[Teekay]

(08-04-2013 09:57 AM)Every10GivesMeA10 Wrote:  

I tried V last night. It worked well. I'm a little afraid to have sex without it now.

Not to worry. It does not cause physical addiction. I'd try it a couple of times with V, then when you feel confident try going without it *BUT* keep one handy just in case. Knowing you have a fallback should be enough.

You've gotta love science! Imagine what men had to go through not so long ago when this thing was not available.

[Every10GivesMeA10]

Ha, I accidentally took a 100mg dosage. I took it 24 hours ago and I think it's working until now.

[YaManBT]

As others have said:
1. Don't Watch Internet Porn (especially the "tube sites")
2. Eat Right
3. Exercise
4. Try not to Fap (if you feel you must, limit it to once a week, and still without porn)


I would also like to add that there are natural/herbal supplements which help with this. Yohimbe and Horny Goat Weed worked for me.

I went through the same problem as the OP a couple years ago when I was only 24. I was going through a dry spell in which I fapped and watched porn a lot. I managed to get a girl back to my place after a date, and could barely keep it up. I, also noticed that I would see hot girls on the street and have no desire in me. After researching my problem, I began to do the things on the above list AND take the herbal supplements. I was cured within two weeks easily. Even recently, I've started to take Yohimbe as a fat loss supplement, and that shit makes me super horny.

[mr_lucky]

ah yes, Gary Wilson's War.

if porn is not the culprit, there is the possibility that you were on adderall, ritalin, or huge amounts of caffeine (or some less legal caffeine-like substance) at the time that this incident occurred...

[DjembaDjemba]

She's not passing the boner test.

Maybe try a new girl who gets you hard? And viagara of course. But the big blue V is not a long term solution for a short term issue.

[titan22]

(08-04-2013 02:26 PM)DjembaDjemba Wrote:  

She's not passing the boner test.

Maybe try a new girl who gets you hard? And viagara of course. But the big blue V is not a long term solution for a short term issue.

If the problem does stem from watching too much porn if it a mental issue and not a physical issue. The blue V will only help for physical issues.

After finally moving to a new place, and pulling a chick this weekend, only to experience the same issues of not being able to perform or stay hard for more than a few seconds I'm looking at the no porn/no fap as an attempt to cure it. I'm also going to add some Zinc to my regiment as I'm probably not getting enough of it. Eveything I have found says that you will need more than 30 days, for many under the age of 30 it can take 90+ days, which scares the shit out of me, but I guess that's the result of rewiring my brain with daily porn and masturbation sessions for the last 12 years.

[DjembaDjemba]

(08-04-2013 08:37 PM)titan22 Wrote:  

(08-04-2013 02:26 PM)DjembaDjemba Wrote:  

She's not passing the boner test.

Maybe try a new girl who gets you hard? And viagara of course. But the big blue V is not a long term solution for a short term issue.

If the problem does stem from watching too much porn if it a mental issue and not a physical issue. The blue V will only help for physical issues.

After finally moving to a new place, and pulling a chick this weekend, only to experience the same issues of not being able to perform or stay hard for more than a few seconds I'm looking at the no porn/no fap as an attempt to cure it. I'm also going to add some Zinc to my regiment as I'm probably not getting enough of it. Eveything I have found says that you will need more than 30 days, for many under the age of 30 it can take 90+ days, which scares the shit out of me, but I guess that's the result of rewiring my brain with daily porn and masturbation sessions for the last 12 years.

Big blue also helps emotional/mental discomfort. It's strong enough that if if the wind changes direction; your dick will spring into life.

That's a short term solution. If you had an issue with good old john hiding when the titties come out, then a blue V will get him to show up on stage.
The more you think about it, the more nervous you get, the more it cowers away, it's a cycle.

The long term is work out, limit the fap to once or twice a week, etc etc.

[MidniteSpecial]

Have you tried zinc?

Or ginseng ?

[Ternarydemonite]

Just happened to me with an american girl. To be fair, we felt no real connection, and while I got a hard on at the beginning I lost it quickly since it was obvious that she was only pleasuring herself and couldn't care shit about me. It didn't helped that she was demanding and not sweet at all. It happens sometimes.

[Timoteo]

This sounds more physiological to me. Do you wake up with morning wood? If not, it could be because you're testosterone is low. Try taking a vitamin regimen (Zinc, B12, Vitamin E, Saw Palmetto, etc.). If you've enjoyed fucking this girl previously, and can't now, I'm having a hard time believing it's psychological or porn-related.

[Ziltoid]

Have you tried smoking weed before having sex?
I don't smoke often, but I always noticed that I could get crazy wood on command whenever I was high, even if I wasn't horny.

[MasoMenos]

I hooked up with this 18 year old at a party last night and for the life of me could not get it up. She wasn't a stunner but I was definitely into her. Granted I was a little drunk, but not nearly enough for that to be the sole reason. She was blowing me to get me up and all I could manage was to get halfway there.

