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She just wants to be validated (female solipsism)
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She just wants to be validated (female solipsism)

A friend just told me about a situation that has happened to him, and the same situation has happened to me as well. It has probably happened to you too if you've made the transformation from loser to player.

This friend (let's call him John) met a girl, a busty 8, last summer at a college program.

[SIDE NOTE: To all young players (under 18), you can meet a lot of really hot girls at summer programs. You sign up, go to a college, and take BS courses. If you are socially acclimated, you can befriend and fuck hot girls. This is where I met John and many other hot girls.]

In a way he is able to attract girls with his vibe, but he refused to make any moves knowing that this girl - Tracy - had a weird situation with her boyfriend. John attracted another, slightly less hot Alexa at the college program and chose her over the girl with the boyfriend.

January 2013: John and Tracy still talk although they live 3,000 miles away. She has a different boyfriend. He visits her. They makeout (she cheats on her current boyfriend with him), but no sex.

June 2013: Tracy drunk texts him. Things she texts him: "I wish you lived closer", "I know you're over me", "I would leave my boyfriend for you if you lived closer." She is saying how she hopes he visits soon. John said he wanted to lose his virginity to her.

The next day: Tracy: "Hi I'm so sorry about last night I was drunk and stupid and didn't realize what I was saying until I woke up and read it today...I just don't want to lose you as a friend."

This girl has complained to me about her boyfriend(s) being assholes, so of course, I told John to be one. I also told him the following:

"You have to realize she was saying those things to make herself feel better. Whenever she was feeling down, she knew you would be there to pick her up. She knew when her boyfriend was being an asshole that you still really liked her. Every time she said that you didn't like her anymore and you said 'No, I haven't made out with a girl in months', you weren't helping yourself, you were hurting your standing with her.

For all you know, there are 10 other guys like you in the same situation, constantly feeding Tracy's ego.

She doesn't need you. She needs your validation."

This post will probably be preaching to the choir as many reading this would never fall into the situation. But betas like John are constantly feeding the female ego, making sure they are never feeling down and always loved.

"I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."
~Michael Jordan
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She just wants to be validated (female solipsism)

I know what you mean. Its funny because sometimes even looking at a girl for a brief second is validation enough for them. It happens quite often and I think validation is the biggest challenge for me and maybe other guys. You can't give too much because then they got what they wanted and leave, but you also can't give too little(before the bang) or else they get angry or lose interest/ write you off. Ego is a real bitch when it comes to girls.
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She just wants to be validated (female solipsism)

Nothing in your story confirms that John is more beta than her boyfriend.

If he was a true beta orbiter, she wouldn't be saying shit like: "I wish you lived closer" and "I know you're over me". Frankly, that sounds like she's genuinely tempted to cheat on her bf with him.

Since she lives so far away, the only advice to give is to ignore this chick and stop wasting time.
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She just wants to be validated (female solipsism)

Quote: (07-04-2013 01:53 AM)Therapsid Wrote:  

Nothing in your story confirms that John is more beta than her boyfriend.

If he was a true beta orbiter, she wouldn't be saying shit like: "I wish you lived closer" and "I know you're over me". Frankly, that sounds like she's genuinely tempted to cheat on her bf with him.

Since she lives so far away, the only advice to give is to ignore this chick and stop wasting time.

This is precisely what I told him to do.

Here is what is beta: John constantly (up to this weekend) saying how much he misses her and how much he wants to see her while her boyfriend is fucking her. Also: John believing what the girl is saying and taking it at face value.

He's not a true beta orbiter in the sense that she actually does consider him a future fuck. The problem is that she is relentlessly leading him on while wanting to remain "friends" so that she can get the validation of her liking him.

"I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."
~Michael Jordan
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She just wants to be validated (female solipsism)

An attention whore my cousin follows on the twitter posted this message she got from a fag and he felt he should send it to me knowing how I'd react:

Kill. Them. All.

"What's the difference between us.
We can start at the penis.
Or scream I just don't give a fuck and see who really means it."
- Marshall Bruce Mathers III
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