[DetlefMourning]

Apologies if this has been covered before:

Can you believe this Mt Everest size mound of horseshit hamster food?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/1...rce&ir=Divorce

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So many men are often put off by dating a single mom, and I have to say it's a little mystifying to me. There are some seriously outdated misconceptions out there that give single moms a bad rap, like the belief that single mothers are just looking for a dad for their kids (please, my kid's dad rocks and I'm not in search for a replacement!). When it comes down to it, I really think single moms are the dating world's best kept secret. Here's why:

1. Low Drama

Look, we've had a baby (or two or three), we've been through a divorce... we're pretty focused on raising our children and supporting our families. We're all grown up. We don't have time or the inclination to sweat the smaller stuff. We're mature and real, and lord knows we don't have time to throw our own temper tantrums when we've got kids doing it for us. We want you to be our refuge, our safe harbor and our grown-up playmate.

2. Great Sex

Speaking of playmates — our hormones have done a lot of things and the likelihood is that we're in our 40s or close to it, which means, gentlemen, that we're in our sexual prime. I don't know of one single mom who isn't looking to have her mind blown sexually. Most of us came out of sexually dissatisfying marriages and are ready to play, to explore, and to totally revel in our newfound freedom and glory. Don't you wanna be the guy at the receiving end of that?

3. No Biological Clock Ticking At You

I hear this from guys all the time: "If I date a woman in her 30s, she wants to know where it's going and when we're getting married and having babies within, like, 3 months! But if I date a woman in her 20s we have nothing in common." Well, guys, here we are! You're looking at an amazing array of women whose biological clocks have ticked and tocked and likely don't want or need more babies. Have at us! Yes, we have children, but guess what? You're not gonna meet them unless this gets serious. So, if you fall in love with us, you're gonna have to be willing to take on all that that means, but in the meantime, we just wanna have fun.

4. We Are Powerhouses

I personally believe that single moms are some of the most powerful women on earth. We have stood strong while everything around us crumbled, whether we made that call or not. We have picked ourselves up by our bootstraps and made something of and for our children and ourselves. Oh — and we gave birth. Let's not forget that little tidbit. If you're looking for a woman you can respect and honor, you'll find her in the single mothers pool.

5. No Whining, No Games

Look, we may call you out when we feel you're not satisfying us or living up to our expectations, and yeah, we're human and we're women, so you won't always understand us, but we will never be whiners and over-complainers. We have children who do that to us all day. At the end of the day, we want a glass of wine and a grown-up conversation. We're not about to play games, either. We want clear communication and we'll give it back to you in spades. The likelihood is that we'll set the stage for it, and you'll be so thrown for a loop you won't know what to do at first. But pretty soon, you'll breathe a huge sigh of relief and relax into the whole idea.

So, men, if you just can’t seem to find that sweet-spot of women to date that are awesome, smart, fun, sexually adventurous, won't pressure you or play games, give some single moms a try. We want partnership and love just as much as the next girl, but we won't use games and drama to get it, and we'll take a longer time before we start wanting "more." And we won't bite... unless you ask us to.

I work with single moms to weed through all the craziness that this new life has to offer, and find within themselves the amazing, powerful and relentless love-goddesses that they truly are. For more information about how to work with me visit my website .

[Only One Man]

Jesus. Not many things would make my dick go from rock hard to flaccid faster than a woman describing herself as a "powerhouse".

[kdolo]

1. Low Drama

Look, we've had a baby (or two or three), we've been through a divorce... we're pretty focused on raising our children and supporting our families. We're all grown up. We don't have time or the inclination to sweat the smaller stuff. We're mature and real, and lord knows we don't have time to throw our own temper tantrums when we've got kids doing it for us. We want you to be our refuge, our safe harbor and our grown-up playmate.

2. Great Sex

Speaking of playmates — our hormones have done a lot of things and the likelihood is that we're in our 40s or close to it, which means, gentlemen, that we're in our sexual prime. I don't know of one single mom who isn't looking to have her mind blown sexually. Most of us came out of sexually dissatisfying marriages and are ready to play, to explore, and to totally revel in our newfound freedom and glory. Don't you wanna be the guy at the receiving end of that?

3. No Biological Clock Ticking At You

I hear this from guys all the time: "If I date a woman in her 30s, she wants to know where it's going and when we're getting married and having babies within, like, 3 months! But if I date a woman in her 20s we have nothing in common." Well, guys, here we are! You're looking at an amazing array of women whose biological clocks have ticked and tocked and likely don't want or need more babies. Have at us! Yes, we have children, but guess what? You're not gonna meet them unless this gets serious. So, if you fall in love with us, you're gonna have to be willing to take on all that that means, but in the meantime, we just wanna have fun.

