[upandcoming1]

First off i love this girl i must say and put some time into the relationship. Now im starting to distance myself because i beliee she is and has been cheating. Lately ive been picking up other girls and getting their numbers because there has been a drop in the sex life between me and her...We hardly ever have sex anymore which is crazy.
So please give me some advice all is well .

[MiXX]

(11-10-2010 06:21 PM)upandcoming1 Wrote:  

First off i love this girl i must say and put some time into the relationship. Now im starting to distance myself because i beliee she is and has been cheating. Lately ive been picking up other girls and getting their numbers because there has been a drop in the sex life between me and her...We hardly ever have sex anymore which is crazy.
So please give me some advice all is well .

I am always amazed at how the term "love" is used in todays modern day relationships scene. You love someone who you believe is or has cheated? - any evidence of this? or are you just paranoid that she is because you are?

You need to reconsider what love really is. Tomorrow, I turn 36, and have been with over 100 women in the last 5 years alone (that I can remember) and still do not know what love is except for the love I have for my family and close friends.

Regardless, whether she is or is not cheating, if you are not getting what you deserve form a woman, LEAVE! She will be the death of you sooner than you think. She obviously does not respect you enough to satisfy you as man and can care less if you get it elsewhere despite what she may say.

Mixx

[hydrogonian]

Break up.

100%

No question.

The more time you waste not distancing yourself, the harder the fall will be.

And stop falling in love. Its a waste of energy. Every single relationship is an exchange of goods and services, at least in this hemisphere.

For the very rare women where its not a waste of energy, you should be 500% sure of her character before you even consider loving her. The fact that she behaves the way that you say that she does, is evidence that she was never worthy of your love.

[InternationPlayboy]

Dude, she is cheating on you and you don't want to break up with her??? That's your first problem right there.

[Jack Frost]

(11-10-2010 09:58 PM)InternationPlayboy Wrote:  

Dude, she is cheating on you and you don't want to break up with her??? That's your first problem right there.

Yeah, Im not sure how you can really stand to be with someone when in the back of your mind youve got to be thinking about her hooking up with some other dude. Need to issue those walking papers.

[Quasi]

Yeah dude, you refuse to do what you know much happen, the sooner you get away the sooner you can do something with your life.. grats MM

[Dash Global]

dump her ass and move on to better pastures

[Moma]

(11-10-2010 06:34 PM)MiXX Wrote:  

(11-10-2010 06:21 PM)upandcoming1 Wrote:  

First off i love this girl i must say and put some time into the relationship. Now im starting to distance myself because i beliee she is and has been cheating. Lately ive been picking up other girls and getting their numbers because there has been a drop in the sex life between me and her...We hardly ever have sex anymore which is crazy.
So please give me some advice all is well .

You need to reconsider what love really is. Tomorrow, I turn 36, and have been with over 100 women in the last 5 years alone (that I can remember) and still do not know what love is except for the love I have for my family and close friends.


Mixx

Do you think you will ever get married, bro?

[Jack Frost]

(11-10-2010 06:34 PM)MiXX Wrote:  

You need to reconsider what love really is. Tomorrow, I turn 36, and have been with over 100 women in the last 5 years alone (that I can remember) and still do not know what love is except for the love I have for my family and close friends.
Mixx

Mixx I think Im closer to your age then I am to most of the posters on the forum (Im 30) and I agree. After my first gf and I broke up when I was 18 my boss at the time gave me some great advice that Ill pass on. He said "when youre young and in love you think its the be all end all and you think that you will never love like you are loving this person right now but the truth is youll feel that same feeling many times throughout your life"

[MiXX]

@Moma - Probably not. The more women you are with in life, teh more you realize how fucked up women really are emotionally.

However, if I ever say "I do", it will certainly not be under US laws where it is a one-sided contract designed to punish men for having a change of heart later on in life or just not being able to sustain the lifestyle your wife married you for to begin with.


If I get married, it will certainly be to a down-to-earth woman w/o any desires of a material world, and who does not care about looking good to attract the desperate attention of men to make up for the lack of attention her daddy never gave her, or the attention of other men for her constant need to be a princess and treated like royalty without doing anything to deserve it.

