I rarely drop game data but there have been a few posts lately looking for University game tips so I thought Id start a rough guide.
When I went to University I started from zero. New city, no friends and no value. I relied on cold approach at house parties/bars for the first year and although I had some success it was inconsistent and pretty fustrating. Luckily I found a game mentor and read some good game material. By the time second year came around I had broke it down and formed a plan. By the end of second year I was cleaning up and killed it right up to graduation.
Univeristy is not actually an ideal place for practising your cold approach skills. You don't want to be risk spitting poor game or having to approach 20 girls everytime you go out just to get one lay. If you do you will quickly be known as 'that pickup guy'. There is a time and a place for running game but first comes building your social circle.
Social Circle Game:
Nowhere does social circle game work as well and as fast as University. Here social currency is king.
First you build your network. You want to become aware of what kind of people you are befriending and spending the most time with.
These are the concepts I learn to identify who was bringing value and helping build your social circle:
Social connector: The more of these people you get toknow the more people you will know by associatiation. They will expodentically help you build you social circle. They are not nessesary high vaue, they just happen to know a lot of people.
Value connector: Not nessesary super well connected but have high value. Someone you want to be on first name basis with. The president of a club, the captain of the sports team, the dj who plays at the Uni bar etc.
Gatekeepers: Most of the time these will be girls. Might be the foreign student who runs events for all the other foreign students. Could be the not-so-hot girl on the volleyball team but who gets along with all her team mates. Might be the class captain of nursing. You disqualify yourself hard (you are actually trying to get in the friendzone) 'you remind me of my best friend from my hometown/ you would be perfect for my friend Mark'. You are trying to become friends to gain access to a particular group (hot girls come in groups).
And who to avoid...
Social deadends- These could be the guys spitting below par game and getting rejected 10 times an hour. Or maybe its someone cool when its just the guys hanging out but who always try to cut you down when there are girls around. Maybe its the guy who gets blackout drunk every night and acts like an ass.
Its someone who undermines your value and doesnt add any value to your life. Avoid or if you already know them cut the friendship and move on. Better to have 2 friends you can rely on then 10 who run bad game and talk shit about you.
Putting it together:
Basically you want to befriend as many social connectors, value connectors and gatekeeps as possible. You only have some much free time and effort and this way you are getting maximum return for minimum effort. The aim is to build up some social value so girls come to you. Try and avoid chasing them as much as possible.
The aim is to build your 'brand'.
Thye idea comes from Malcom Gladwell book thin slicing (or rapid cognition).
Compare the thinslice of the same person but presented in two different ways: 1) you walk in to a party with some hot girls and a few cool guys plus you already now a few 'in' people already there or 2) you walk with two other guys, no girls and you know only one guy sitting by himself in the corner. The first guy has value off the bat and has a lot less effort to put in to build attraction with girls at the party. Plus the swoop home is a lot easier since people already know who you are.
If you build things right and put the effort into building a big social circle things will start to pay off big time after a few months.
In cold approach you have only have one shot so you are using your best game possible and going for the kill everytime. It takes a lot of effort and you only succeed if a lot of variables line up: your game that night/the venue/the competition/what girls are available to go home with you that very night.
Now if you have some social value built up and a good social circle that girls are a part of they will become aware of you over time and you can choose the right moment to strike. You are building buzz and slowly working the magic. Maybe there is a night there is a certain girl you are after but some friends arrive and she cant go home with you- thats alright, you sit back and rely on your social circle game by and wait for next time. You don't have to pull out a hail mary game move and go for the kill/fail. By getting on her radar before you even try run some game its not a cold approach anymore. She is already aware you are a cool, social, fun guy who is known around University and she is already 'warmed up' to you running game on her. You have the social lifestyle sorted and the right moment will come to strike.
