Hey all,
I've been reading from these forums for a while and thought now is the time to make my first post.
I'd like to introduce myself a little and explain why im here:
So i'm 32 but i look no older than mid twenties, most people dont beleive me when i say how old i am. I was in a long haul relationship, over 8 years until a year ago and aside from two beautiful children it was a negative experience, very negative. She was a bitch, a liar, a control freak and a moody, obnoxious ass hole....she cheated and now is knocked up by some other guy. Im over her, totally indifferent...in fact i pity that sap she's with now.
Anyway, we split a year ago and i recently managed to get my life back on track, you know what i mean: i dropped the extra weight i gained while with her, grew my hair out a bit, bought new clothes, started to hit the gym etc and basically look like i did when i met her, better even.
I started a new job, made new friends, started seeing old friends again and all of a sudden life is good.
The crux of it all is this though and i mean this in no way as arrogant or big headed because im a humble guy but: I'm a good looking guy, i get told all the time, i get girls giving me the eye and checking me out all the time (since i sorted myself back out that is) which is great because i thought those days were gone, that age had taken it away but it wasnt age at all. I have a new confidence and glow and i want to take it to the next level!
However despite all these compliments and green lights from girls i struggle to close the deal, most of the women i've had in my life have done all the leg work, i hardly ever go after them unless they make it really easy for me and i want to change that.
I started clubbing again and im getting girls checking me out, good looking girls and im not doing anything about it, im getting green lights and im still stopped in neutral and im missing out on opportunities. So thats why im here to learn to be confident in all sitiuations and close these deals.
i find it hard in clubs though to talk to girls because the music is so loud, girls give me signals but i dont act on it all the time, girls come and dance near me, look at me then turn side on or back to me and dance and im not sure if thats a come on, an opportunity or just normal?
I get some that look at me alot, but then one did that and when i approached i got blown out, only for her to later on, on a different dance floor, start checking me out again
So i realise that theres much i need to learn to harness the benefits of decent looks and start really enjoying myself.
i hope you guys can help, cos if you do im sure to share my experiences and contribute.
In the mean time i have to ask, is there a glossary of terms here? I see abreviations all the time and dont know what they mean. I've picked up a fair few of them i think....dtf...down to fuck? but then im lost on ioi etc.
Anyway, i need to learn, i want to learn it all. I wasted enough years being a beta.
Thanks in advance and sorry for the long intro
I've been reading from these forums for a while and thought now is the time to make my first post.
I'd like to introduce myself a little and explain why im here:
So i'm 32 but i look no older than mid twenties, most people dont beleive me when i say how old i am. I was in a long haul relationship, over 8 years until a year ago and aside from two beautiful children it was a negative experience, very negative. She was a bitch, a liar, a control freak and a moody, obnoxious ass hole....she cheated and now is knocked up by some other guy. Im over her, totally indifferent...in fact i pity that sap she's with now.
Anyway, we split a year ago and i recently managed to get my life back on track, you know what i mean: i dropped the extra weight i gained while with her, grew my hair out a bit, bought new clothes, started to hit the gym etc and basically look like i did when i met her, better even.
I started a new job, made new friends, started seeing old friends again and all of a sudden life is good.
The crux of it all is this though and i mean this in no way as arrogant or big headed because im a humble guy but: I'm a good looking guy, i get told all the time, i get girls giving me the eye and checking me out all the time (since i sorted myself back out that is) which is great because i thought those days were gone, that age had taken it away but it wasnt age at all. I have a new confidence and glow and i want to take it to the next level!
However despite all these compliments and green lights from girls i struggle to close the deal, most of the women i've had in my life have done all the leg work, i hardly ever go after them unless they make it really easy for me and i want to change that.
I started clubbing again and im getting girls checking me out, good looking girls and im not doing anything about it, im getting green lights and im still stopped in neutral and im missing out on opportunities. So thats why im here to learn to be confident in all sitiuations and close these deals.
i find it hard in clubs though to talk to girls because the music is so loud, girls give me signals but i dont act on it all the time, girls come and dance near me, look at me then turn side on or back to me and dance and im not sure if thats a come on, an opportunity or just normal?
I get some that look at me alot, but then one did that and when i approached i got blown out, only for her to later on, on a different dance floor, start checking me out again
So i realise that theres much i need to learn to harness the benefits of decent looks and start really enjoying myself.
i hope you guys can help, cos if you do im sure to share my experiences and contribute.
In the mean time i have to ask, is there a glossary of terms here? I see abreviations all the time and dont know what they mean. I've picked up a fair few of them i think....dtf...down to fuck? but then im lost on ioi etc.
Anyway, i need to learn, i want to learn it all. I wasted enough years being a beta.
Thanks in advance and sorry for the long intro