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11-20-2018, 02:40 PM
Barpilot, explain something to me here. In your first paragraph you talk specifically about steadfastly trying to avoid pros, hookers, any sort of transactional relationship with these SA hoes but then in the very next sentence you talk about how you're giving this 19 yr old a 300/wk allowance and then about an allowance you were giving a previous girl. Now I'm one that doesn't necessarily have a problem dropping some coin to keep a bitch on your time frame and to make sure she's always putting forth her best when she's with you (while simultaneously recognizing the pitfalls of this type of relationship) but your tutorial here is all full of contradictions, very confusing. Of course we then have the obligatory disclaimer that you are of course an alpha male, an adventurous one at that. It's a shame that now even this thread is becoming infected with the same level of trollishness as the rest of the forum.
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11-20-2018, 02:57 PM
He's also giving them a car!!!
Here's a tip, if she sends a picture taken in a hotel she might be a pro.
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11-21-2018, 12:08 AM
It's perfectly alpha to pay (Trump paid Stormy Daniels, among other women, though I always shake my head when a guy calls himself alpha) but this is not a forum about paying. ISG is the forum for short-term one-off professional P4P. This is a forum about game, where girl opens her legs in exchange for "experience" man offers (combination of seduction charm and good sex). Probably there needs to be a forum for in-between sponsor type arrangements like what Barpilot is doing, but this isn't it, as the moderators have made clear in the past. (I was a lurker for a long time because I didn't want to become a compete addict by actively posting, which is exactly what I have become LOL).
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11-21-2018, 07:45 AM
"I'm an alpha male." Pffft! Alpha males never say shit like that.
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11-21-2018, 12:37 PM
Okay, so I just googled and no evidence Trump paid Stormy Daniels for their sexual encounter, just that he paid her later to shut up. Better example is his wife, who was definitely motivated by money. Indeed, any marriage where the man has more money than the woman is a form of sponsor game, and a very bad form at that because you don't know the price on advance. At least Barpilot can end his sponsorship arrangement any time he wants and that's the end of expenses (unless the girl then cries rape and he has to hire a lawyer, but that is unlikely if he is screening well). When a marriage ends, no telling how many additionally expenses.
Regardless, what Barpilot is doing definitely violates both letter and spirit of this forums rules. This would be a good time to clarify those rules because there are other guys besides Barpilot in this forum who are also violating those rules in spirit.
In his recent book Game, Roosh distinguishes 3 types of game: clown, provider and hybrid mix. And then he proceeds to focus on clown game. Clown game is where man offers sexual experiences to enliven woman's boring life. Man definitely has to expend his time and effort in clown game and he may also have to spend considerable money on clothes, nightclub fees, apartment and transportation expenses he would not have if celibate, etc. But all the woman carries away from all this expenditure is memories. (Yes, she might also carry away drinks and food that she consumed, but that is not sufficient motivation in richer countries if the woman is not enjoying herself.)
In provider game, woman carries away from her time spent with the man either cash or valuable gifts (or she gets cash kickback from expensive restaurant meals, as with professional daters in Ukraine). Provider game could also be called sponsorship game. Marriage where man earns more than woman (or where he provides valuable residency permit in rich country for woman from poor country) is a subset of provider game.
Both clown game and provider game have their challenges. Challenge is clown game is to make woman sexually attracted to you, which is not trivially easy other than for men who are naturally handsome. Challenge in provider game is to make sure you get your money's worth. In particular, a provider who wants to feel reciprocated sexual desire has to be very careful about weeding out the gold diggers who fake their desire, because the man will ultimately see through the fakery and feel cheated. Even if man doesn't care about reciprocated desire but just wants sexual access to woman's body, provider still has to worry about getting that in exchange for cash/gifts he provides. Many married men thought they would be getting permanent sexual access to their wives but instead find themelves paying a high price for nothing, because they played provider game badly.
Terms alpha, beta, gamma, etc probably confuse more than they clarify, but certainly there are plenty of men who most guys in this forum would call alpha, who take the most direct route to getting what they want in the way of sex, which is by paying, either as short term P4P or longer term provder game, including the marriage subset of provider game. But this forum is about clown game, and those men should go elsewhere. To talk about provider game here is like talking about baseball on a forum dedicated to basketball: sorry, wrong forum.
Now I mentioned earlier that, IMO, a lot of guys on this forum are crossing the border into provider game: married guys or guys seeking marriage where man has more money than woman, guys in seeking arrangement thread offering "blue bennies" ($100 bills) to girl as taxi money afterwards, etc. Either those guys should be on a separate forum or this forum should divide the current game section into clown and provider sections.
Many guys in the Philippines thread in the travel section have no intention of marrying and never falsely promise marriage, but marriage is what the girls are looking for. Giving away free samples of milk and hoping someone will eventually buy the cow. Is that clown game or provider game? I'd call that clown game played with very gullible women, women who didn't expect to be pumped and dumped. Once these women wise up, clown game (no material benefits for woman, just memories of experience) will likely be as challenging in the Philippines as elsewhere (at least for men who are not naturally handsome). And indeed, based on complaints in the Philippines thread lately, this wising up process seems to have happened not too long ago.
