nor interested in being loyal. Thus, if you think you're interested in something more serious, back off. You will only fuck yourself. If you truly don't mind, go for it. Just don't spend a dime on her, nor make any kind of emotional investment of any sort - I don't think I'd even bother going over to her place.

PS. And I don't really buy the part about "I already got what I wanted". One bang is enough for a man to declare himself victor. Subsequent bangs are no longer about that. If you're interested in the chase, you've already won. No need to do it again.

[Giovonny]

CJ,

I'm glad you texted her. Not texting her would have been lame because then you would never know.

I like what Speakeasy and Kona said. "Strike while the iron is hot" and "go with your gut".

I think instincts play a big part in Game. You know this girl, you know her personality, why was she texting you?

Obviously, she was thinking about you. Sounds like you got things back on track. Good work.

[CJ]

Yep, looks like I can throw her back in the rotation for now and then try to find someone to bump her down or out after the holidays.

Invictus, I'm not sure you understand the situation from my side of things. Sorry, let me try to be clarify: the other girl I'm banging right now, displaced this girl as my consistent/preferred sex source back in October. The problem with her is she now works at a bar so she isn't available every night, or isn't available until very late some nights. To me, it's all about convenience and that's not convenient.

The texting issue girl, is the type of girl that would send me texts basically saying "Do you want to come over and have sex." I'm already fully aware that's all she's good for and that's all I want. The "emotional" side of me has been dormant for awhile now, you can probably infer that from older posts of mine.

[Invictus]

Glad to hear it. Let us know how it works out.