[iop890]

http://www.entertainmentwise.com/news/12...t-A-Father

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He told the men's magazine: "It wasn't immediately obvious - well, it was, because he didn't look anything like me. But it wasn't immediately obvious what had gone down. The celebration of having a son - from a man's perspective, it's massive."

The 41-year-old actor had dated his ex for several years and admits it was the most tragic time of his life to find out he hadn't fathered the son he had always longed for.

He added: "To be given that and then have it taken away so harshly was like taking a full-on punch in the face. Pow!

"You know, the truth is, like, even admitting it, I'll probably get laughed at for the rest of my life. But it is just tragic, and it happened."

Don't know much about this dude, but he was legit in The Wire and Luther. Wonder who the actual father is.

[kdolo]

(09-20-2013 10:37 AM)iop890 Wrote:  

http://www.entertainmentwise.com/news/12...t-A-Father

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He told the men's magazine: "It wasn't immediately obvious - well, it was, because he didn't look anything like me. But it wasn't immediately obvious what had gone down. The celebration of having a son - from a man's perspective, it's massive." The 41-year-old actor had dated his ex for several years and admits it was the most tragic time of his life to find out he hadn't fathered the son he had always longed for. He added: "To be given that and then have it taken away so harshly was like taking a full-on punch in the face. Pow! "You know, the truth is, like, even admitting it, I'll probably get laughed at for the rest of my life. But it is just tragic, and it happened."

Don't know much about this dude, but he was legit in The Wire and Luther. Wonder who the actual father is.

ELBA - easily one of the most talented actors working today.

mis assigned paternity / paternity fraud - hey it can happen to anyone

[Mentavious]

The Wire is the greatest US Television show ever (better than the Sopranos) with Season 3 and 4 being the pinnacle

Dude is 41 but looks like he is in his mid 30s.

[Menace]

Bitches be scandalous. News at 11. Just goes to show you that being famous, built, tall, good looking, rich, alpha, etc. is no guarantee, although it's obviously better than being none of those.

[pheonix500000]

The thing i want to know is would he have to pay child support still?

[iop890]

Oh shit, I'm arguing with a feminist on the internet now.

Nausea inducing opinions incoming, will post comments.

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Why do the hell would a man even care if a child is "his" anyway? The mother is the one who carries it for 9 months, so for a woman it matters, but for men? It's not the Stone Age anymore, being a father is more about being a role model for your child than mindlessly spreading your genes. This guy is an idiot. You know I'm right, and so does the majority of our generation. Enjoy your irrelevancy.

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They have the right to choose the woman they want to be with, and whether to have sex with her, and whether to wear a condom... once a woman is pregnant, it's time to man up and accept the responsibility.

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Guy 1: Does he still have to pay child support even though it isn't his?
I know in the US some men still have to but I'm not sure about the UK.

Guy 2: What the fuck, how does that happen?

Girl(I hope) 1: Because it's in the best interest of the child, you grotesque omega virgin.

Suddenly, a challenger appears...

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Fuck that. Women don't take responsibility for fucking anything! If you want to cuckold and humiliate your man, then take responsibility for that and don't be surprised when he won't support your bastard spawn.

"B-but I can't get an alpha to commit to my mediocre ass for anything more than a pump and dump, but I still want his genes, so I need a beta to support me!"

Tough shit, be prettier then!

Rev up those downvotes!

[Ryre]

[quote='iop890' pid='538171' dateline='1379693076']
Oh shit, I'm arguing with a feminist on the internet now.

Nausea inducing opinions incoming, will post comments.

[quote]Why do the hell would a man even care if a child is "his" anyway? The mother is the one who carries it for 9 months, so for a woman it matters, but for men? It's not the Stone Age anymore, being a father is more about being a role model for your child than mindlessly spreading your genes. This guy is an idiot. You know I'm right, and so does the majority of our generation. Enjoy your irrelevancy.[/quote]

[quote]They have the right to choose the woman they want to be with, and whether to have sex with her, and whether to wear a condom... once a woman is pregnant, it's time to man up and accept the responsibility.[/quote]

[quote]
Guy 1: Does he still have to pay child support even though it isn't his?
I know in the US some men still have to but I'm not sure about the UK.

Guy 2: What the fuck, how does that happen?

Girl(I hope) 1: Because it's in the best interest of the child, you grotesque omega virgin.[/quote]



Holy shit, those comments. I love the idea that a man should "accept responsibility" for something he (his sperm) did not do. If women were being forced to care for and invest resources in children their men fathered with "some skank," you can bet they'd feel differently.

[007]

I feel bad for him, he seems like a legit alpha dude all round. Great actor too.

[NY Digital]

It's extremely easy to do paternity tests these days. All it takes is $100 and a swab of saliva from under the tongue.

No reason to wait, get it done when the baby leaves the hospital.

[SpiderKing]

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It's not the Stone Age anymore, being a father is more about being a role model for your child

being a father is more about being a role model for your child

more about being a role model for your child

being a role model for your child

role model for your child

your child

Whose fucking bastard is this?
Not miiiiiine.

[iop890]

At least he was smart enough to get a paternity test done, bitch probably shamed him hard if she found out beforehand.

A lot of guys would rather live deluding themselves, even if it's obvious the kid is some other dudes.

[OGNorCal707]

Idris Elba is a beast, this just goes to show if it happened to him, it could happen to anyone. Furthermore, I don't think this should be a referendum on him being a cuckold, but more on the state of modern women and their cock carousel riding.