Understand situational value- when you dont have it lay back and wait. Work on building high social value in certain areas then when the ball is in your court you strike then. Example- you might be having trouble gaming that new girl in Economics but when you invite her to that event you are running and she sees you have crazy situational value things heat up fast.
the overall idea is that you are not trying to run around University picking off random girls like a sniper, instead you have your team (group of like-minded cool guys who have your back) and you have your brand/social image. Instead of having to tell girls how fun and cool you are they get to see it first hand. What is more powerful and what will they go after? Then when they come knocking you bring in your game arsenal- teasing/push-pull/role pays whatever.
Next you start building scarcity to boost up your value even more. You don't just fuck the first girls that come chasing. You sit back and sell to the highest bidders. You use the hottest girls chasing you to build even more value by flirting with them in the middle of a crowded house party or having lunch with them in a busy part of University. Once you have hooked up with the hottest girls the rest fall like dominoes. Try keep your brand as strong as possible. Have people thinking you only hook up with the hottest girls and are a prized male to go after. You keep any average girls you do hook up with off the grid and out of sight.
It might seem like a lot of work but once you have it set up you can sit back and enjoy the results with minimal effort. If done right they will come chasing you.
Now at the same time you still work on yourself as a person, you hit the gym, work on your style and try to add value to the people you hang out with. You can't just rely on being well known and just skip actually working on yourself too. Use the 100s of pages of good info already on here to improve your workouts, style, diet, game etc.
So using myself as an example: I got involved with 6 different students clubs and regularly went to the events and on trips. I eventually started organizing the trips/events for two of them. I remember once being on a bus of about 40 girls and 10 guys talking on the speakers about what I had planned for them that weekend -surfing and drinking (some of the easiest hook ups in my life).
I also volunteered to be a foreign liaison officer for any new foreign students to my University so I got to know a bunch of girls and guys from all over the world. I would have international cooking nights at my flat and invite 10-20 people at a time. I ran movie nights too and would invite people from different groups so people are meeting people through you.
It all took a bit of time and effort but its a game changer and I was killing it by my final year.
University is too short to run around worrying about running perfect game all the time and only relying on SNLs. Build a social group, surround yourself with fun people who respect you and the girls will come to you.
If people find this helpful I will post some more on the subject.
When I went to University I started from zero. New city, no friends and no value. I relied on cold approach at house parties/bars for the first year and although I had some success it was inconsistent and pretty fustrating. Luckily I found a game mentor and read some good game material. By the time second year came around I had broke it down and formed a plan. By the end of second year I was cleaning up and killed it right up to graduation.
Univeristy is not actually an ideal place for practising your cold approach skills. You don't want to be risk spitting poor game or having to approach 20 girls everytime you go out just to get one lay. If you do you will quickly be known as 'that pickup guy'. There is a time and a place for running game but first comes building your social circle.
Social Circle Game:
Nowhere does social circle game work as well and as fast as University. Here social currency is king.
First you build your network. You want to become aware of what kind of people you are befriending and spending the most time with.
These are the concepts I learn to identify who was bringing value and helping build your social circle:
Social connector: The more of these people you get toknow the more people you will know by associatiation. They will expodentically help you build you social circle. They are not nessesary high vaue, they just happen to know a lot of people.
Value connector: Not nessesary super well connected but have high value. Someone you want to be on first name basis with. The president of a club, the captain of the sports team, the dj who plays at the Uni bar etc.
Gatekeepers: Most of the time these will be girls. Might be the foreign student who runs events for all the other foreign students. Could be the not-so-hot girl on the volleyball team but who gets along with all her team mates. Might be the class captain of nursing. You disqualify yourself hard (you are actually trying to get in the friendzone) 'you remind me of my best friend from my hometown/ you would be perfect for my friend Mark'. You are trying to become friends to gain access to a particular group (hot girls come in groups).
And who to avoid...
Social deadends- These could be the guys spitting below par game and getting rejected 10 times an hour. Or maybe its someone cool when its just the guys hanging out but who always try to cut you down when there are girls around. Maybe its the guy who gets blackout drunk every night and acts like an ass.