4. We Are Powerhouses

I personally believe that single moms are some of the most powerful women on earth. We have stood strong while everything around us crumbled, whether we made that call or not. We have picked ourselves up by our bootstraps and made something of and for our children and ourselves. Oh — and we gave birth. Let's not forget that little tidbit. If you're looking for a woman you can respect and honor, you'll find her in the single mothers pool.

5. No Whining, No Games

Look, we may call you out when we feel you're not satisfying us or living up to our expectations, and yeah, we're human and we're women, so you won't always understand us, but we will never be whiners and over-complainers. We have children who do that to us all day. At the end of the day, we want a glass of wine and a grown-up conversation. We're not about to play games, either. We want clear communication and we'll give it back to you in spades. The likelihood is that we'll set the stage for it, and you'll be so thrown for a loop you won't know what to do at first. But pretty soon, you'll breathe a huge sigh of relief and relax into the whole idea.

So, men, if you just can’t seem to find that sweet-spot of women to date that are awesome, smart, fun, sexually adventurous, won't pressure you or play games, give some single moms a try. We want partnership and love just as much as the next girl, but we won't use games and drama to get it, and we'll take a longer time before we start wanting "more." And we won't bite... unless you ask us to.

I work with single moms to weed through all the craziness that this new life has to offer, and find within themselves the amazing, powerful and relentless love-goddesses that they truly are. For more information about how to work with me visit my website .[/quote]
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The only things that are true are:

1. and 2.

[bacon]

You know what else is great about single moms ... once you are involved in the chids life she can claim you are a father figure and get child support from you in the event of seperation.

[DetlefMourning]

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The only things that are true are:

1. and 2.
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Wrong

1) It's just different drama than with a childless chick. Women that don't have kids like to bitch about their frenemies and get mad if you have too many guys nights out with your friends. With single moms it's baby daddy drama and abandonment issues.

2) Kids are the ultimate cockblockers.


I do believe that in the beginning single moms are probably lower maintenance because they know they are at a disadvantage in the dating market vs women who don't have kids. But once they have you hooked, they're even worse.

[MrXY]

In my experience, 1,2,3 and 5 are more true than they are false, especially if she is late twenties or older

(12-20-2013 01:38 PM)bacon Wrote:  

You know what else is great about single moms ... once you are involved in the chids life she can claim you are a father figure and get child support from you in the event of seperation.

In what legal jurisdictions is that true? It certainly isn't in mine

[Timoteo]

There's no such thing as a drama-free woman. In the beginning she may be on good behavior because she knows her place in terms of where she stands in the dating market. But it will change the longer you're with her, and her behavior will become just as entitled as any other woman. And you'll always come AFTER her progeny with that other dude (as you should, but at the same time, what's in it for you?). Only if a woman humbles herself and KEEPS herself humble throughout are these type of women valuable.

[AnonymousBosch]

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2. Great Sex

Speaking of playmates — our hormones have done a lot of things and the likelihood is that we're in our 40s or close to it, which means, gentlemen, that we're in our sexual prime. I don't know of one single mom who isn't looking to have her mind blown sexually. Most of us came out of sexually dissatisfying marriages and are ready to play, to explore, and to totally revel in our newfound freedom and glory. Don't you wanna be the guy at the receiving end of that?

Once again, women believing they know what makes good sex for a man. Based on my experience, they try to 'perform', which means doing foul-mouthed bad girl porn impersonations, and the artifice is revolting to me. The same way women are in love with being loved, they seem to have sex to be sexy.

Based up the amount of 20-somethings who have tried to stick their tongues up my butt unprompted, or offer up anal sex without any debate or coercion whatsoever, I seriously doubt a 40 year old hasn't explored to the point of having no trace of coy, submissive sex appeal left in her. Every fetish act she freely volunteers means it was normalised through sex with other men.

Girls. Drop the over-the-top act and let go of the wheel. I know how to drive. This is a moment when you're allowed to let someone who knows what he's doing take control, and I guarantee I'll make you feel more feminine than you ever have in your life. If you drive, you'll just demand to be hit or choked, and a part of me dies inside a little more.

What is wrong with women? I've been fucking for 25 years and they really didn't seem to hate themselves so much before.