[Tengen]

My go-to for Dom/Sub gifs

http://danger-and-play.tumblr.com/

You're welcome

[sixsix]

Now as for my own experiences and perspective:

I look very dominant...

I'm very tall, broad shoulders, shaved head.
Girl I recently swooped said her friend thought I looked like a convict.
But when I speak my stoic demeanor turns friendly enough.

So I attract girls that crave domination...

When I'm approached it's almost always small girls.
The petite and feminine kind that fortunately I'm most attracted to.
One of my biggest insights was that many of them are slightly intimidated by me.
For women, fear and arousal are best friends forever.
So making them feel at ease, opens the flood gates.

So I need to be congruent in bed.

In bed I have been wishy-washy: doggy with hands around neck isn't BDSM.
And I've realized for real, full satisfaction the girls want to completely lose control.
But only to someone that masters himself and knows the score.
I want to be the Christian Grey, not the half-assed 'alpha.'

Recent Case Study:

Met this girl, she's older than I am, 100 lbs and tight.
We go for drinks couple of days later, and then to her place.
She tells me she's going to take a quick shower and asks me what to wear.

I hesitate: "I don't know, just something cute."
She replies: "A collar and a leash?"

And so it begins. She knows the drill. She understands I'm inexperienced in those things but sees I'm naturally dominant so probably sees it as an investment. Going to be fun as a learning experience and I will use this on new girls, especially the young and unexperienced.

Take Home Message:
1. Girls crave domination in bed, especially the hot, pampered ones.
2. Be the man and use her as a doll.
3. Be respectful, bit never ask for permission. Just act and gauge her response.
4. Be hygienic and make sure she is: shower and scrub beforehand.
5. Then: Nothing is dirty and everything goes. You love her entire body and she worships your entire body. Her pussy, her ass, her ears.
6. Whatever you like, never be ashamed about it. Want a blowjob? Put your dick in her mouth and fuck it. Do you like some anal play? Get some anal play.
7. Conversely: Never judge her desires. She will smell your disapproval and will close off.
8. The biggest pleasure for submissive girls is giving you pleasure. She gets off on making you cum, on making you moan, and being used and humiliated by you if she sees you enjoy it.
9. Again: Respect her boundaries. Genuinely enjoy giving something back to her. And most of all, have fun with it all.

[Acute Angle]

There's some very useful info in this thread. It's an area I've dabbled in and want to do more in future.

But, ever the realist, I would urge caution: don't do this unless you are willing for the girl to become psychologically dependent upon you. If you think you can just 'own her soul' one night and toss her to the kerb the next, 1. you're a bastard and 2. you're kidding yourself. (Not saying anyone here wants to do that.) You could easily end up with a psycho stalker on your hands, and you may deserve it.

Domination is powerful medicine. Done right, it will have a powerful effect on her, and probably upon you too. Personally I would only get deep into it within a LTR - more trust, more comfort, more openness.

I'd recommend reading The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren.

[sixsix]

(08-20-2013 06:55 AM)Acute Angle Wrote:  

There's some very useful info in this thread. It's an area I've dabbled in and want to do more in future.

But, ever the realist, I would urge caution: don't do this unless you are willing for the girl to become psychologically dependent upon you. If you think you can just 'own her soul' one night and toss her to the kerb the next, 1. you're a bastard and 2. you're kidding yourself. (Not saying anyone here wants to do that.) You could easily end up with a psycho stalker on your hands, and you may deserve it.

Domination is powerful medicine. Done right, it will have a powerful effect on her, and probably upon you too. Personally I would only get deep into it within a LTR - more trust, more comfort, more openness.

I'd recommend reading The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren.

Good point, Acute Angle.

Don't use powerful attachment techniques on girls that you don't want attached to you. Common sense, but important to note. Just fuck the 6s (or below, if that's your thing) once or twice and be happy they've forgotten about you in a day or two.

Hot girls that you want to keep seeing? Game on.

[reaper23]

For Domination, BDSM and other kink elements like that, here are a few good books to get the idea. This books are considered "canon" in the bdsm community. Don't be alarmed, some of the discussions are definitely male-male or female-female - thats how it is the kink community. lots of "pan sexuality." but that doesn't mean what they have to say don't apply.


