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how far can one stretch the aloof and emotionally unavailable game?
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how far can one stretch the aloof and emotionally unavailable game?

in relation to today's blog post, is there a breaking point for the Aloof and indifferent game or
what is the breaking point before it becomes "neglect"...because if the guy is too aloof and distant, she can start to forget him as new men enter her life (given that a women is attractive)...perhaps the best way is to get in touch with her from time to time but to remain busy and elusive thus building up the anticipation.
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#2

how far can one stretch the aloof and emotionally unavailable game?

It usually directly depends on her maturity level and experience level.

It also depends on what else you are potentially offering her (game). Depending on what stage of life she's in, what you offer her could be anything from a caregiver role to being the bad-ass who validates her merely by your attention.

It also depends on whether or not her personality is stable.

Usually, the only factor that would be a plus, allowing you to game her this way, would be the rest of your game. Otherwise, she is likely either very young or a bit emotionally stunted. Fortunately for PUA's who just want to bang, there is no shortage of these girls on the market.

But be wary of this game. The second another guy jumps in to offer her more attention, with equivalent game, your out. Its funny when girls try to pull this game on me. Its all too obvious that they are interested and trying to game me with the methods learned whatever "how to be aloof" article she read in Cosmo. Nothing causes me to lose interest quicker.

A quality experienced woman will feel the same way if you try to game her like this. Most women over 22 want a real connection that takes actually speaking to her, on a consistent basis, to build. Think about it. No woman consciously or rationally wants to be ignored. Its almost always a function of a deep seeded psychological mechanism that usually isn't very healthy.

This excludes 'player' women that don't want to be attached to any guy.
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#3

how far can one stretch the aloof and emotionally unavailable game?

So why then all this dogma about being aloof, indifferent and not giving a shit?

cause I agree with you, though it definitely helps to be busy and slightly aloof, a lot of women can fall prey to other men due to the lack of attention she is receiving in her relationship. I think there should be a balance (I'm talking more about relationship game).
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#4

how far can one stretch the aloof and emotionally unavailable game?

"breaking point for the Aloof and indifferent game or
what is the breaking point before it becomes "neglect""

It is a razor's edge.

"So why then all this dogma about being aloof, indifferent and not giving a shit? "

It should be gas and clutch type stuff. And like most solid Game moves, it separates you from other cats.

You can't be 100% aloof. Here is a post I wrote that has an example where Aloof Game works: http://www.thegmanifesto.com/2010/05/nig...elona.html
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#5

how far can one stretch the aloof and emotionally unavailable game?

I agree with G about the razors edge. I didn't mean to say that you should be the complete opposite of aloof, which would be too eager or needy.

Generally, you want to be chased by her. If you get the feeling that she isn't chasing at all, your either too aloof or too eager. If you get the feeling that you are doing the chasing, then you are too eager. You do it enough to maintain intense attraction, but not too much to where she is turned off or bored. This will be different for every girl. You have to feel her out. The better your game, the more aloofness she will tolerate.

It helps if your feelings are real, either way. Usually 'fake' aloof game where you actually are consciously calibrating the amount of attention that you give her, gets miscalculated. The best way to have the balance between game and aloofness is to get to the point where you actually don't care either way. All aloofness or attention is natural. Its just what you want to do. Its hard to mess up this way. usually, at that point and when your game is good, you can do no wrong. To get there, you need to have a few girls in rotation.

However, a player who has his direct game down can continuously chase without coming off as too needy or eager. Aloofness isn't even needed. It all has to do with how you respond to her reactions to you. If she controls your emotions with her responses, then you aren't ready for the direct game.
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#6

how far can one stretch the aloof and emotionally unavailable game?

Aloofness is key during the pickup. You can't appear too overzealous or you'll get considered desperate, which as we know is not what you want to happen.

I would say the point at which you can stop being aloof is when you've already kissed her with tongue, she's giving you those eyes and you know that the path to the bedroom is not strewn with debris.

Vulnerability game serves a different function. Where aloofness helps get the girl, vulnerability keeps her. Alpha game is money and key, but there is such a thing as overdoing it. This is when you throw out the odd vulnerability nugget to retain your moxy.

I'd say you shouldn't be vulnerable with most girls until after sex, but during the pickup its a good way to show contrast; as men, sometimes we appear too hard in front of the softer sex, its the nature of the beast. Suppose you're dressed sharp, falsely modest and leveling everything in your path, but for some reason the girl is not totally going for the kiss or number close. This is where you be slightly vulnerable.

As has been said though, don't overdo either. There's no need to be aloof when you're getting regular sex, just like there's no need to be vulnerable when the girl is deep into you.
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#7

how far can one stretch the aloof and emotionally unavailable game?

until your in a relationship wit her
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#8

how far can one stretch the aloof and emotionally unavailable game?

Try it and find out.
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#9

how far can one stretch the aloof and emotionally unavailable game?

Quote: (08-12-2010 01:25 AM)metalhaze Wrote:  

in relation to today's blog post, is there a breaking point for the Aloof and indifferent game or
what is the breaking point before it becomes "neglect"...because if the guy is too aloof and distant, she can start to forget him as new men enter her life (given that a women is attractive)...perhaps the best way is to get in touch with her from time to time but to remain busy and elusive thus building up the anticipation.

I don't know if this board is for guys chasing american women or foreign women...but the two are very different animals.

All this game stuff is for american women....it just isn't that necessary in Colombia where your preceived value is just so much more right from the start.

I hold my cards close to my chest until I get into a situation where I can score and then I'm all over the shit. Once you kiss her she knows you want to fuck so what's the point in pretending that you aren't all that into her. jajaja!!!
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