It happens to me all the time and at this point, its completely in my head. When I see a sexy girl, I legitimately feel like I could not fuck her if I wanted to.

I'm 21, I shouldn't be having these problems. Very frustrating.

I'll start getting back on the Zinc/Supplments/ACV wagon and see if that helps. Cardio and weightlifting too

[rudebwoy]

@age 20 you should NEVER have this problem and I would say porn is the problem and you must abstain from it. At that age you should have a boner at a drop of a hat.
Sometimes I think nasty thoughts and that keeps it alive, if I am having trouble sustaining m boner.

Drugs like Cialis, Viagra etc should never be used. I am in my 40s I will not touch the stuff.

[testos111]

I had been having the same problems. And it really used to get me depressed in the morning next day. I did two things that helped me which many people have replied here too:

1. Not drink too much alcohol just before sex.
2. Increase the protein intake in my diet over all. This has helped me immensely as I find my erections really getting very stiff. I'm sure it's not just psychological.
3. Only wank when I feel excited (this is tough for me but working on it).
4. When the hard on doesn't happen, don't try crazily to make it happen. What I did last time was to just continue making out with the chic and stopped thinking about it too much. During this time make sure the condom is on so you won't be wasting any time when you eventually get erect.

[LeoneVolpe]

This truly happens to all of us at some point. You can't "will" yourself to have a boner, you just have to relax and let it happen. It's sort of like sleep in that way. The harder you try to fall asleep, the more elusive sleep seems to become. You have to surrender to sleep and it's the same with boners.

It isn't always a matter of a girl not passing the "boner test" either. Sometimes the girl you're with is really hot but on some level you still feel like you're "reaching" that she's "out of your league" and you self-sabotage. You care too much about being the best lay she's ever had, how you size up compared to other guys, how long you'll last, etc. As hard as it might be, you have to try to get all that shit out of your head. Alcohol can help ease anxiety to a point, but it can be difficult to gauge how much you should/shouldn't drink and obviously too much alcohol can impair your ability to get an erection.

The hard part is, we all know it's imperative to get in her pants as quickly as possible since she'll feel no investment in you if you don't. This time constraint is a definite but unavoidable source of stress.I find that "performance anxiety" tends to happen most when you're first hooking up with a girl, but lessens with each successive time you bed her. Especially, if you know you banged her well once, you'll have the confidence boost to do it again no problem. Nothing breeds success like success.

[puckerman]

The best way to improve circulation is to have a kambo cleanse. In fact, you should have quite a few of them, if you can find one near your area. Watch this video:

http://www.playboy.com/videos/frog-poison-cleanse

Interestingly enough, I'm shocked that nobody has suggested that you try fucking her ass. I find it easier to stay hard during fucking an ass than fucking a cunt. Go for the ass.

[kinnikinik]

[quote='puckerman' pid='1273348' dateline='1460282993']
The best way to improve circulation is to have a kambo cleanse. In fact, you should have quite a few of them, if you can find one near your area. Watch this video:

http://www.playboy.com/videos/frog-poison-cleanse

/quote]

Are you kidding with this? That's gotta be the dumbest thing I've heard of since Botox. They put a large enough dose of poison in their bodies to force them to purge, then call it spiritual. What the hell??? I suppose it MAY be the best thing since sliced bread, but, as Jules once said "Sewer rat might taste like pumpkin pie, but I'll never know 'cause I ain't gonna eat the filthy motherfucker".

If I really feel the need for a "cleanse" I'll take a multi-day fast or use some ipecac, a bucket and a high-colonic...

[RiskIt4Biscuit]

I did Kambo recently..
Two times in three days, one day off between.
5 small dots each time
That shit gets you sick mad quick.
Like food poisoning times ten
You vomit like crazy, and i purged out diarreah too
Not fun, but it sure cleans you out.

I can`t back it up as cleaning up your libido, nor circulation, but i will say you get a lot more sensitive to everything.. for example, one beer felt like four. I smoked half a joint and was laying in bed drooling.. ate almost the whole minibar
In retrospect i should have stayed off both beer and weed for a week, and i would add anything else that desentizeses you should be avoided as well.

And kinnikinik, i understand the skepticism but you don`t bring anything to the table with that post.

[kinnikinik]

(04-10-2016 07:34 PM)RiskIt4Biscuit Wrote:  

And kinnikinik, i understand the skepticism but you don`t bring anything to the table with that post.

Are you kidding me? How about simply skepticism?

I spent my time to watch the poster's video, I also read up on Kambo. After doing my research I found absolutely NO positive result that would justify ingesting poison, and that is exactly what I said.

So, if my time, energy and accumulated wisdom are "bringing nothing" then fine, disregard my opinion.

I actually was going to add another line on my original post: "OP please DON"T try this. There have been a lot of good, valuable posts in this thread about how to deal with ED but this one is just dangerous with no potential upside."