I love being with women a lot...but, I have learned that they are for short-term enjoyment, and then they must be recycled often as cold as that may sound, it's true. Every single woman will eventually get you in trouble in some form or another: financially, emotionally, physically....somehow, they never fail to bring drama to your life in many forms. Heck, even my own mother has thrown me in hot water many times, and I have to run and rescue her from jams.

All hope is not totally lost for marriage; I'm thinking, a small town girl from Ukraine, Brazil or Central America (definitely not Colombia for marriage) will probably be Mrs. Mixx......maybe....just, maybe.


@Jackfrost: true, very true....I broke up with my only * sweetheart * when I was 21 (she was 20), man she gave me hell that girl. Funny, a buddy of mine found her on Facebook and sent me a picture of her..she looks great, but you can tell she has done nothing with her life and is still struggling...had I stayed, she would of sunk me with her.

Mixx

[hydrogonian]

(11-11-2010 06:59 PM)MiXX Wrote:  

@Moma - Probably not. The more women you are with in life, teh more you realize how fucked up women really are emotionally.

However, if I ever say "I do", it will certainly not be under US laws where it is a one-sided contract designed to punish men for having a change of heart later on in life or just not being able to sustain the lifestyle your wife married you for to begin with.


If I get married, it will certainly be to a down-to-earth woman w/o any desires of a material world, and who does not care about looking good to attract the desperate attention of men to make up for the lack of attention her daddy never gave her, or the attention of other men for her constant need to be a princess and treated like royalty without doing anything to deserve it.

I love being with women a lot...but, I have learned that they are for short-term enjoyment, and then they must be recycled often as cold as that may sound, it's true. Every single woman will eventually get you in trouble in some form or another: financially, emotionally, physically....somehow, they never fail to bring drama to your life in many forms. Heck, even my own mother has thrown me in hot water many times, and I have to run and rescue her from jams.

All hope is not totally lost for marriage; I'm thinking, a small town girl from Ukraine, Brazil or Central America (definitely not Colombia for marriage) will probably be Mrs. Mixx......maybe....just, maybe.

word. the funny thing is, in contract law, you can't legally have a contract where there is no penalty for breach. except when it comes to a woman's responsibilities in the marriage contract.

don't forget about Japan. From what I know, that society is set up to breed the "perfect wife". at least insofar as any society on this planet can produce outside of the strict islamic world. Their divorce rate is around 1%, or less, I believe. Also, I heard that men are expected to cheat after about ten years of marriage. However, bring any woman here and expect her to be ruined. So, to have a marriage that would be worthwhile (from the perspective of most guys on this board), a guy has to be ready to move to the country of origin of the wife.

[oldnemesis]

(11-11-2010 08:00 PM)hydrogonian Wrote:  

don't forget about Japan. From what I know, that society is set up to breed the "perfect wife". at least insofar as any society on this planet can produce outside of the strict islamic world. Their divorce rate is around 1%, or less, I believe.

Japan divorce rate is approximately 27%

[hydrogonian]

(11-11-2010 08:53 PM)oldnemesis Wrote:  

(11-11-2010 08:00 PM)hydrogonian Wrote:  

don't forget about Japan. From what I know, that society is set up to breed the "perfect wife". at least insofar as any society on this planet can produce outside of the strict islamic world. Their divorce rate is around 1%, or less, I believe.

Japan divorce rate is approximately 27%

I stand corrected.

I did see the number that I posted somewhere else. Maybe I read the statistic wrong, upon quick glance.

the divorce rate is still significantly less than in the west, though. but to each his own. my opinions are only opinions.

[iknowexactly]

(11-11-2010 09:40 PM)hydrogonian Wrote:  

the divorce rate is still significantly less than in the west, though. but to each his own. my opinions are only opinions.

Not so quick there, Don Hydrogian, Italy's rate is less than 1/3 of Japan according to that chart! I'm liking those odds. I heard it takes 5 years to get a divorce, the Church fought it for a long time.

SO-- if that's true, it means she's not sponging off you for 5 years after she first decides to take up with her Italian lover over there.

[InternationPlayboy]

(11-11-2010 11:48 PM)iknowexactly Wrote:  

(11-11-2010 09:40 PM)hydrogonian Wrote:  

the divorce rate is still significantly less than in the west, though. but to each his own. my opinions are only opinions.

