[Diego]

i received this message from a girl i dissed today. she likes me but im not really into her so i can act pretty cocky around her and criticize her a lot. she got pissed and i got this text:

"Youre lame and a bad company.
Stop trying to seduce Jenny."

now jenny is a friend of hers who i have been working on. she is responding very well and quite open to my flirtations most of the time. i dont treat jenny like the other girl but this one time, i almost got mad at her and told her her attitude was disappointing. jenny quickly made amends and told me she didnt want me to get mad at her. the problem with jenny is her character is very soft and the other girl overpowers her all the time, leading her to do this and that.

after i received the first girl's message, i forwarded it to jenny and asked her "what's this about?". jenny did not reply

the first girl is probably bent on cockblocking me now
what's the best play here with jenny? i dont really much care about the other girl (but yeah, the less you care the more you get them, but no, i don't want the other girl)

[eradicator]

I would totally ignore the fat one completely.(the one that sent the text)

You could bust her for having poor social skills-the cock blockers generally hate that. Or just say "that is really none of your business. I am blocking your number so you can't text me anymore, it's creepy"

[Days of Broken Arrows]

(08-08-2013 10:22 PM)Diego Wrote:  

i received this message from a girl i dissed today. she likes me but im not really into her so i can act pretty cocky around her and criticize her a lot. she got pissed and i got this text:

"Youre lame and a bad company.
Stop trying to seduce Jenny."

now jenny is a friend of hers who i have been working on. she is responding very well and quite open to my flirtations most of the time. i dont treat jenny like the other girl but this one time, i almost got mad at her and told her her attitude was disappointing. jenny quickly made amends and told me she didnt want me to get mad at her. the problem with jenny is her character is very soft and the other girl overpowers her all the time, leading her to do this and that.

after i received the first girl's message, i forwarded it to jenny and asked her "what's this about?". jenny did not reply

the first girl is probably bent on cockblocking me now
what's the best play here with jenny? i dont really much care about the other girl (but yeah, the less you care the more you get them, but no, i don't want the other girl)

Sorry to be the bringer of bad news, Diego, but you played into her hand. Her game was to mess up your game by creating drama and messing with your head. And you fell for it by forwarding her message to the other girl. This makes you look like you're a pawn in their game and is not the impression you want to make. It makes you look weak and like you can be played.

One thing you have to realize is that women just say things to get a rise out of you (some men do this too). When this stuff happens, the best method is to try not to break frame. The best way to handle it is as if you're dealing with a child: "That's nice" or "How cute" (credit for this idea goes to Roissy/Heartiste).

Look at it this way: who the fuck cares what Girl A says if you have your eye on Girl B? She has AIDS? That's nice. She has a missing leg? Cool. She dates her own brother? Great! Have a nice day!!

This can be salvaged. Go dark for a week or so. Either wait for her to call or initiate contact as if nothing happened. If she brings it up, IMMEDIATELY change the subject, by saying "Yeah, whatever, I have bigger fish to fry today -- I need to tell you about (make up some dramatic bullshit here)." Good luck.

[Diego]

great comment dba, appreciate it a lot

i thought hard before forwarding that message to girl B, being game aware for a while now.
my angle was, although friends, girls still compete with each other. girl A is aggressive. girl B is shy. girl A opens me all the time. girl B never initiates. girl A overpowers girl B in social situations. girl A is also a bit more popular although their comparative looks is about the same because girl B is very passive and girl A flirts a lot.

sending the message to girl B that shows girl A's disqualification is intended to boost her ego along so hopefully she might become more open towards embracing her interest in me despite the presence of girl A in our social group. that's the theory. and i will escalate on girl B soon to test this out.

i haven't knocked out other competition though (i will never do that) but they are all outside of our social group. hinting that there are other girls outside will feed the hamster. i am not really worried about that.

i am more concerned about the potential active cock blocking from the dissed girl --- her influence might still prove to be too strong despite her elimination.

thoughts?

[mental]

If she starts actively cockblocking, accuse her of being immature and that you expected better from her, and you can also add that you liked her until she started behaving like a little girl.

[AneroidOcean]

(08-08-2013 10:22 PM)Diego Wrote:  

i received this message from a girl i dissed today. she likes me but im not really into her so i can act pretty cocky around her and criticize her a lot.

Others won't tell you this, but you're fucking up. You're spending energy on bringing a girl down who likes you. Why turn her into a cockblock? Just tell her you're not interested or better yet, just ignore her.

If they are friends at all and her actions end up cockblocking you, you basically cockblocked yourself.