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11-22-2018, 10:35 AM
Where are the best places to meet high quality 40+ year old women ? I'm talking fit, stable and educated.
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11-22-2018, 11:48 AM
Welcome to the forum. That is a very wide open question. And not so easy to answer. There are tons of 40+-year-old women out there. If you are in America there are many places to look. However quality, fit, stable and educated is a very tall order. Most are going to have baggage a lot of baggage, kids, a divorce or two, a job they may not like, lots of drinking and antidepressants. But there are still some good women. Meetup groups can be good, the outdoors kinds are better. Also, professional networking groups can yield some leads. But once again you have to do a lot of filtering.
You do not say a lot in your post. Your current situation, where you are located, what specifically do you want the women for, dating, marriage, FB's etc...
I do not really look for "quality" 40+ women in the US anymore. Occasionally I stumble across one but I am not holding my breath.
"Go get yourself some"
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11-22-2018, 05:41 PM
Quote: (11-22-2018 10:35 AM)Imstevemcqueen Wrote:
Where are the best places to meet high quality 40+ year old women ? I'm talking fit, stable and educated.
How old are you?
- One planet orbiting a star. Billions of stars in the galaxy. Billions of galaxies in the universe. Approach.
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11-23-2018, 04:05 AM
^ I like to day game at the "MILF Market" a high end inner ring suburban liquor store. Especially during the holiday season, the 30 to 40 year old wine-loving cohort are drawn to it like bees to honey. I post up in my car and when I see a prospect, I follow her in and start up a chat about this wine or the other. The talk segues to holiday parties, wine drinking occasions, wine tasting tours, etc. Or you can elderly game them about wine, "I'm a Scotch drinker, I'm looking for a good wine for XYZ occasion." Women love to talk about wine.
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11-24-2018, 07:06 AM
The idea to sit in your car and wait for a good one to enter is solid. It sounds inefficient, but how often do you go shopping? I wait up to 15 minutes rather than burn a shopping trip. Much more efficient to plan your entry than to waste time on a second trip.
I also try to keep notes about dates and times, because traffic varies from day to day and different times. Sunday evenings near a university is a great time to go grocery shopping.
In addition to wine stores, I like to shop at Target, Michaels' crafts - they sell photo albums and frames so its not 100% gay - and Panera sandwich shop.
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11-24-2018, 10:34 AM
I recently that only 1:6 men will ever marry if they’re still single by 40.
What should 40 year old bachelors do if they’re in this situation?
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11-24-2018, 11:41 AM
>>I recently that only 1:6 men will ever marry if they’re still single by 40. What should 40 year old bachelors do if they’re in this situation?
Thanksgiving day itself is past us, but you can always be thankful. Just put the hands together , look up and say "thank you higher power or whatever for preserving me from the pitfalls of the marriage racket".
As BassPlayaYo notes, marriage is only safe for the man of the woman is richer and even then it's debatable. Not a lot of men getting alimony. No need for a binding legal contract to get companionship, sex, shared expenses while traveling and the other benefits usually associated with marriage. I'm assuming a man over 40 isn't looking for children, but even there, you don't need marriage.
Here in Bumblefuck, USA, I attended a Spanish conversation group long ago for practice. 99% of the women were of no interest. But there was one very good looking and otherwise attractive 40 divorcee. That's how it is. You only need one. She only attended some of the meetings, so if I had attended only once myself, I wouldn't have met her. So try lots of these group activities, preferably something that really interests you. Ever tried fencing, as in sword fighting? There's a group for that here in Bumblefuck, believe it or not. A very small group, but there was one single woman there.
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11-24-2018, 12:07 PM
I'm mid-40s, I'll probably get married someday. I look 10 years younger and there's like an infinite number of young girls these days who like 40yr guys anyway as long as you're in shape and have your shit together.
It helps if you live in big cities.
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Older Guys (40+)
11-24-2018, 12:20 PM
>>I am curious about the Spanish language group. I would be willing to try this. Where did you find it through meetup.com?
Don't remember. This was long ago. But I think they have such conversion groups on meetup.com.
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11-24-2018, 02:09 PM
Not being funny but why would you want a woman over age 40. Unless, you are age 70 or mid 60s at best.
Waiting outside a supermarket for a possible target, sounds like stalking to me. Just go about your everyday life and talk to people. Coffee shops, yoga classes, hair salons, certain gyms and shopping malls should be the primary hunting ground.
This has been mentioned countless times, but women like nice things. So target luxury places and you will find your target.
I know an attractive 45 year old lady (EE), she asked me if I require sex daily. Obviously she wasn't into sex daily and wanted to cuddle sometimes.
My bread and butter is 30 ish women, they are also a pain in the butt. However, you can find a lot more attractive ones that are well kept and in shape. They are husband hunting, so they cannot afford to let their bodies go.
If I was only into women over 40, I would hop on a plane to FSU/Balkans/Latin America and never come back. Russia and Ukraine has plenty of top notch looking older women and that is just online. I don't do online dating, I like to lurk.