[svenski7]

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-25088495

"One thing we hear all the time, particularly from women on Tinder, is that in the real world when somebody approaches them  -  they could be the most interesting guy in the room -  they feel like their personal space has been bombarded, and they feel overwhelmed.

As a result, the people who are the pursuers sit back and decide to be introverts and not really pursue that relationship."

Kind of awkwardly worded but I understand this as saying, "Guy used to approach women, now they sit back and hope their looks are good enough for women to approach them.

[RockHard]

(11-26-2013 11:24 AM)svenski7 Wrote:  

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-25088495

"One thing we hear all the time, particularly from women on Tinder, is that in the real world when somebody approaches them  -  they could be the most interesting guy in the room -  they feel like their personal space has been bombarded, and they feel overwhelmed.

As a result, the people who are the pursuers sit back and decide to be introverts and not really pursue that relationship."

Kind of awkwardly worded but I understand this as saying, "Guy used to approach women, now they sit back and hope their looks are good enough for women to approach them.

Sounds to me more like people are weirded out by meeting other people. That sounds more like social retardation. Look at the quotes surrounding where you quoted:

""It was a general problem that I had meeting new people," Mr Rad admits."

"Mr Rad was one such introvert , and it's this mission that provokes him into one of the loftier remarks regarding his work."

Did they get the quote backwards? An introvert can definitely be overwhelmed at having to mingle with a room full of strangers. So is he saying "I, as a man, have problems meeting girls face-to-face, so I'll solve that with technology"? Are women really saying that if an attractive guy with good body language comes up and starts talking to them, and he turns out to be interesting, they feel overwhelmed? Or they feel overwhelmed getting hit on by gormless shlubs? Or is this Rad guy completely ignorant?

That said, Tinder is basically a guy sitting back and being as attractive as possible, hoping a girl will signal interest in him. Also, I read that there are 4 founders, one of whom is a woman, which was touted as the reason it's successful, a woman on the design team influenced the design to appeal more to women. I don't know that that's true, just the analysis I read.

[Basil Ransom]

This mirrors my experience. Girls I meet off Tinder are far less flaky than girls I've met, number-closed and even kissed in bars. I get the feeling that the SAME GIRL would be more receptive to me if we had met off Tinder than in a bar - and my photos are shitty. Girls increasingly have this voodoo taboo against meeting up with guys they met out or something, I can't explain it. Or they're intent on having a 'night with the girls' and cockblocking each other into oblivion. But if you chatted them up sober on a Tuesday night they'll go on a date with you.

I can't prove that they are the same girls, but they don't seem much different in person.

[kosko]

Introvert has become a trendy thing now. It's a smoke scren for social retards to provide cover for how lame they really are. I go into both worlds. Sometimes I like to socialize, be extroverted, and other times I'd rather chill solo, but the key is that If I'm in that zone going out alone to a show, meal, or bar isn't a big thing to me.

To the social retards whom took over that phrase they still are deathly afraid of being alone and still need to actively try and socialize, its just they are no good at doing so. I seen some herb in my class talk on and on about he is a introvert to a group of people. I laughed because he knows he's full of it and just is a awkward dude. his mannerisms showed poor social skills and he wasn't leading group conversations and was just lecturing to them.

Tinder is a response to the ultra thirst levels of the modern man and the coupled social retardation of both young men and women.

[Kingsley Davis]

[eradicator]

I've thought about(or maybe read about) some potential great uses for tinder:

When you go on vacation to a vacation town, maybe someplace like Lake Tahoe, that has almost non existent night life, but plenty of tourists(men and women) who are on vacation, would like to meet someone attractive and get laid while on holiday and not have to deal with any drama because you are both going home in a couple of days.

This could work in some beach towns as well. I should spend a day in santa barbara or san diego, set the location radius to 15 miles and use tinder all day to see how many matches I get. There is some real potential in towns with good ratios.

This might even work in really shitty towns like DC. There must be some bangable girls in that town, they are likely to be found on tinder.

[kosko]

You can do that in your home city if has a large tourist population. I'd sit in a starbucks in the tourist area which locals never go to unless it's for work and just swipe away.

[AnonymousBosch]

(11-26-2013 11:24 AM)svenski7 Wrote:  

"One thing we hear all the time, particularly from women on Tinder, is that in the real world when somebody approaches them  -  they could be the most interesting guy in the room -  they feel like their personal space has been bombarded, they're uncomfortable with intimacy and they feel overwhelmed they are socially-awkward to the degree that they don't know how to hold an adult conversation without the safety net of minutes between responses via a smartphone.

Fixed.

They need to bring back charm schools. Young girls could profit greatly from learning Girl Game.

[Libertas]

The biggest problem I have with Tinder is that it uses your Facebook for shit, and I hate paying attention to that thing except to use it to promote something.

Still, it seems worthwhile to add as a game tool, if it's not your primary focus.

To the guys that have experience with this thing- are the girls you meet better than the typical online date? Any advice to watch out for SIFs?

[eradicator]

(11-26-2013 04:18 PM)Libertas Wrote:  

The biggest problem I have with Tinder is that it uses your Facebook for shit, and I hate paying attention to that thing except to use it to promote something.

Still, it seems worthwhile to add as a game tool, if it's not your primary focus.

To the guys that have experience with this thing- are the girls you meet better than the typical online date? Any advice to watch out for SIFs?

The flake rate can be extremely high, but will likely even out over time.

As for the girls that use myspace camera angles and only headshots and no medium or long range shots(that would show her body), they are likely trying to cover up the fact that they are fat.

Is the overall quality better than okcupid or plentyof fish? absolutely. Are all of those hotties looking for dates or hooks ups? Of course not. Many of the better looking girls just flat out say on their profile "My instagram is xxxxx, I want more followers on there, talk to me on there" etc- they are up front about simply looking for more orbiters and are only on tinder to attention whore.

[Libertas]

(11-26-2013 04:42 PM)master_thespian Wrote:  

Is the overall quality better than okcupid or plentyof fish? absolutely. Are all of those hotties looking for dates or hooks ups? Of course not. Many of the better looking girls just flat out say "My instagram is xxxxx, I want more followers on there, talk to me on there" etc- they are up front about simply looking for more oribiters and are only on tinder to attention whore.

Yeah, that's a case of "unsubscribe" then. Should've seen that one coming.

But the other fact seems promising.

At the very least it seems like you'd be able to use it to play the numbers game without any cost.