Not so quick there, Don Hydrogian, Italy's rate is less than 1/3 of Japan according to that chart! I'm liking those odds. I heard it takes 5 years to get a divorce, the Church fought it for a long time.

SO-- if that's true, it means she's not sponging off you for 5 years after she first decides to take up with her Italian lover over there.

How credible do you think this site is though? I think I could have made this website.

[Badstuber]

Quote:

(definitely not Colombia for marriage)

Why not?

[oldnemesis]

(11-11-2010 11:48 PM)iknowexactly Wrote:  

Not so quick there, Don Hydrogian, Italy's rate is less than 1/3 of Japan according to that chart! I'm liking those odds. I heard it takes 5 years to get a divorce, the Church fought it for a long time.

Quite true, Italy is only 10%, but this is because it is hard to get it there. Romania with its 20% looks better to me, as there are no obstacles to getting divorced in Romania.

And on the top is Sweden and other Scandinavian countries, not the USA.

[Quasi]

Scan is all fucked for sure.. if your not from our culture forget about woman from the cold north, if you do want it I suggest girls from smaller cities, since there is alot good women from those... But it all depends there are jewels among the rocks...

[hydrogonian]

When I said "west" I was thinking primarily of the average divorce rate of the largest (I guess you could go by GDP) countries.

But, yeah, you could cherry pick a country like Italy that would throw off the stats because of the church.

However, I just spent a LOT of time trying to get statistics consistent across a number of sources, and failed to come up with anything consistent or particularly credible. The stats varied a lot. Too much. I think that these divorce statistics sites likely have a tough time gathering consistent information themselves, for all of the countries that they are attempting to sample.

With that in mind:

I think that there is a direct correlation between the degree of feminist intrusion into the legal system and culture, and the divorce rate. That's just a theory. But, if true, that means that the most feminized countries have the least suitable women for relationships from almost any perspective [practical experience, legal implications for the man, as well as the (admittedly shaky) divorce demographics]. Your statistic from Italy, for one, corroborates this theory. The patriarchal influence from the church keeps the divorce rates down. Its a shame that those fools failed to do the same in every other single country that they chose to imperialize over the last 400 years. A true failure on their part. The wash of feminism was too much for them to bear in the past century. I have to state that keeping feminism at bay is the only good function of theirs, in my estimation. With their abject failure in that arena, I view them as useless and even counterproductive as far as modern society is concerned.

Japan still looks good because of their patriarchal society. But find any society where men still are favored in the legal system and I think that you will find the women who are best raised to be long term prospects, on average.

[iknowexactly]

It's true Italy is a distorted statistic, I hear people just live with the lovers while still married to someone else.

This chart is allegedly from Wikipedia, even I as self-designated chief complainant against the b*tchiness of American women am kind of embarrassed that we are in the top 2 or three countries..pathetic.

http://www.darndivorce.com/divorce-rates...the-world/

Really shows we don't know how to get along with each other.
Here's some usual suspects:

(1) Sweden 54.9% marriages end in divorce (2) USA 54.8% then, going through basically all Northern European countries and EE/Russia until France at 38.3%, which is a little more comprehensible.

My understanding is in France they have a more civilized approach to affairs, namely that you can have affairs but you have to make sure your spouse is not humiliated and is given priority.

Interestingly Portugal is also a Catholic country, but I think Divorce is pretty easy there now, I read an article where the clergy said it's more expensive to change your phone number than to get a divorce now.

They're at 26%.

I think there's a reasonable "natural" number somewhere, maybe 20-25%, people make mistakes and if it was 1% or something you've got some kind of suppressive society going on ( like Saudi Arabia).

For one thing, in countries with no freedom for women there is little to no athleticism among the women, leading to less 9-10's except maybe 16- 18 year olds with good genes.

The bizarre underlying assumption that women are fully capable of reason and subsequent establishment of legal systems encouraging them to trust in their wild, judgmental impulses ("I'll show HIM !! You go girl!!") lead to debacles like USA /Scan.

Latin countries and Central European ones seem a little more realistic about matching the sexes roles with their capabilities.
( Croatia 16%, Poland 17% ( only Catholic EE?) Romania 19%, Bulgaria 21%)

Super hot chick spot Ukraine: 40%.