http://www.amazon.com/New-Topping-Book-N...727&sr=8-3

http://www.amazon.com/New-Bottoming-Book...727&sr=8-1

http://www.amazon.com/Loving-Dominant-Jo...727&sr=8-4

http://www.amazon.com/Jay-Wisemans-Eroti...812&sr=8-1

For ropes:

http://www.amazon.com/Bondage-Sex-Chanta...=1-3-spell

http://www.amazon.com/Knotty-Showing-Rop...894&sr=1-1

http://www.amazon.com/Shibari-You-Can-Us...894&sr=1-3

my favorites:

http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-1...946&sr=1-2

http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-2...946&sr=1-3

[reaper23]

to purchase ropes, there is only one place I really know of that has the best stuff: Twisted Monk

here is a starter kit

http://twistedmonk.com/curiositykit.htm

[ColSpanker]

(08-20-2013 08:17 AM)reaper23 Wrote:  

For Domination, BDSM and other kink elements like that, here are a few good books to get the idea. This books are considered "canon" in the bdsm community. Don't be alarmed, some of the discussions are definitely male-male or female-female - thats how it is the kink community. lots of "pan sexuality." but that doesn't mean what they have to say don't apply.


http://www.amazon.com/New-Topping-Book-N...727&sr=8-3

http://www.amazon.com/New-Bottoming-Book...727&sr=8-1

http://www.amazon.com/Loving-Dominant-Jo...727&sr=8-4

http://www.amazon.com/Jay-Wisemans-Eroti...812&sr=8-1

For ropes:

http://www.amazon.com/Bondage-Sex-Chanta...=1-3-spell

http://www.amazon.com/Knotty-Showing-Rop...894&sr=1-1

http://www.amazon.com/Shibari-You-Can-Us...894&sr=1-3

my favorites:

http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-1...946&sr=1-2

http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-2...946&sr=1-3

Any thing by Jay Wiseman is worth reading.

[King Solomon]

I'm all for it. I'm a Dom myself, came into it about 4 years ago. It's a much different thing than just busting a nut. It's quite a bit more effort and work. I do it because I enjoy it immensely. SO much fun. I don't just want to give a girl an orgasm- I want to rattle her to the core. I want to hurt her like I know she wants it. You can, in fact, own a girl this way.

I agree that this must be carefully done- the whole "with great power comes great responsibility" thing. I like to leave them better than I found them, not damaged and broken. There's nothing wrong with some rough play or bondage but I think its good to keep it light for chicks you know you aren't going to keep.

Here's another fun benefit: you can have a true harem this way. When you get to where you "own" a girl psychologically, she will do whatever you wish. Allow other girls? Ok. Play with other girls? Ok. Whatever Master wants. She will do it because now she lives to please him, and because her only other choice is to check out, which is not an option, once you really reach and own her deepest self.

I'm not going to expound on how it's all done, the ins and outs etc. If you want to learn more, go to places like Fetlife.com and do your homework. For me, it is the next logical red-pill step, and must be learned studied and applied just like red-pill/game stuff.

It's not so great for PUAs because of its intense and bonding nature, but it works good for that if you keep it light.

For any of you guys who are wondering how to actually KEEP a woman against all odds

this is it.

You can own a woman as deeply and thoroughly as you want. If you do it well, and lead/Dom her well, she will follow you to the ends of the earth, make serving you her whole life's mission, and bonus: she will blossom as a woman in ways she never dreamed possible. When done well, this sort of Domination will bring out the best version of herself possible. Additionally, it allows for protocols that not only make her a better person, but also preserve the passion and attraction, and prevent damage.

Great post AWYCW

[Cr33pin]

[Acute Angle]

(08-20-2013 09:32 AM)Cr33pin Wrote:  

Cr33pin, in all fairness I think you should point out that those are pics you took off the internet and not your own.

[pointbreak]

Cr33pin is a phony, a big fat phony!
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zSTEqHxh3fI...STEqHxh3fI

[Cr33pin]

Dude I didnt say "heres my handy work".... I found those on the GIF link Tengen provided, the girl with her shirt still on is like one of the first pics on there so anyone who clicked that link will see thats were the photo came from..... I clicked the link an those photos coincide with the kind of BDSM that I like so I posted them up.

When I post a pic of boobs in the boob lounge or a nice butt in the ass university lounge I dont think I need to post that I didnt take the pics.... I dont feel I need state that when I post a pic of a girl in bondage in a BDSM thread either.
But for those who may not be aware. I Cr33pin did not take the photos posted above.

[Aliblahba]

Does waterboarding count as BDSM/Domination?

[pointbreak]

Only if you use your jizz instead of water.

PS cr33pin, no need to get defensive bruh

[Aliblahba]

How do you fuck the girls when they're all bound/gagged and all their holes are covered? Don't that defeat the purpose of having a girl in the bed?

[Kickb]

Its all about control and domination, no need to fuck Ali. Just knowing that another human being is powerless and vulnerable. Their bruises and mouths stuffed with balls, that's a lot of power. Enough to get a man off buddy.

