[the virgin chronicles]

disclaimer: I know this is the RooshV forum and that I'm supposed to find other girls and keep sarging.
I have been. now read on

Met girl through daygame. Got an instant date. The next time I saw her we hooked up/were naked in my bed. Couldn't get it up, dealing with sexual anxiety. Was honest with her about it, she seemed cool with it and wanted to see me again.

I saw her two more times after that. Both times almost had sex, still dealing with sexual anxiety, gave oral sex. The virgin chronicles, etc

The day after the 3rd date I showed some neediness, started chode texting a little bit. Pushed too hard for a meetup, she makes up some lie about being in the hospital for a while, slowly goes cold over text.

I wait 5 days, shoot off a random text, no response. That was a week ago.

The girl was cool/funny enough that I still want to give it a shot. I feel like I should sarge for a month and send her something to try and restart it. If she doesn't bite, I swear I'll move on.

Anyone have any ideas?

[Estetica]

If the restart text didn't get a bite I'm afraid you're out of it (barring a "chance" encounter at a bar or something). You seem to be aware that she's no longer interested, any further action will just put you further in the red.

[JoyStick]

in these situations you should ask yourself what would Houston do, and then proceed to send her a picture of your penis.

[Veloce]

If she didn't respond to your 5 day restart text, try one at 2 months that just says "What's up". No question mark.

If you're having sexual anxiety, she should be the one giving oral sex. Not you. I'd lie if I said I've never been there, but it's usually due to alcohol. It's a true test of courage to maintain a dominant and alpha frame even if your dick can't get hard, so lay back and tell her you want her to suck you off.

Sounds like you already know what you did wrong. Don't beat yourself up over it, just don't do it again and move on.

[JoyStick]

seriously though. she wanted the dick and you didn't give it to her fast enough which probably made her lose attraction for you. so now she's banging some other dude. moving on is probably your best option.

[Days of Broken Arrows]

Dunno how old you are, but if you're under 30, your priority should be correcting the anxiety issue that's causing your dysfunction and not this girl. I have anxiety issues too, but horniness usually puts the anxiety at bay. These issues get worse, not better, with time, so you may want to see a doc very soon. Also, if your horniness is not overriding your anxiety, there may be a physical issue involved as well.

As for the woman, that's easy. Lie. She was in the hospital, so you can counter that by saying you were too, for kidney stones (or something) that caused your problem. This covers you and gives you both common ground. BUT...you need to correct this problem first. Women take this personally...very personally (which may be why she's cooled on you). I've had female friends call me in tears when men can't get it up "Is it me?... sob sob...Am I hideous?"

Hey, I just thought of something! If the guys of RVF really want to keep the massive egos of American women in check, then erectile dysfunction on a massive scale is the answer. If no one can get it up, you'll have a society of neurotic women...with incentive to keep in shape also.

[Gmac]

(05-11-2013 11:36 PM)JoyStick Wrote:  

seriously though. she wanted the dick and you didn't give it to her fast enough which probably made her lose attraction for you. so now she's banging some other dude. moving on is probably your best option.

This. ^

I've rarely had sexual anxiety issues but it usually stemmed from being too drunk... or the chick was just not that attractive to me. Head works 99% of the time, but if not, tell her you need to piss (aka get your shit together) and get yourself hard in the bathroom.

That said, move on. This chick already has.

[Spider]

Focus on other girls. If you want to send a restart text wait a month or 2, but don't expect a response.

TVC, I also suffer occasionally from what you mention. I have had a couple girls that I've felt a little uncomfortable with at first. Eventually I am able to get consistent erections and fuck them multiple times, but I have had instances where the first few times I'm with that specific girl, I've had issues maintaining my hard-on.

It's all in our head...sometimes I wish I could just pop a low dose of Cialis until I've banged the girl a few times and my anxiety is no longer an issue...You really just need to keep getting girls back to your place...until you reach the point where you are used to strangers (or girls you don't know well) laying naked in your bed.

[polymath]

Chill out, improve yourself, try again later.

There's nothing wrong with being persistent to get what you want. Persistence is one of the most noble characteristics a man can exhibit.

But you might want to work on neutralizing the source of your anxiety first.

[BarkChompson]

(05-11-2013 11:13 PM)the virgin chronicles Wrote:  

disclaimer: I know this is the RooshV forum and that I'm supposed to find other girls and keep sarging.
I have been. now read on

We all get beta sometimes dude it happens. Just keep swimming.

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The girl was cool/funny enough that I still want to give it a shot. I feel like I should sarge for a month and send her something to try and restart it. If she doesn't bite, I swear I'll move on.

That attitude will never get you laid. She was only cool/funny because you were feeling cool/funny. When you felt awkward, she felt awkward. Let it lie a couple months and restart.