[Timoteo]

No man, regardless of what he does for a living or how alpha he supposedly is, has a cheat-proof relationship with a woman. In fact, high-achievers may be even more susceptible. Women will use the excuse that "YOU WERE NEVER HERE...YOU WEREN'T THERE FOR ME!!!!" to fuck another dude behind your back, but then gladly use your resources to raise the child that isn't yours, and lavish some other dude with gifts. And in their minds, it's all justified, even though you were off hustling to support them in the manner in which they'd become accustomed.

[Timoteo]

(09-20-2013 12:20 PM)iop890 Wrote:  

At least he was smart enough to get a paternity test done, bitch probably shamed him hard if she found out beforehand.

A lot of guys would rather live deluding themselves, even if it's obvious the kid is some other dudes.

Yep. The "Me, Myself and Irene" example is funny and extreme, but some guys really do that, because the alternative is more painful in their minds.

[Quintus Curtius]

I feel bad for this brother. What a kick in the balls. It takes a big man to admit this kind of thing. Bravo for him. What I take from this: it can happen to anyone.
At least he was smart enough to get a test done...deep down, maybe he had his suspicions.

[Basil Ransom]

1. Looks like Idris was broke when the baby was conceived - he cops to being a doorman, a poor DJ and a drug dealer before he became big.

2. According to what little data there is, paternity fraud in the US is about 5x more common among black women than white women, 10% vs 2%, where confidence about paternity is high. Race is almost always a proxy for other variables like education and socioeconomic background which are probably factors too.

Source: http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/gnxp/2...jyUkqO3Mb0

[kdolo]

Idris Elba -

I've always thought that he would make a bad-ass John Stewart Green Lantern !

[Tytalus]

How is a man supposed to take responsibility for another man's actions?!

[Sumanguru]

(09-20-2013 01:43 PM)basilransom Wrote:  

2. According to what little data there is, paternity fraud in the US is about 5x more common among black women than white women, 10% vs 2%, where confidence about paternity is high. Race is almost always a proxy for other variables like education and socioeconomic background which are probably factors too.

Source: http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/gnxp/2...jyUkqO3Mb0

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Idris_Elba

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Idrissa Akuna "Idris" Elba (/ˈɪdrəs ˈɛlbə/; born 6 September 1972)[2] is a British[3] actor, singer, rapper and producer who has starred in both British and American productions. He grew up in Canning Town, East London.

Idris Elba is British. US race issues aren't germane. You are bringing up the subject of race in America for no reason besides that you are obsessed with it. [Hence your side comment about "other variables" to possibly get the discussion ball rolling]. You are a race troll, and really many of the major things that is wrong with the manosphere.

[Vacancier Permanent]

That is insane!
A question to all of you guys: what if this, god forbid, were to happen to you, how would you react? What would you do?

[Excelsior]

(09-20-2013 05:24 PM)Vacancier Permanent Wrote:  

That is insane!
A question to all of you guys: what if this, god forbid, were to happen to you, how would you react? What would you do?

That woman would never see me again, and neither would her child.

[Timoteo]

That's a tough one, Vacancier. I think if you asked many guys that had this happen to them what they'd do before it actually happened to them, they might say they'd do something different than what they actually did. Namely, stayed with the conniving bitch that betrayed them. This is one of those things you have to actually be faced with to truly know what you'd do. Just like if you ask most women what they'd do if they found out their man was cheating on them. Most would say they'd leave/break up with him. When it happens to a girlfriend, they almost unanimously will counsel her to break up with the guy. But many women DON'T do that. They'll stay with the guy. One thing is certain though...it's got to be a daily humiliation for men that stay with her. It's got to be rough being with someone that's capable of doing something of THAT magnitude to you, and in many ways she's got to lose what little respect she had for you in the first place. Personally, I don't think I could swallow it.

[iop890]

(09-20-2013 05:24 PM)Vacancier Permanent Wrote:  

That is insane!
A question to all of you guys: what if this, god forbid, were to happen to you, how would you react? What would you do?

Assuming this is in some parallel universe(or the far future) where I'm willingly having a kid, bizarro-iop890 would employ the following:

(09-20-2013 05:39 PM)Athlone McGinnis Wrote:  

That woman would never see me again, and neither would her child.

Of course a part of me would likely want to "get even", but I'd like to think I could just walk away having learned something rather than doing some unseemly shit and fucking off to Asia. But who knows?

However I do know myself well enough to say I wouldn't stay with the whore or be a father to the kid. I did some embarrassing things before I took the red-pill, but even at my most blue-pill/beta I wouldn't put up with that.

[Basil Ransom]

" [Hence your side comment about "other variables" to possibly get the discussion ball rolling]."

My side comment was alleging to the fact that ratchet ass hos in come in all races, so a girl being white or Asian is no iron clad assurance that she isn't fucking around on you either.

You seem to have an easier time vilifying me than holding adulterous cuckolding whores responsible. Whatever floats your boat man.

[Quintus Curtius]

(09-20-2013 05:39 PM)Athlone McGinnis Wrote:  

(09-20-2013 05:24 PM)Vacancier Permanent Wrote:  

That is insane!
A question to all of you guys: what if this, god forbid, were to happen to you, how would you react? What would you do?

That woman would never see me again, and neither would her child.

_____________________

I would handle it the same way he's handling it. When things are that bad, there's no point running and hiding from it.
You just have to own it, in a dignified way. Which is what he's doing. He may even be able to parlay some sympathy for himself into a positive thing. You just got to try to turn a negative into a positive.
But as for how he handles this bitch? Never speak to her again. Nor the offspring. No compromise, no backing down, no caving in.
Disloyalty or betrayal is the one unforgivable sin in business and in life relations.