[Aliblahba]

I'm a little confused. I've done some of this at a girls request, usually binding them up with their knees behind their ears, giving full access to the puss. Then an intense fucking ensued. The after was ruined by having to take all that shit off. I found it unsatisfying. I can do the same thing with my arms and body weight.

So the question is: Is it just a fetish, or are guys unable to dominate by the traditional sense and need the help of ropes and gags?

[Acute Angle]

(08-20-2013 11:02 AM)Aliblahba Wrote:  

Does waterboarding count as BDSM/Domination?

Sorry, pointbreak beat me to it. Delete.

[Acute Angle]

(08-20-2013 12:05 PM)Aliblahba Wrote:  

I'm a little confused. I've done some of this at a girls request, usually binding them up with their knees behind their ears, giving full access to the puss. Then an intense fucking ensued. The after was ruined by having to take all that shit off. I found it unsatisfying. I can do the same thing with my arms and body weight.

So the question is: Is it just a fetish, or are guys unable to dominate by the traditional sense and need the help of ropes and gags?

Good question. I guess you'd have to ask the girl about how the two feel different to her, but I'd guess the ropes and gags entail more ceremony, anticipation, sustained helplessness, and a few other factors.

[Pyre]

(08-20-2013 12:05 PM)Aliblahba Wrote:  

I'm a little confused. I've done some of this at a girls request, usually binding them up with their knees behind their ears, giving full access to the puss. Then an intense fucking ensued. The after was ruined by having to take all that shit off. I found it unsatisfying. I can do the same thing with my arms and body weight.

Just leave next time. Say you're just gonna take a piss and never come back

[Duke Castile]

You can dominate a girl in the traditional sense. But girls are stupid, the fact that this is something they've read or heard about makes it seem more dominating.

And let's be honest, you have to manually hold them down. When you can standup, make her wait, send a big smack on the ass with a paddle or slap her face and she's unable to even move because she's helpless and at your mercy, that's powerful.

Those feelings of being helpless linger around forever even when she's not tied up. This is a more intense (really better) way of getting into that lizard brain and getting them to submit and be owned by you.


Personally, I have been turned off by a lot of this shit. It seems so utterly gross to me in some cases.

I think it was Lovecharm that was talking about some clubs in london where you can see girls getting "spit roasted".

That just makes me sick to my stomach.

I have no desire to be one of these people dressed in a gimp suit with fucking zippers and whatever else, and I don't want to turn a girl into someone that wants more and more and more to where she's consumed.

I'm interested in experimenting with knots, paddles (slapping), even ball gags and blindfolds but that's all.

[Jaylow]

Fisto. Can you tell us some of the psychological domination things you do to girls leading up to the first time you fuck them?

What about the difference between the first time you bang them vs the second time? Is that too weird to ask?

My first time with a new girl I am ass smacking and hair pulling and making them say really humiliating things about themselves. No props used. Our second encounter I pretty much have free reign to do whatever I want to them.

I get the girl to agree to certain acts when she is close to cuming. I will even stop her orgasm and make her agree if I think she is down but playing hard to get. A girl from a couple nights ago I had to ruin her orgasm twice before she agreed before the 3rd time.

If I know something is really off limits I will say "you know I am going to eventually do x to you right? but say no to it right now I want you to" when she is close to orgasm. She will come HARD. She eventually does it.

[Duke Castile]

I'm a big believer, you better make that first time count. You blow her mind when you first fuck her, you're going to have a huge amount of power over her.

Leading up to the 1st time is a good question, I'll have to think about it.

Sounds like you know what you're doing.

[Aliblahba]

(08-20-2013 04:04 PM)Fisto Wrote:  

I'm a big believer, you better make that first time count. You blow her mind when you first fuck her, you're going to have a huge amount of power over her.

Leading up to the 1st time is a good question, I'll have to think about it.

Sounds like you know what you're doing.

This is why I prefer not to fuck on a 1st date. Deny the kiss close. Escalate by text and calls. Neg. Denying her what she expected makes her hornier which in turn lowers her inhibitions when the first round of sex happens at your discretion. The sex is explosive at that point, and her mind is fucked from the last time you saw her to the 1st time you fuck. The lower inhibitions raises the bar to what you can do, which opens the door for rougher sex. And that is domination. Leave the ropes for the rookies.

[reaper23]

ali:

i can never deny the kiss close, because my MO is go for the kiss as soon as possible, like even ten minutes into the date. but yes, not fucking on the first date is gold.

i usually say something part way through when we're making out, you know i'm not fucking you tonight...

and then yes, the actual first time is like the 10th time..she is so primed and ready for it.