In the story I related in my last thread, this girl I went out with the previous night took a book from my desk the next day. She hasn't returned or even mentioned it again since then (and I haven't asked for it back, yet). Then there was this other chick who often hovers around me who took another book with her to read "for a weekend" 2 or 3 weeks ago who said "i'll take it to Miami with me and give it back when I return, pleaseeee" when I asked her to hand it back.
This got me thinking today. I've encountered this phenomenon so many times -- girls taking small things from me, and kinda holding them hostage -- that they just fly by me and I always fail to take notice until I realize this today. You name it, chocolate bars, souvenirs|trinkets from my travels, promo pens, colored chart printouts for work, boyish toys (action figures), and one time even my "cute" computer mouse, etc, and yeah books.
What's with this behavior? Is it like saying "come talk to me if you want it back?" or some kind of screening for provider traits? or territorial marking among competing females?
I always want my important stuff back and press them for it but if they're trivial I usually just let them go.
And yes, if I am interested in a girl I use that as a prop for scheming my way inside the pants. Its always good to understand the motivation behind the behavior though.
This got me thinking today. I've encountered this phenomenon so many times -- girls taking small things from me, and kinda holding them hostage -- that they just fly by me and I always fail to take notice until I realize this today. You name it, chocolate bars, souvenirs|trinkets from my travels, promo pens, colored chart printouts for work, boyish toys (action figures), and one time even my "cute" computer mouse, etc, and yeah books.
What's with this behavior? Is it like saying "come talk to me if you want it back?" or some kind of screening for provider traits? or territorial marking among competing females?
I always want my important stuff back and press them for it but if they're trivial I usually just let them go.
And yes, if I am interested in a girl I use that as a prop for scheming my way inside the pants. Its always good to understand the motivation behind the behavior though.