Its someone who undermines your value and doesnt add any value to your life. Avoid or if you already know them cut the friendship and move on. Better to have 2 friends you can rely on then 10 who run bad game and talk shit about you.
Putting it together:
Basically you want to befriend as many social connectors, value connectors and gatekeeps as possible. You only have some much free time and effort and this way you are getting maximum return for minimum effort. The aim is to build up some social value so girls come to you. Try and avoid chasing them as much as possible.
The aim is to build your 'brand'.
Thye idea comes from Malcom Gladwell book thin slicing (or rapid cognition).
Compare the thinslice of the same person but presented in two different ways: 1) you walk in to a party with some hot girls and a few cool guys plus you already now a few 'in' people already there or 2) you walk with two other guys, no girls and you know only one guy sitting by himself in the corner. The first guy has value off the bat and has a lot less effort to put in to build attraction with girls at the party. Plus the swoop home is a lot easier since people already know who you are.
If you build things right and put the effort into building a big social circle things will start to pay off big time after a few months.
In cold approach you have only have one shot so you are using your best game possible and going for the kill everytime. It takes a lot of effort and you only succeed if a lot of variables line up: your game that night/the venue/the competition/what girls are available to go home with you that very night.
Now if you have some social value built up and a good social circle that girls are a part of they will become aware of you over time and you can choose the right moment to strike. You are building buzz and slowly working the magic. Maybe there is a night there is a certain girl you are after but some friends arrive and she cant go home with you- thats alright, you sit back and rely on your social circle game by and wait for next time. You don't have to pull out a hail mary game move and go for the kill/fail. By getting on her radar before you even try run some game its not a cold approach anymore. She is already aware you are a cool, social, fun guy who is known around University and she is already 'warmed up' to you running game on her. You have the social lifestyle sorted and the right moment will come to strike.
Understand situational value- when you dont have it lay back and wait. Work on building high social value in certain areas then when the ball is in your court you strike then. Example- you might be having trouble gaming that new girl in Economics but when you invite her to that event you are running and she sees you have crazy situational value things heat up fast.
the overall idea is that you are not trying to run around University picking off random girls like a sniper, instead you have your team (group of like-minded cool guys who have your back) and you have your brand/social image. Instead of having to tell girls how fun and cool you are they get to see it first hand. What is more powerful and what will they go after? Then when they come knocking you bring in your game arsenal- teasing/push-pull/role pays whatever.
Next you start building scarcity to boost up your value even more. You don't just fuck the first girls that come chasing. You sit back and sell to the highest bidders. You use the hottest girls chasing you to build even more value by flirting with them in the middle of a crowded house party or having lunch with them in a busy part of University. Once you have hooked up with the hottest girls the rest fall like dominoes. Try keep your brand as strong as possible. Have people thinking you only hook up with the hottest girls and are a prized male to go after. You keep any average girls you do hook up with off the grid and out of sight.
It might seem like a lot of work but once you have it set up you can sit back and enjoy the results with minimal effort. If done right they will come chasing you.
Now at the same time you still work on yourself as a person, you hit the gym, work on your style and try to add value to the people you hang out with. You can't just rely on being well known and just skip actually working on yourself too. Use the 100s of pages of good info already on here to improve your workouts, style, diet, game etc.
So using myself as an example: I got involved with 6 different students clubs and regularly went to the events and on trips. I eventually started organizing the trips/events for two of them. I remember once being on a bus of about 40 girls and 10 guys talking on the speakers about what I had planned for them that weekend -surfing and drinking (some of the easiest hook ups in my life).
I also volunteered to be a foreign liaison officer for any new foreign students to my University so I got to know a bunch of girls and guys from all over the world. I would have international cooking nights at my flat and invite 10-20 people at a time. I ran movie nights too and would invite people from different groups so people are meeting people through you.
It all took a bit of time and effort but its a game changer and I was killing it by my final year.
University is too short to run around worrying about running perfect game all the time and only relying on SNLs. Build a social group, surround yourself with fun people who respect you and the girls will come to you.
If people find this helpful I will post some more on the subject.