It seems you've already tried it, and SURPRISE, found out that it did, exactly what I hypothesized, nothing.

I KNOW that ED is upsetting, but trying bizarre treatments involving poisons due to desperation is dumb.

[churros]

Reading this thred made me realise my own problem, which the OP seemingly also shares.

This is not physiological. For some guys, girls taking control kills the boner.

I'm proposing a solution. Rather than get disoriented, fight fire with fire and start dominating. If the dick is limp, bend her over and slap that ass. That's what she's asking for.

I'll field test this one myself next time.

[RiskIt4Biscuit]

(04-10-2016 08:04 PM)kinnikinik Wrote:  

Are you kidding me? How about simply skepticism?

I spent my time to watch the poster's video, I also read up on Kambo. After doing my research I found absolutely NO positive result that would justify ingesting poison, and that is exactly what I said.

So, if my time, energy and accumulated wisdom are "bringing nothing" then fine, disregard my opinion.

I actually was going to add another line on my original post: "OP please DON"T try this. There have been a lot of good, valuable posts in this thread about how to deal with ED but this one is just dangerous with no potential upside."

It seems you've already tried it, and SURPRISE, found out that it did, exactly what I hypothesized, nothing.

I KNOW that ED is upsetting, but trying bizarre treatments involving poisons due to desperation is dumb.

You said nothing about that in your first post. You just stated your opinion, which seemingly was based on nothing.
If you did your research and disagree, that`s fair enough.

And i said it was too early to say anything about the relevant effects..
But there is actually something somewhat relevant i forgot to mention, the night after kambo i had my first wet dream, ever. At the age of 33. Even back when i was celibate for months (to fix porn-induced ED) i never had one.

It`s all good though, i`m not recommending it for anyone. It`s alternative as fuck and i had other reasons to do it.
And i agree there are other ways to deal with ED better suited for most people.

[kinnikinik]

(04-11-2016 09:28 PM)RiskIt4Biscuit Wrote:  

[quote='kinnikinik' pid='1273916' dateline='1460336687']

And i said it was too early to say anything about the relevant effects..
But there is actually something somewhat relevant i forgot to mention, the night after kambo i had my first wet dream, ever. At the age of 33. Even back when i was celibate for months (to fix porn-induced ED) i never had one.

THAT is interesting.. truly. What other changes had you made?

When you mentioned getting stoned in your response to my earlier post I got thinking about the effect that smoking used to have on me. I would become, for lack of better words, paranoid-ish and introspective... Questioning myself... very much "in my head" which I find nowadays almost always causes boner problems.

Just out of curiousity, do you get high a lot? are you high when trying to fuck?

I know some people swear by weed for sex. but it's definitely not a positive for me.

[Gas]

This isn't uncommon. I've had my episodes of it too, as have many others.

Often I think it's just the girl you're with. Sometimes they just don't get your dick excited. If it only happens now and then and not with every girl, I don't think it is anything to be worried about.

In any case, hitting the gym and quitting porn are 2 things that have certainly helped me.

[RiskIt4Biscuit]

(04-12-2016 02:28 AM)kinnikinik Wrote:  

THAT is interesting.. truly. What other changes had you made?

When you mentioned getting stoned in your response to my earlier post I got thinking about the effect that smoking used to have on me. I would become, for lack of better words, paranoid-ish and introspective... Questioning myself... very much "in my head" which I find nowadays almost always causes boner problems.

Just out of curiousity, do you get high a lot? are you high when trying to fuck?

I know some people swear by weed for sex. but it's definitely not a positive for me.

Not much.. just fasted a day and tried to meditate some.
For sure the kambo opened up a block of some sort for that to happen.

Yeah, i know what you mean. The weed is a double-edged sword.
I like high sex when i know that sex is already on the menu..
If i gotta work for it or it`s the first time with a girl i might get too analytical and "into my own head" and lose the presence of the moment.
It REALLY depends..

[Kid Twist]

(04-14-2016 06:55 AM)Gas Wrote:  

This isn't uncommon. I've had my episodes of it too, as have many others.

Often I think it's just the girl you're with. Sometimes they just don't get your dick excited. If it only happens now and then and not with every girl, I don't think it is anything to be worried about.

In any case, hitting the gym and quitting porn are 2 things that have certainly helped me.

I think there is someone to this. I've been with some hotties with whom I had drunk and had a version of whiskey dick, but it was also apprehension (too much to get into here) --- the attractiveness of the girl didn't really matter. Still, others, I probably drank similar amounts and while making out had a huge boner. It was like a mating instinct difference. These two I'm talking about it wasn't like I was doing much different, though I was a bit older for one.

The only thing that might be worrying me these days is how quickly I bust first, because as I get older (especially if I had a few drinks) I wonder if he'll get back up, or at least, how long that would take. Maybe the right answer is --- doesn't matter (and then it'll "work" out either way)